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Anyone who actually enjoyed the first few months with a newborn?

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Marghe87 · 24/01/2019 13:04

I am just hoping to hear some good stuff from women who actually enjoyed the first few months of motherhood.

I read a lot about all the hard bits: breastfeeding, sleepless nights, colic, teething, being tired and feeling lonely etc etc… But I am sure that the goods somehow overcome the bads (I think?! Otherwise I don't understand why people would have more than 1 !). So have the first few months of motherhood been good for any of you? Or is it just tiredness and desperation one has to expect? :)

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blondeirishmummy84 · 25/01/2019 14:14

Overall I loved the newborn phase, but there is no denying some of it was difficult. The sleep deprivation for the first while is a shock to the system and the clusterfeeding and sore nipples were hard going at times too.
Those newborn cuddles were so special though that they sort of override all the sleepless nights and babys cries!

April2020mom · 25/01/2019 15:57

I loved the first few weeks. There certainly were anxieties and concerns but I didn’t have to deal with comments and questions. I remember the first day of being a parent. I was with my daughter recovering from the c-section and my son was not far away.
Despite the high number of doctors appointments and casting sessions for his clubbed feet I loved it all. The first year flew by me almost unnoticed. If I had not spent a entire day taking pictures when they were six months old I definitely would have regretted it immensely.

spinabifidamom · 25/01/2019 17:05

I found that the first 4 weeks were lovely. I was certainly exhausted most nights but I loved cuddling with DS and DD in bed at night time.

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Wallsbangers · 25/01/2019 17:26

All the baby cuddles and lovely naps together were great. I was less keen on the pain, the hormones, the exhaustion, the anxiety and the guilt. I didn't hate it but I've much preferred it since 6 months.

Metalhead · 25/01/2019 17:46

Second time round, I really enjoyed all the cuddles and just sitting on the sofa watching telly with DD2 asleep on me. Because I knew it was a phase, and that it would end. First time round I just worried that I’d end up having to cuddle DD1 to sleep forever if I didn’t get her to settle herself...

user1andonly · 25/01/2019 17:50

DS1 - I was more exhausted that I would ever have believe possible and I vividly remember bursting into wracking sobs once when I fed my baby, sat him up to burp him and he vomited the lot straight down my cleavage, filling my only clean nursing bra with sick.

Wouldn't have swapped him though!

By eight weeks, we were in a lovely routine and I was so happy and fulfilled - I wanted him to stay that age forever.

10 months old, took him on holiday and brought on a massive sleep regression... lets not go there shall we...!!!

flapjackfairy · 25/01/2019 17:53

I loved every single minute and would love to be able to go back and do it again

user1andonly · 25/01/2019 17:53

Second and third babies, loved (almost) every minute and the only negative was the sense of sadness that it would all fly by so fast.

GrumpySausage · 25/01/2019 17:55

LOVED it.

Now a 3 year old, that's a different matter. Currently recovering from finding my downstairs loo decorated with nail varnish

I'd keep having kids all day if it meant just newborn stage.

Kanz · 25/01/2019 18:01

Loved the first few months with my beautiful girls and still do Both fed well and slept through quite early Nothing compares

Strugglingonagain · 25/01/2019 18:21

Nope! Turns out I'm not a baby person. 8weeks in with dd2 and she's a good baby so far (apart from reflux poor love) and pnd both times and just not so great at it.
Much better when they are a bit older!

Angelil · 25/01/2019 18:53

I'm lucky: easy baby who sleeps really well. (I don't, but I've been an insomniac since I was 13 so that's nothing to do with him! So haven't really seen any difference in tiredness levels since he was born.) Made even easier by bottle feeding from day 1, I must say. He is just a generally chilled-out little chap who's very curious and alert and only cries for very obvious reasons. He'll be 12 weeks old on Sunday and I have loved every moment so far.

