All I want is for my children to be happy and to grow up to be decent, kind human beings. I know I am incredibly lucky to have happy, healthy children.
But I find myself constantly disappointed that they are never the ‘best’ at anything even though deep down I know it isn’t important. I am very careful not to show my disappointment and to praise their effort so they really enjoy taking part in things that they actually aren’t any good at. But how do i change this way of thinking?
My children are in primary school so the things I am talking about (reading competition, athletics match, nativity play etc) really do not matter but I’m worried this attitude will get worse as they get older and things do start to matter more.
I guess I am a bit of a perfectionist. Things came easily to me at school because I am really old for my year, the youngest of three kids and I had extremely supportive parents. So I find it hard to go from high achieving to average.
I can’t talk about this with anyone in real life because I just sound like a horribly entitled, comepetive mum. I don’t need to be told this, I just need advice on how to change please.
Thank you