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Dsses MUms - are you dreading being a MIL?

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codswallop · 02/09/2004 18:18

I am

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MummyToSteven · 02/09/2004 18:19

why - do you think no girl will be good enough for your DS's?

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codswallop · 02/09/2004 18:24

No just think they might be horrible nad not let me send them cakes!

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popsycal · 02/09/2004 18:24

rather me a MIL with sons than a MIl with daughters!!!

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codswallop · 02/09/2004 18:26

really?
because the son in law might be unkind?

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codswallop · 02/09/2004 18:27

like my mil a lot
she said to me once that as dh is an olny child she decided she WAS going to get on with his wife whatever it took ,but as it was it has been easy!
I was chuffed

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MummyToSteven · 02/09/2004 18:29

coddy - MILs today, boycotting products yesterday - will it be a dummy thread tomorrow

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codswallop · 02/09/2004 18:30

hehe
m2 s

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Freckle · 02/09/2004 19:04

Not sure. I'm hoping that one of my sons will turn out to be gay so I have at least one son who loves his mum more than his wife .

Gem13 · 02/09/2004 19:23

DS isn't allowed to get married or have a girlfriend - ever - so not a problem for me

JJ · 02/09/2004 19:59

Yes, I will be evil MIL from hell with my two DILs. (or maybe one, but I wil be evil MIL from hell with my SIL, too)

Kayleigh · 02/09/2004 20:07

I'm with freckle on this one
Need at least one of my boys to enjoy shopping with Mummy and help colour co-ordinate my furnishings.

Best of both worlds that way !

emmatmg · 02/09/2004 20:11

No female human being that has ever walked this earth could be a worse MIL than my MIL so it will be easy for me because I know what not to do already.

I thank my lucky stars every night that it's been another day without her in our lives.

aloha · 02/09/2004 20:14

I won't poke my nose in their washing or ask them how often they are having sex with my son, so I'll be better than some!

SoftFroggie · 02/09/2004 20:19

Yup - I am such an absolute paragon, no-one can ever life up to my standards (not true).

How about DDs dads dreading becoming a FIL to their SILs?

For goodness sake Codswallop - this is aimed at Titania's food thread, isn't it? With humour or with bitchiness? Hope it's humour, in which case .

lou33 · 02/09/2004 20:27

Dh and I will be like Robert de Niro in Meet the Parents. Electrodes at the ready.

edam · 02/09/2004 20:35

Every time I see a MIL thread I grimace at the thought that I might be one, one day, and some future DIL of mine might be posting on a website asking people how to handle me! Doesn't stop me talking about my own MIL's little eccentricities though .
Being serious though, DIL/MIL relationship certainly seems very hard to negotiate (my mother and paternal grandmother were just as bad, despite Granny telling my mum 'I'm never going to be one of those interfering MILs') ... what is it that makes it so difficult and is there anything I can do to lessen the chances of a future DIL resenting me?

handlemecarefully · 02/09/2004 22:00

Totally dreading it - a tiny minority of women appear to get on well with their MIL's. I don't want to be pushed out of my son's life.

Skate · 03/09/2004 10:05

I'm dreading it too now I have 3 DS's and know I won't be the gushing mother of bride or proud mother of daughter having baby.

I really hope I can be a good MIL so that the DIL's like me!! I keep thinking 'stand back, don't interfere' but it would be hard wouldn't it if you wanted to see your sons and grandchildren. Eek!!

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iota · 03/09/2004 10:34

one of the things about eing an older mother is that, by the time my sons are married, I shall be completely old, decrepit and barmy....

perhaps DIL will come and visit me in the Care Home

suedonim · 03/09/2004 17:12

I am a MIL!! I hope I'm not a hellish one, though as my dil took my son to another continent to live, I don't have much of a chance to be bad to her. Seriously, dil is lovely, I couldn't have wished for anyone more suited to ds and they are so besotted with each other, it's sweet. Her family are also super, I think ds has been very fortunate in his choice of wife.

Chandra · 03/09/2004 17:15

Oh dear, poor son, no, his choice his business, I surely would think something like "oh dear! not the blonde!" but I would keep it to myself, whoever he chooses is welcome, oh dear! not the gothic one please!

fio2 · 03/09/2004 17:20

no i will be a lovely mil

if dd ever gets married though, dh will be a nightmare fil!

alexsmum · 03/09/2004 17:35

my mum sometimes says to me that I should try and have a girl because once boys have a wife they don't want to know you! Not entirely true,mummy dearest but she's not overly keen on sil.oh dear.

As someone else said, my boys are never getting married .They are going to stay home and take their mum shopping.

tallulah · 03/09/2004 18:00

This is actually something that has been worrying me for a long time! It's easy to say now "I won't be an interfering witch", but what if the DIL IS unreasonable? My MIL drove me mad when the kids were small, but other people have been equally upset over their MILs lack of interest. How do you get it right?