Is this enough for 10yo birthday?

[cricketmum84]

My DD turns 10 on Saturday. She only had 3 things on her birthday list which we have managed to buy. We've got her

iPhone 6 - bought 2nd hand for £110
Punch bag
Boxing gloves
1kg bar chocolate
Glow in the dark unicorn bedding
Unicorn light box
Glam make up bag

It feels really stingy compared to previous years but she has loads of bath bombs etc left over from Christmas and I don't want to buy any more chocolate/sweets!

Does this sound stingy?

Is this a joke/stealth boast?

Yeah really stingy

Not a stealth boat at all!!!!

I usually get her lots of cheap little bits too open on the day but she has lots of those type of thing already. Apart from the phone everything I have bought has been less than a tenner.

*boast not boat obv. Damn phone!

I think that sounds great. I certainly wouldn't be spending any more money on other 'bits'.
I worry as my two get older their presents look less generous but that's just because things like phones cost more.

I'd add a phone cover too

@BlueMerchant yes I think that's the issue. When they age younger they seem to have loads of stuff to open compared to 10+ when they are wanting devices etc that take up a good 90% of the budget!!

Got a really nice cover included with the phone so that's sorted :)

Sounds lovely and definitely enough OP. She's a lucky DD.

There are no rules or thresholds for how you should indulge your children on their birthday.

This is a really odd post! Who do you think is judging you?!

Not stingy.
No 10yo needs an iphone6, so anything else should be considered a bonus.
Please make sure you put strong parental controls on the phone. A 10yo should not have open access to the internet, nor access to social media.

Dd just got a phone for her 10th birthday. That’s more than enough, I’m sure she’ll be ecstatic with the phone though and forget everything else!

I am always a bit baffled by these threads. Have you bought your DD presents which you think she will be delighted with? If so then job done, I am not sure why you have to spend a certain amount. Seems bonkers to me.

Iphone6! Lol, that's nuts. Just the chocolate and the boxing stiff would be plenty.

Stuff obviously!

Im not sure what you want from this apart from I wouldnt have bought a ten year old an iphone 6, second hand or not.

Can you afford what you've got, will she like it? Why so competitive?

Maybe it is a bit bonkers. We've been through a lot as a family recently and I suppose I just want her to feel extra special for the day. I know deep down that your worth isn't based on how much people spend on you but she has had a really really tough few months. We aren't doing a party due to what's happening at home so I think I just want to make her feel good about herself!

I can understand why you might want to try to make the birthday extra special in those circumstances but I don't think 'buying x amount of things will make her feel better about herself than y amount of things' is the way forward. Could you do some more personal stuff which isn't 'things' eg vouchers for mum and daughter DVD night or baking session or something?

Ps I hope that didn't sound critical - you sound like you're doing your best in difficult circumstances. I just meant in case you felt you wanted to do more - it might well be that you already do plenty of that sort of thing and what you have already got is more than enough.

I always buy my DD's things they need anyway like underwear, pj's (summer ones maybe) new brush, hair stuff, socks etc to ensure they have a few parcels, their wish list was limited to £100 max until recently (they are adults now) and now it's needed things only if over £100 eg laptop for university.

My Ds birthday on sat and I feel similar - had a rubbish time at home lately and I want it to be special. Could you maybe get a balloon and decorate the living room or something so it doesn’t cost much but she feels special that way?

For what it’s worth - I think the presents sound fab too. I hope she has a lovely day

My DD is 10 soon and she's getting a new bike and helmet and that will be it. No need for a phone here she's never in one place long enough to look at it and would probably just lose it out her pocket when she's out playing 🙈

@Catscratchclub that's a lovely idea :) we could pick up some balloons and banners to surprise her :)

I think it’s an amazingly generous amount of presents OP (mine get much less than that!) - I’m sure she’ll love them.

Agree with pp that it’s the little things which make a child feel special on their birthday anyway, more than presents. Things like making them a really lovely breakfast - maybe something they don’t normally have (mine would chose pancakes with chocolate spread..), or a homemade birthday cake, balloons etc
Hope she has a lovely day!

That sounds ideal cricketmum I understand what you mean, until now, a trip to TIGER and some nice clothes/chocolates equals big pile of pressies.

This year she wanted a modest ipad which also covers her main hobby. Budget gone. So I have got her literally nothing else and it feels weird.

Where did you get the punch bag and gloves from please? DD would absolutely adore that and would be a very unusual/unexpected extra thing for the day. (She's not able to have a party as bday over Easter) so I would like to get something to 'open'

Your presents sound lovely, generous and most of all thoughtful.