Anyone who actually enjoyed the first few months with a newborn?

[Marghe87]

I am just hoping to hear some good stuff from women who actually enjoyed the first few months of motherhood.

I read a lot about all the hard bits: breastfeeding, sleepless nights, colic, teething, being tired and feeling lonely etc etc… But I am sure that the goods somehow overcome the bads (I think?! Otherwise I don't understand why people would have more than 1 !). So have the first few months of motherhood been good for any of you? Or is it just tiredness and desperation one has to expect? :)

Erm, my tiny baby has just shat himself on my lap, I changed him 3 minutes ago and he's asleep for the first time in what seems like days.
My tea is on the wrong side for me to reach it and I have blood all down my front from a cord related incident this morning.
Enjoying it would be pushing it but I could be more miserable; eg. If I was on fire.

Depends on the baby but there generally it's a mixture. I found early days hard basically because I was so tired. (I could cope with the rest of it fine). However that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy any of it. For example I remember lying in the park next to DD looking at the blossom and thinking, 'yes I'm tired but this sure beats work!' Personally I enjoy toddler hood more than the baby stage but others feel differently.

I adored the newborn days. Properly adored them. I've got 2 DCs whose fsther was an abusive, useless layabout so I essentially did it alone and I can't remember a time I ever felt more content, particularly with my eldest. I was 19 years old, and she gave me a purpose I didn't know i was missing. Yes she woke in the night and she had colic, I got infective mastitis and needed surgery which was shit and meant the end of breastfeeding, but at the end of the day I had brought a tiny little human into the world, and how could any of the bad shit outweigh that?
DS was harder, he was a poorly little thing and I had terrible post natal depression but I will still say the newborn days are the best. Treasure them, because they are gone in a flash.

I'm an oddball, I loved the baby stage and think it's all down hill from crawling. Previously worked as a carer so I think it gave me a head start in being in a one sided relationship.

I loved it - I think because people build it up to be so bad I was pleasantly surprised. It was tiring but I was amazed by this new tiny thing that had come out of my body which seems so bizarre! There were times when I would have liked to have a shower without a screaming angry baby on the floor but generally it was a lovely time. Especially the first two weeks when my husband was off with us and we literally focussed all our energy on our beautiful new baby.

I do think there are things you can do to make it easier which maybe was why we didn’t find it so horrible as people say? We have very good friends at a nearby church who organised meals for us every day for the first two weeks and I had also batch cooked our favourites so we probably didn’t need to shop for about a month! Also don’t put pressure on yourself to be out and about at baby groups, you can just go when you are ready. But on the other hand you do need adult interactions so I would try to get out even if it’s just for a walk!

I really hope you do enjoy the first few months, it’s so special because it’s your first baby and you will never have a first one again!

I loved them. Especially with the first, when we'd sit in the rocking chair when she had a feed and she'd fall asleep snuggled up on my chest and all I had to do was sit in peace with my baby, rocking her and smelling her head. Blissful. She fed well (still had periods of cluster feeding etc) and slept well which massively helped of course!

I had a really easy baby so loved the newborn weeks. Dd was just perfect.

Of course shes now a little madam

I loved it both times. When I look back now I realise how much easier life is now my eldest is 2 and can speak a bit but at the time I loved the baby stage. So much so I'd have keep having babies but we can't afford more!

I loved the newborn stage. Although tiring, it was magical time.

I absolutely loved every second. Everyone was telling me how hard it would be and how tiered I would be. Luckily for me I had the easiest baby and it was so much fun. Walks and coffees were a daily occurrence. Bliss.

DD was a horrendous baby. Not her fault, she had CMPA and was in pain. She didn't sleep, didn't eat, she just cried! Once we got that sorted she was much better, but it took ages (5 months) and I was fed up by that point! But she turned into an angelic toddler and is pretty good at 4.5. She still doesn't eat but she's funny and clever and so worth it.

DS on the other hand was pretty much a dream baby. He still is at nearly 7 months. No illnesses, he sleeps A LOT better than DD, rarely cries... He's great, for the most part, but he's going to be a nightmare toddler, I can tell.

