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First Mother’s Day

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Pickles31 · 31/03/2019 05:53

It’s my first mother’s Day as a mum ( my mum passed away 7 years ago now) and I know this sounds silly but would u be annoyed if your husband bought u card from ur son but then also got a card from my son to his grandma saying happy mother’s day grandma on it? I don’t know why but I feel annoyed about it as it’s my first Mother’s Day and already I feel like I’m sharing it, I find it hard anyway without my mum and I don’t want to get into a thing where every mother’s day she is expecting something not only from her son but also her grandson. Or am I being silly and is it cute? I can tell hubby got the card cos he thought was cute even tho it’s annoyed me. I’m not sure what to do, do I be honest with hubby and say I don’t want to give her a card from my son or do I just let it go and let him give her this card?

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cloudymelonade · 31/03/2019 06:03

There's another thread atm about grandmothers and Mother's Day. It's pretty normal for GMs to be celebrated too, I've always bought something for mine and so has my DH for his.

Nowthenforever2019 · 31/03/2019 06:12

No, not annoyed in the slightest. Give your head a wobble.

Pinklittle · 31/03/2019 07:06

I would be annoyed OP, my first Mother's Day today too and we made the decision that grandparents will not be getting a card on this day or Father's Day from our little girl as they get one from us their actual children. Happy First Mother's Day xx

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Hihohihoitsofftoworkwego · 31/03/2019 07:11

‘Give your head a wobble’ 🙄. I’m with you OP. Personally I think it’s a little odd and no one I know in real life gives cards to the grandmother.

SnowsInWater · 31/03/2019 07:16

So you begrudge your MIL getting a card because it should just be about YOU - nice.

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Pickles31 · 31/03/2019 07:17

Thanks @pinklittle @highhohighhoitsofftoworkwego I don’t think it’s normal either, I kept worrying I was being silly feeling annoyed about it but I will speak to hubby today n say how I feel. Happy mother’s days to u too :)

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IWouldLikeToKnow · 31/03/2019 07:19

Well my mum and my husband's mum are both getting a card and small gift today. I don't see a problem with what your husband has done in any way.

SallyWD · 31/03/2019 07:24

I don't understand why you'd have a problem with thus. We've always got cards for grandmothers on Mother's day too. It just shows you love and appreciate them. I have never felt for one moment that it takes something away from my own mother's day experience...

Mirardosa · 31/03/2019 07:25

I've always gotten my Nan a card for Mother's Day as well as my mum. Next year will be my first Mother's Day and I'll get a card for my mum from my DD too. But in your circumstances considering you lost your mum, I can see why you'd want the day to yourself, it must be difficult enough for you OP. X

HalyardHitch · 31/03/2019 07:25

I give my nan a card and make sure I call her to wish her happy mother's day. It makes her so happy - sometimes it's nice to make someone else feel happy

Mog6840 · 31/03/2019 07:27

I know that grandmothers are also celebrated and it's common for them to be given cards/gifts etc but it's not something we do as a family.
I get my mum something m, as does my DH for his mum but not from my DS. I think if it's something that bothers you just have a little chat about how you feel about it and I'm sure he will understand. Then you are on the same page about it going forward and it won't happen every year!

Pocket0219 · 31/03/2019 07:27

Its my first Mother's Day too and I would be annoyed by that. It's MOTHERS day....Grandma isn't a mother to your son, you are.

I was expecting a little lie in for my first Mother's Day but hasn't happened, so feeling a little disappointed Sad

SammySamSam09 · 31/03/2019 07:30

Well if its weird and not normal then way are the shops full of cards & gifts saying happy mothers day Nanny?

Pocket0219 · 31/03/2019 07:33

There are cards for every occasion nowadays, doesn't mean you have to agree with it.

Iggly · 31/03/2019 07:35

Well if its weird and not normal then way are the shops full of cards & gifts saying happy mothers day Nanny?

To make you spend money.

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Pickles31 · 31/03/2019 07:37

I think it just feels a bit alien to me as both my grandmas passed away before I was born so I’ve never bought a card for a grandma on this day ever, yes I do find it difficultwithout my mum on this day so I just wanted part of it to myself, the in-laws r coming over for dinner today too so it’s not like we leave out my husbands mother at all, they know we appreciate and love them and her their granddaughters don’t get cards for her etc so I just didn’t want to get into doing that for the grandparents when hubby already gets present and card etc for his mum from him

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PotteringAlong · 31/03/2019 07:38

I’d be annoyed. We don’t give my mum or MIL cards from the children on mother’s Day. The clue’s in the name. She’s not their mother.

PlugUgly1980 · 31/03/2019 07:39

It's just about starting family traditions. It's nice he thought about his mum and her being a nana. Equally if you do it once it's likely to be expected every year...fine if he's happy to do it.

In our house we had a chat about it before the day arrived and agreed we wouldn't buy grandparents mothers/Father's Day cards, as we buy them from us as adult children.

Nothing wrong either way. I personally find all the grandparents cards another step towards increasing commercialism of every 'day'.

SammySamSam09 · 31/03/2019 07:42

pocket That is true you don't but I'm guessing a hell of a lot of people do otherwise they wouldnt waste money on producing these cards.

sighrollseyes · 31/03/2019 07:42

We get grandma's a card on Mother's Day from kids. Same for grandads on Father's Day. They cost about 59p in card factory but just shows a little bit of love - nothing wrong with that. But also nothing wrong if you don't agree with it. Before kids were big enough to scribble in a card We used to just write a Mother's Day card from all of us.

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Pickles31 · 31/03/2019 07:43

@pocket0219 thank u happy first mother’s day to u too, oh dear I’m sure you”ll get a little snooze later to make up. Yes I agree with u, there never use to be Grandma mother’s day cards, it is nice people buy cards for their grandmas but like u say it’s mother’s Day and I feel like I have a right to be a bit “all about me” today especially for my first mother’s Day

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Pickles31 · 31/03/2019 07:45

@plugugly1980 yes I agree

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FrozenMargarita17 · 31/03/2019 07:45

I buy nanny cards for my dd to write in. It won't be forever I don't think but it's sweet while they're little

WhiteDust · 31/03/2019 07:46

Your DH should have bought a MOTHER'S Day card his Mum FROM HIMSELF.

It's not Grandmother's day FGS.

WhiteDust · 31/03/2019 07:47

FOR his Mum