What age gap do you have between your dc and do they play together?

[CailleachBheurh]

Just that really

18 months between DS1 and 2, they play together really well, say they are best friends and are part of a ninja team. 2 years 3 months between DS2 and 3 and they fight like cat and dog. 23 months between DS3 and 4 and DS4 is too little to play but DS3 really likes him. I think a lot of it is personality more than age gap.

2 years 3 months gap. Youngest is nearly 4 months old so time will tell but so far they get on fantastically. My dd dates on her brother and sings to him/ entertains him. It's obvious that he wants to play and get involved in what she's doing... so we're getting early positive glimpses 🤞🤞
A newborn and a toddler is ~really~ hard work but I'm hoping worth it!

*dd DOTES

Just to add to this from a different perspective, I have two younger sisters, with 3 years between each. I fought with my middle sister horribly from when she was about 6/7 (so I was 9/10) until I hit about 13. After that we got on great. Unfortunately at that time the exact same thing happened with my middle/younger sister so she got it from both sides. I always got on with my youngest sister (6 year gap) I think because she was so much younger there was no rivalry. We are now in our twenties and are absolute best friends, couldn't imagine life without either of them. It's been that way since my youngest sister was about 14. Kids fight, but a sibling relationship is lifelong

I wanted a two year age gap, for similar reasons, but struggled to conceive so I have a four year age gap. At 2 and 6 they adore each other. The 6 year old declares the 2 year old his best friend. It’s lovely.

Due to aforementioned conception issues I was a little lax. Now they both clamour to play with their baby sister too...

2 years 10 months and they play together really well.

Having said this there was 2.5 years between me and my big sis and we didn't play together that much so not purely age gap dependent

3yr gap. Two boys. Love playing with each other and are best friends.

They're 8 and 6 and yes, they do. My fave thing is lying in bed and listening to them make breakfast together on Saturday mornings

I don't have kids yet but planning to, on here mainly for my nieces. They are 4 months apart and play together (sort of) already, aged 17 and 13 months. Looking forward to seeing them grow up and be like sisters.

I was 18 months older than my sisters (who are twins) and we grew up doing everything together, roaming the neighbourhood having adventures etc. When I have kids I'll be aiming for as small a gap as possible. One sister wants to wait until her daughter is school-age before having another which I think is kind of sad. It took her like 5 years to conceive this one so what if it takes the same or longer time? Her daughter could be near high school age before she has a sibling for her :(

DD(12), DD(9) and DS(6). DD(9) and her little brother are the best of friends. We call them the twins. Always together playing and they even walk around holding hands etc. DS is also the apple of DD(12)'s eye.
They all get on so well that we have had to buy them all double beds because they so often sleep together. Eldest has even been known to go get her little sister out of her own bed so they can snuggle up.

I have 2.5 years but my youngest is only 5 months so difficult to say how they'll play together yet . My oldest does really love his little brother though, we don't get too much jealousy! I wanted to say though as you were worried about bigger gaps that me and my brother are 5.5 years apart. We get on well now, though did fight a bit when younger. DM says though that the big gap meant I was pretty helpful when DB came along, and wasn't really jealous as such - just excited to finally have a sibling . Whereas I've ended up potty training a strong willed toddler with a newborn, and he's not old enough to be really helpful yet....so pros and cons!

24 months, 24 months, 18 month Boy, Boy, Girl, Girl.

They always played together. They would fight too but mostly got on really well. They are adults now and they still meet up every week or so to hang out and play board games and computer games. They seem to genuinely enjoy each other's company.

I didn't over schedule them as kids and I sometimes wonder if they made them learn to play together better. A lot of there friends seemed to be constantly whizzed from activity to activity.

18 months between my 2 boys and when they were little they were great friends. However once they reached secondary age they drifted apart and now they are both in their 20's they and are not close at all. It makes me sad.

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18 months between my 2 boys and when they were little they were great friends. However once they reached secondary age they drifted apart and now they are both in their 20's they and are not close at all. It makes me sad.
Mine was the exact opposite! The number of fights that I broke up and little dogs to each other drove me insane.
It's nice when they plan stuff together and have the same circle of mates ( to a degree)
Maybe yours will come close again. Would gentle encouragement help? " hey ehy not see if your brother wants to go out for a pint ( or something)

In my family growing up, there was a boy, 21 months, girl, 3 years (miscarriage), girl (me), 3 years, girl.

My older brother and sister were super close growing up, but I was quite close to them as well. My little sister would often play by herself when she was younger. My older sister and I fought like cats & dogs for about 5 years, then my little sister and I fought for about 5 years, and for the past 5 years my older sister and little sister don't get on (as adults). My brother is 8 years older than my little sister and they have always been SUPER close.

I think the 3 year gap is nice, because then you're never trying to potty train while another is in diapers...but at the end of the day, relationships has so much more to do with personalities and engagement rather than age, I think. Age is always an excuse to not be close to siblings, but it's just a matter of how well you get on.

2.5 years (2&4 now) they play lovely together

5 yrs almost to the day - nearly 11 yr old daughter and nearly 6yr old son! They are pretty good and spend time with each but not necessarily playing. The eldest will help her brother with reading, violin practice but also be equally iterated by him and vice versa. I think they get on differently at different ages and stages of their lives! All in all though they are pretty good together.

5 years. They play nicely together in spurts. They are 7 and 2. 7 reads to 2. 2 adores his big brother. They play football and cricket together, go to the park and play together. We make sure 7 gets his own space and attention but it was a briliant age gap. And they are very much siblings (united against the mean parents who enforce rules, make them eat veggies and tidy up!) not two only children growing up side by side.

20 months between my dd and ds. It helps they are into different toys so no problem there. Ds likes typical 'boys' toys - super hero, cars, trucks and dinosaurs. DD likes the girly toys - my little ponies, dolls etc. It just so happens they like these things, they always had the opportunity to play with either. So when they want to play together...they play very nicely....but also can happily play separate. Usually when they play together its playing house (my ds has a boy doll I bought for him, which he plays w on rare occasion they play house together lol). Or they play camping, animal hospital, treasure hunt etc.

IMHO it depends on the DCs not on the age gap.
Like the assumption that a DD will want to go shopping with DMum and be her best friend.

I like reading about the small age gaps. I have an 18 month gap between my 2 boys. They are only 21 months and 12 weeks so I have no idea how they will get on yet. It’s hard work right now but hopefully will be worth it in the long run if they are close growing up. So far there has been no jealousy and my eldest loves his little brother. He’s constantly stroking his hair, giving him hugs and kisses. He never kisses anyone, only his brother!

don't worry op.we had a 2,4 and 6 and all got on (and not!) at different point but as littlies they adored eacohter and the bigger gap one meants she could be younger still but then be the protective one too!

2.5 years they are nearly 6 and 3.5 and yes they play together, they probably play for up to an hour together before they disagree or get bored of each other.

About 14 years. One is at school in the UK and the other is working in Sydney, Australia, so no.

2.5 years. They play together well, and they clash well too! On the whole they get on though.