Nearly 3 year old toilet trained DD wetting bed every night

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DD nearly 3 and has been toilet trained about 5 months and stopped wearing a nappy on a night nearly 3 months a go. She always wets the bed at least twice every night for the last three months. She uses the loo just before bed and drinks very little or no water after dinner to try to stop the bed wetting but to no avail. I go into her room a couple of hours after her bedtime when I go to bed to take her to use the loo and she does a wee then. She doesn’t wake up when she wets the bed so I only know when I go in to check on her in the night, and by that time she doesn’t want to do another wee as has already done it in her bed. And by morning- about 6ish- she will have done it again. Not sure what to do really as feel awful thinking of her sleeping in wet clothes and sheets, she seems to do such big wees even her top gets wet, her duvet, a bit of her pillow. She has had a rash a couple of times from sleeping in wet clothes too. I am so exhausted as up with one year old too who wakes up in the night and is an early riser and also fed up with all the washing! Any advice from anybody who has been through the same? It feels like she is never going to stop doing it. People have said after a few weeks she will wake up and know she needs to do a wee, it obviously she hasn’t yet. Hope somebody has some advice as feeling so tired and feel like I am awake all night.

Thanks everyone. Will do that. Any tips for getting her not to wee in her nappy before going to sleep? When she was first toilet trained and still wore a nappy on a night, because she messes around for quite a while and difficult to get to sleep at the beginning of the night, she would do wees and sometimes poos in her nappy, even when I would take her to the toilet. She wouldn’t use the potty in her room and when I took her to the toilet would say she didn’t need to do a wee, but would do one a couple of minutes later in her nappy

Make putting on the pull up the absolutely last thing you do before last cuddles and leaving the room.

If she is still wetting the bed she sin't ready to be out of nappies at night. Night time dryness does not happen at the same time as day time dryness, it relies on the release of a hormone that prevent urine production at night.

Put her back in nappies at night, and give it time. You shouldn't limit fluid intake as it doesn't encourage the bladder to expand and hold a good quantity of liquid.

I found nighties or a T-shirt worked better than pjs for putting on the pull ups just before lights out without and fuss.

My dd toilet trained at 2.5 but she still wears a pull up at night at nearly 6. Day and night training are totally different and not really linked in any way. They are dry at night when they're dry at night, otherwise you just keep them in a nappy until they are.

As for weeing in her nappy before bed, unless it's leaking during the night, it really doesn't matter. You can let her use the toilet before bed, but otherwise, just leave her in it. She likely won't be too bothered and if she is, just change it and put her back to bed.

@rizkhanjr She's way too young for all that! This is completely normal for a almost three yr old. Patience is all that's needed.

Agree with others too. My DC were in pull-ups at night for about a year after they were toilet trained during the day. It's normal, I think.

We have a slightly different take on this....our DD trained very early (something like 1 year and 8 months) and for about the first year after that would wake up in the night and call out that she needs the toilet, typically once per night although sometimes more. For about the past 6 months this has not happened and she's just wet the bed. We thought it because she was very deep asleep (she no longer napped in the daytime over the past 6 months or so, so we figured this might be it).

On reading this thread, it seems it might be something else altogether.

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