Nearly 3 year old toilet trained DD wetting bed every night

[Jamb16]

DD nearly 3 and has been toilet trained about 5 months and stopped wearing a nappy on a night nearly 3 months a go. She always wets the bed at least twice every night for the last three months. She uses the loo just before bed and drinks very little or no water after dinner to try to stop the bed wetting but to no avail. I go into her room a couple of hours after her bedtime when I go to bed to take her to use the loo and she does a wee then. She doesn’t wake up when she wets the bed so I only know when I go in to check on her in the night, and by that time she doesn’t want to do another wee as has already done it in her bed. And by morning- about 6ish- she will have done it again. Not sure what to do really as feel awful thinking of her sleeping in wet clothes and sheets, she seems to do such big wees even her top gets wet, her duvet, a bit of her pillow. She has had a rash a couple of times from sleeping in wet clothes too. I am so exhausted as up with one year old too who wakes up in the night and is an early riser and also fed up with all the washing! Any advice from anybody who has been through the same? It feels like she is never going to stop doing it. People have said after a few weeks she will wake up and know she needs to do a wee, it obviously she hasn’t yet. Hope somebody has some advice as feeling so tired and feel like I am awake all night.

Just to note, she doesn’t drink a huge amount of water through the day, just s normal amount really and doesn’t constantly need to use the loo during the day

I'd put her in a pull up at night, she's only 2! My son was wetting the bed most nights up until 10 years old - it's very very normal at this age. Please don't get too stressed about it.

She's not ready. It is really really common for night dryness to be far later than day dryness. Put her in night nappies, tell her when she's had 7 dry nights in a row she can start wearing big girls knickers again.

So she’s never been dry at night if I understand your OP and it sounds like she’s not ready to be without nappies. It takes longer than daytime. I’d use pull ups and when she’s dry at night a time least 5-6 nights per week think of stopping.

Day training and night training are unrelated. The child needs to start producing a hormone to concentrate the urine at night. This usually happens by age 8. Until then use pull ups. My children (boys) were dry at night at 5.5 yrs and 6, despite being trained during the day at 2.3 and 3.3 respectively. My youngest is 3.3 and I anticipate him being in nappies for 3 more years at night. When the older two were ready it was obvious as their pull ups were dry on waking. Very few accidents since.

I would put her back in night time nappies. She might not be ready for night dryness yet. There’s no point tiring yourself out, having mountains of washing and disrupting her sleep every night. Put her in nappies for a couple of months and see how it goes. Night time dryness can take much longer than daytime. She’s only young, please don’t worry.

Just for comparison, DD toilet trained around 2.5 and wasn't dry at night until nearly 4. Aged 8, two of her classmates are still wearing nappies. It's really really not something you should be pushing.

Relax for her sake and yours!!

Why have you taken her out of nappies at night if she’s not dry at night?
DD1 was dry in the day at 2.4 and at night within a week of that. DD2 was dry in the day at 20 months but not at night until 2.5. I didn’t take their pull ups off at night until they’d been consistently dry for a week.

I agree with all the previous posters, sounds like she just isn’t ready ..... my DS was dry in the day at 2.5 but still wet the bed at 7.5, then just stopped one day

I’d recommend pull ups until your daughter is dry , it honestly saves so much upset and endless washing

Thanks everyone who has replied. Think I will do that then. MIL and a few others have said should stop nappies on a night a few weeks after toilet trained which is why I felt I must be doing something wrong. Did try getting her to wear a nappy a couple of months a go but she wouldn’t wear it as she felt it was too babyish. Will have to look into pull ups- don’t know much about them to be honest so hoping she will think they are less babyish!

Yes, I’d put her into pull-ups at night. My DD was reliably clean and dry during the day by 2.5 but not at night until almost 7.

She’s had one nighttime accident in the 4 years since then!

My dd is 8 and still wets the bed, not every night but probably 2-3 nights a week. She is still in pull ups. Her friend who is 9 is still in pull ups.
Don’t worry about it, get the pull ups on and wait until she is dry at night.

Get night time pull ups not toilet training ones. The night time ones are more absorbent

Mine just wore / wear normal pull ups. The boots ones have been fine for 12 hours straight. Very few leaks even for my 6 year old who was wearing them till last week. Though I do limit drinks after supper.

Dry at night is a completely different thing to dry during the day. It can't be 'trained' in the same way.

Pull ups until the kid is ready. Save both of you a ton of heartache and lost sleep.

You can’t “train” for bedtime wetting. It is a chemical balance that happens naturally in the body (different for everyone apparently) so I would just use pull ups at night and when they are dry every morning for a few weeks then you can get rid.

Mine both toilet trained in days at 2.5.

Both wore night time nappies until 7. Woke up one day dry after heavily wetting every night and have been dry ever since.

There are several biological and hormonal mechanisms that need to kick in. The kidneys need to stop making urine at night for one- chance are if she’s still wetting twice a night this hasn’t kicked in.

Put her back in nappies. And ignore anyone who starts giving advice on “training”. It can’t be trained, and it’s not them washing sheets....

My dd passes a large volume at night and normal pull ups leaked. I guess it depends on the child

and stopped wearing a nappy on a night nearly 3 months a go. She always wets the bed at least twice every night for the last three months.

So she had never been dry at night then? She's just not ready. Some kids continue to wet the bed until they are 10-12 although by this stage they are generally under the care of a medical specialist. But it is very common for night time peeing to go on for many months or even years after being dry during the day.

We used to call the pull-ups "night time pants" and DD2 accepted that they were different from nappies. Just as well, as she needed them till she was 6! Like your daughter, she didn't wake up when she wet the bed - it wasn't a hormonal thing for her, she was just a very deep sleeper. When she was 6 we did get advice from the sleep clinic about building up her bladder capacity, so she could get through the night, which did the trick. But at two years old, being wet at night is so totally normal, there's no point stressing about it.

We still use (size 7) nappies for our 4 year old DS who fully day time trained over a year ago but fills up a nappy (too much for a pull up) every single night without fail, despite all the usual precautions of cutting down liquid etc. A relief to see those whose DC needed night time pull-up until at least 7, as was getting fed up of defending him and us re night time nappies.

She's not ready....our DD was dry during the day by 2 but it took much longer for night time. We still have the occasional accident now and she is 4.5. I would pop her back in a pull up and try again when you are getting lots of dry pull ups in the morning

I agree with everyone else.

Also make sure she is drinking plenty in the day as it helps stretch the bladder.

Agree with all the others, DS was dry in the day from 20 months with only 2 accidents, he was 5 before he was dry at night. It’s not something you can train, he didn’t even wake up. Bed time pull ups and just wait until they become dry

Agree DC 1 potty trained day at 2.5 years, but in night pants until almost 9.5 years
DC 2 potty trained day at 2 and 9 months and dry at night pretty much straightaway
They are all different, put your DD in pull ups at night