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going out with your child on your own?

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nappyaddict · 28/06/2007 20:19

would you feel uncomfortable or stupid going to the park, swimming, to soft play, to fun days etc if it was just you and your 11 month old on your own?

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nappyaddict · 28/06/2007 20:34

have found out it is because 2 people she has fallen out with are going to be there and she would feel silly if she bumped into them. if it was you would you still go?

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nappyaddict · 28/06/2007 20:39

have emailed you littlefish. what makes you think i don't want to meet?

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fillyjonk · 28/06/2007 20:44

um no, people do all the time, me included.

i very seldom make new friends if i go somewhere with someone i know, i need to be on my own

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nappyaddict · 28/06/2007 20:45

so can anyone else understand this but the beach day will be all families and friends theory?

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DoubleBluff · 28/06/2007 20:48

I go most places on my own.
Although notice most women seem to go in twos or more.
Not many of my friends have kids teh same age as mine. Prefer going on my own as can sui myself when I go / leave.

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quadrophenia · 28/06/2007 20:49

nah I never feel stupid about things like that, but can understand how less confident people may find it a bit uncomfortable.

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fillyjonk · 28/06/2007 20:50

ohhhh

no that does make sense, if its this particular thing

I do a lot with my kids alone though, even at weekends. dp is often working.

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nappyaddict · 28/06/2007 20:51

but why would it just be friends and families at the beach day? why would that be any different to the other things?

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fillyjonk · 28/06/2007 21:03

if its a weekend thing, i can see it MIGHT be (dunno where i've got the idea its a weekend thing)

I suppose a beach is a bit less organised than a p/t group? so more for friends?

dunno. i'd go but-yes i can see how its daunting.

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Minniethemoocher · 28/06/2007 21:04

I don't have any friends,so if I didn't go out with DD on my own, I wouldn't go out at all, I have no choice. I am very shy and find it hard to make "small talk".

I am planning where to go with DD during the summer holidays....

I do chat to other Mums if the talk to me first, just haven't made any friends to go on outings with..

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TenaLady · 28/06/2007 21:07

Well I wouldnt want to be sitting there on my own if my my so called friends were going to be there after a falling out.

I dont blame her, she just needs a bit of back up so that she doesnt feel awkward.

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mummytosteven · 28/06/2007 22:15

I agree with Tena, that she might feel very conspicuously Billy no Mates in that scenario.

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lucyellensmum · 28/06/2007 23:13

no, i prefer it that way to be honest. I love doing things with DD ust the two of us, she is my best friend, she is two next month

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aimeesmummy · 28/06/2007 23:19

I find it's easier for me, and dd has more fun, if we invite a school friend to come with us. Then they can run riot and I can sit on my lazy-arse and watch
I've never felt uncomfortable taking dd out on our own; I'm rubbish at starting up small-talk with other mums/parents/real people, so generally dont.

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katelyle · 28/06/2007 23:21

UniSarah, you are the only person I've "met" who seems to have a Boy.(unless I misread you!) We have a Girl too, proabbaly use these more often than their names.

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joash · 28/06/2007 23:23

Nope - i have done this with all mine at some stage (when the others were at school or whatever). ALso do it regularly with GS. Been doing it ssince he was 5 months old.

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ivyjoven · 29/06/2007 07:34

would you feel hard going to park with your 10 & 30 month old on your own

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nappyaddict · 29/06/2007 10:02

no it's not a weekend thing. it's today.

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Weegle · 29/06/2007 10:07

Nope - that's quite a normal day for us! Otherwise we would be bored at home. It's more common for mt to take DS out to park/swimming/soft play/town just the two of us than with another mum. Never even thought to feel uncomfortable/stupid and I'm quite an unconfident person.

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Littlefish · 29/06/2007 18:38

Where were you Nappy? I waited at the sandpit for you. I'm really sorry if I missed you.

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nappyaddict · 29/06/2007 21:22

i think you might not have given me the right number for you cos i text you a few times to say i would be late cos i left my purse in my friends car and would text you before i left to check you were there cos wasn't sure with the rain. you didn't reply so i didn't go. went to barny's instead.

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Littlefish · 30/06/2007 09:48

Oh sorry - hope you had a good time.

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FluffyMummy123 · 30/06/2007 09:49

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FlamingTomatoes · 30/06/2007 09:49

No, because you're not on your own

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CaptainUnderpants · 30/06/2007 09:55

No, just have a closer look next time you are out and you will see lots of pople on their 'own' with DC.

I am often out on my own at the weekend as DH works, my two are now school age so during the week it doesn't matter. But when they were younger I often used to go to soft play on my own to have some time on my own IFYWIM , whilst they played .

You'll be fine , go for it !