I enjoyed the newborn stage much more this time, but I do prefer them when they can sit up, play, etc. Snuggles with a newborn are lovely but the rest does feel like a slog most of the time. It does usually get better!

First 3 months were by far the best and easiest for me. 4 months to about 4 years the hardest.

I loved it - put no pressure on myself to do anything other than look after the baby, sat on sofa, fed on demand, ate loads of treats and loved every minute! I agree with whoever said it’s all downhill from crawling - certainly until about 3.5!!! I found 18 months - 2.5 years a mind numbing frustrating grind both times!

I loved it... it was over in a flash... DD is now 7 months and crawling..
I miss the middle of the night quiet time... she was fortunately a good sleeper so waking once/twice per night wasn't too bad and I made sleep up during the day... x

God yes I have to constantly tell myself that 2 is enough practically for out circumstances because I absolutely adore little babies. It is tiring but especially after the first one you know how short that phase will last, and it’s such a lovely atmosphere.

If I had infinite resources and could have both parents at home I’d have 2 or 3 more babies spread out over the next 10 years. But reality calls and I’m very happy to be able to spend time with them now they’re getting bigger! My youngest is 14 months and I already really miss having a small baby.

I found it exciting and amazing and overwhelming...and absolutely exhausting and scary with DC1. It was a real mix of highs and lows. Looking back, I can see it was a combination of being a first time mum without a clue and having a quite demanding baby who hardly slept.

I absolutely loved the newborn stage with DC2. I was more relaxed and she was a very chilled, contented baby. It was bliss. I felt like I was on some sort of lovely drug high for about 6 months .

I did with my second partly because it was so so different to my first. My birth was fine, I recovered quickly and didn't go downhill with pnd. My baby also fed well, no issues etc - whereas I struggled enormously with my first. I think if you have all that straightforward plus go easy on yourself - don't hurry going out, doing classes, seeing folk you could definitely enjoy it.

Yes I did, particularly with my first who was born around new year so it felt like an extended Christmas of eating, lounging around watching tv and seeing friends and family. Baby slept ok (for a newborn) and I had an elective c section and formula fed from birth. Could split everything 50/50 with DH which definitely helped! I do miss those days sometimes.

I've loved every stage of motherhood (have a sneaking suspicion the teenage years might be testing though!) and the baby and toddler years were no exception.

Perhaps it's because I'm a night owl by nature but I quite liked the time up feeding her in the middle of the night, house completely quiet, just the two of us. Yes there is less sleep and mine wasn't (still isn't) a great sleeper but you can't change that, just go with it as much as possible.

Yes yes yes!

The snuggles, the middle of the night grins when the rest of the world was sleeping. I'd tuck them into my dressing gown and head downstairs to a dimly lit living room and just smile at them. (3 kids all single pregnancys).
I am so broody for more. But from crawling to 2 is the hardest. Then at 2-4 they becomey best mate and sidekick. Then school steals them

I absolutely loved it.
I was so proud and couldn't believe that the little ( not really little) lump was mine. There was a couple of months of broken sleep but he soon got into a routine.
The toddler stage was a pain in the ass though!

I loved the first 3 months with mine. They slept well, were quite contented, and I just loved it.
Once they hit 3 months old they became nightmare sleepers, and the next year was difficult to say the least.

Yes, they’re the best bit! I can actually remember with my first sitting up feeding him in the night and feeling sorry for the rest of the world who had to be asleep and not snuggling their baby. I did breastfeed and cosleep though, which makes it all a bit less hassle.

i loved the newborn stage but i was lucky to have mostly good natured babies and to find breast feeding easy. currently i’m sitting snuggling my one month old DD2 and it’s bliss!

personally i’ve found DD1 (3 yr old) harder - once they start talking they are much more emotionally and mentally draining as opposed to just the physical stuff!

Loved it baby didn’t sleep but I’d been that ill during pregnancy 🤰 it was fine. The love drug exists I used to cry every day was over, hormones eh. It doesn’t last long 5 months in and she’s just this grown up (not really) but oh I think I’m addicted! I really can understand large families now!