Edemummy · 25/01/2019 19:00

Yes... I did. I love cuddles and I've had lots. The only thing is I had to lower my standards way down when it came to house keeping, but if I had my mum nearby, she would have helped and I am sure it would have been easier in that sense. My mother lives in a different country.
As a first time mum, there was so much to learn, breastfeeding struggles and all that but it didn't really matter in a big scheme of things.
My daughter is now 3,5 y.o. and I do miss the time when she used to fit in my arms and needed me 24/7 :)

CheeseStringBaby · 25/01/2019 19:05

I hate the newborn stage. Sorry!
No sleep, not really much personality (compared to toddlers and older babies). Boring. Can't do much but whinge. I much prefer them from 6 months onward!

ILikeyourHairyHands · 25/01/2019 19:10

Me! I have extremely happy memories of feeding DC1 as dawn broke over the world (Spring baby) and then sitting in the garden with a cup of tea at 5am, DH would often join me. We lived in a little cottage by a stream with no one else around. They were very happy days.

I was very lucky with pregnancy, birth and BFing. It really was a golden time.

Napqueen1234 · 25/01/2019 19:12

I loved the newborn days. Yes you’re tired and don’t know what you’re doing but your baby is all yours, you cuddle them constantly. Don’t put pressure on yourself to look great or do loads just enjoy the snuggles. They grow up so quick! I’d do them again in a heartbeat

ohwownosnow · 25/01/2019 19:21

I did enjoy it, even the breastfeeding and reflux vomit.

Sweetooth92 · 25/01/2019 19:27

I absolutely adored that stage and can not wait to do it again. He was utterly perfect, my tiny beautiful boy. He was breast fed and we co slept and I loved our middle of the night cuddles. We used a sling a lot and he was attached to me fairly constantly but it was just a wonderful time. He’s 12 months now, equally perfect and a gorgeous little soul but I ache for my tiny needy baby back and can’t wait to do it again. X

Mytinymonster · 25/01/2019 19:30

Me! There were really hard bits, but on the whole I honestly loved it. And mine is a terrible sleeper, up every 30 mins at one stage, breastfeeding was tricky at first and I got mastitis etc. But believe it or not these are somehow fond memories of a special time?!

She's an older baby now and it's lovely as she's so interactive. I think the toddler stage will be harder...!

HollowTalk · 25/01/2019 19:30

I absolutely loved those days - they were the best days and I would do it all again in a minute if I was young enough.

gigi556 · 25/01/2019 19:33

Gonna be honest.... did not really enjoy it. But it's a passing phase and quite short in the grand scheme of things.

HerRoyalNotness · 25/01/2019 19:40

✋🏼 Life those squishy newborn days. Forget the cleaning and tidying and get OH to do meals, or prepare some ahead of time. Loved snuggling on the couch, doing nothing but taking care of that Nb. Naps together, cuddles, walk out in the stroller. Wish it lasted longer tbh.

LincolnOceanVictorEdward · 25/01/2019 19:40

I loved the newborn stage. I was extremely fortunate and DD was a dream at night. I was single and had a lot of help from my parents if I needed it. (they lived about 10 mins drive from us) They knew I would sleep when she did so knew I wouldn't usually be around until late morning. I used to feed her about 6am and then go back to bed again until about 9ish. I didn't really know about sleepless nights until she was about 2 years old. I don't mean that in a smug way. I had a very physically traumatic delivery and could barely walk for some weeks, so it wasn't all sunshine and rainbows for me. I was (and still am) utterly besotted with her though and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

Willow1992 · 25/01/2019 19:42

I enjoyed the new born stage, there is something really special about them being so small and fragile. I got enough sleep though because of co sleeping and breast feeding, if I had had to get up and sort a bottle several times per night it would have been a different story.

AprilShowers16 · 25/01/2019 19:45

I loved it, especially with my first when it was just the two of us and there was no crazy toddler to deal with. Yes there are some really hard bits but for me I just went with the flow as much as I could, watched lots of tv, napped in the day, chilled in coffee shops etc. I know it’s not always the case but I found newborns so much easier than two year olds (although there is lots of fun with the two year old it’s relentless!)

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