I need to get away from my 9 month old

[Rythmisachancer]

It became obvious that DC2 was emotionally v high needs from early on. DC1 is more laid back and enjoys spending time with grand-parents and husband, so I promised myself no guilt for dedicating most of my time to DC2 for the first 6 months as I knew DC1 would be fine.

9 months on and I've had enough.

DC2 behaves like a newborn. After ruling out any health issues, it is clear he just has a very highly strung personality. I still can't put him down. He wont go in a bouncy chair, a jumperoo- nothing. He's already cruising around the furniture so when I let him on the loose, he's in to everything and falling and hurting himself. If I do try to contain him in a chair so I can get something done, he screams this horrible angry cry that drives me to rage and tears. I can't even leave him in his highchair for 5 minutes whilst I clear up after lunch without this intense, horrible screaming.

I have started KIT days at work and he has begun going to nursery for short periods, but they too find him v difficult as he wants constant attention. I worry they won't cipe with him or he'll be left to cry on his own for long periods.

DC1 had been so wonderfully understanding but I'm really missing her now and want to play games/ read with her after school rather than sitting her infront if the tv whilst I hold DC2/ entertain and try to cook. She will play with DC2, but he only seems to want me and will scream pulling at my legs when I'm trying to cook. DC1 will be trying to get his attention but he's not interested.

I can't do a thing during the day. He won't nap in his cot either.

I'm getting to a point where I have to leave the room when he's screaming at times and just lie down and cover my ears for a few minutes for some space. Sometimes, I even get angry myself and will throw something at the wall. He is much better when we are out, but we have both been ill in the last 3 weeks and haven't been able to go anywhere or see many friends.

I really want to spend more time with DC1 now, I've had enough. I also want some space in the day whilst DC2 naps.

He is breastfed and I can't Express much milk to take a break either.

Help?

Thanks everyone.
I think perhaps the breastfeeding may have played a part in making him clingier on the whole; I dont see how it can't really. But I wouldn't say that it is a negative thing either. He only feeds 3x a day now (morning, afternoon, evening) so it's
not like he wants milk. He's quite happy with solids when it comes to food.

I'm not prepared to stop breastfeeding as it's actually one of the few things I'm enjoying about being a Mum to a high needs baby at present. It took a lot of hard work to establish it so I am not prepared to give it up and will explore other methods of keeping myself sane instead.

Privilege response I know

Would it be in anyway practical to leave expressed milk in the fridge, book yourself into a spa hotel for an evening and have a night away to read/recoup and a bit of a pamper?