Dsses MUms - are you dreading being a MIL?

[codswallop]

I am

What, to the gold-digging tramp who won't be good enough for him?

No really, I get on very well with my MIL even though she is known for being a little hard to handle as she relishes her materfamilias role (she has 4 boys) and likes to know everything that is going on. I hope if/when the time comes that I will make the effort to get along with my DIL even if we're not natural friends. Actually, since my mother died before my children were born, I will be so hopelessly grateful if I get to see my own grandchildren that I will probably phone their mother everyday to thank her. I was also about to say that I'm not ga ga over my son like some mothers are, but then I heard myself telling ds what a handsome pirate he is today .

Ah, but wilbur, what if you make the effort to get on with her but she doesn't? It's difficult to get on with someone if they make it clear that they really, really don't like you.

Tallulah, you last post has decribed my non-relationship with my MIL. I've stopped trying to get on with her and making allowances for her appalling behaviour towards me.

She has burnt her bridges with me and her 3 grandson now, she ignored them in the street a while ago, which was the final straw( of many ) and I hope I and they never have the misforture if being in her company again.

Agree, as older mother, I secretly hope that ds will meet his soulmate (perfect, warm, clever, funny, loyal blah blah) at 21, and they have lots of perfect grandchildren before I keel over with decrepitude. I really, really hope my kids don't wait as long as me . Dh is rather horrified at this scenario btw.

Am not dreading it as I have an EVIL MIL from HELL who is so awful to me and so I have sworn to myself that I will be lovely and sweet and non interfering with my DIL's and they will love me and say how great I am. It devastates me that me and my MIL dont get on.