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Heart broken my family are not bothered....

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SMDLCKCC1 · 29/03/2019 16:00

When I found out I was pregnant everyone was so excited and I was genuinely looking forward to spending time with my family and all bonding once DS was born.

I had the usual endless visitors in the first week or so after DS was born and then nothing.

DH is amazing but my only support. My family say they care but just actually don't bother too much, they will pop over every so often but actually don't help or really pay DS much attention . IL live close but we have had nothing from them either.

DH is great when here but he obviously works a lot, I get out and see friends and go to different groups and classes so all good there, I love my DS to pieces, the best thing that has happened to me, I guess I am just sad that no one seems to care, after all the excitement at bring pregnant and the birth, everyone has just left me to it, i get they have there own lives and he is my baby, but most of all I am utterly heartbroken for my DS as I thought he would have a big extended family who would dote on him and in actual fact he never sees them.

Am I being unreasonable or does anyone else feel like this....?

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PerfectPeony2 · 30/03/2019 22:32

Gosh I think some of the replies on this thread are ridiculous! I just don’t understand it at all.

Of course you should absolutely be upset that your parents aren’t making an effort. Your baby deserve to have grandparents who want to spend time with him!

I’d be pretty annoyed in your situation. I guess your options are to stop bothering with them- they are not worth your time if they are not prepared to make the effort. Babies are only babies for a short time and they will be missing out. Or you can keep inviting them over and see what happens.

My Mum is the same and doesn’t bother. My daughter is so special, as are all children (and I don’t care what anyone on here says) she deserves grandparents who want to spend time with her and play with her. So not I just don’t bother with her- after all she is the one missing out! I know that if my daughter has a baby one day I will be there whenever I can to help and support her as it is such a hard time.

Good luck OP! I hope it gets better for you.

mollyblack · 30/03/2019 22:53

Agree that viewpoints on here dont seem to reflect my reality. Most of my friends with kids have at least one parent who cares about them enough to keep in fairly regular contact, offer to help out here and there- pop in for a coffee, offer to watch the baby for an hour or get some shopping, you know- just be generally supportive. It is possible to be interested in your adult childs life without committing to full time childcare Confused

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