My son is going to school in nappies!!

[tulip27]

I give up, my son is 2 years and 10 months. I have been trying ( with no joy) to potty train him for nearly a whole year and now, while he is pooing his pants and weeing all over the carpet, his 18 month old sister is using the potty, correctly.
Now please tell me where I have gone wrong. I am sure my son will never do it!

BTW DS is still in nappies at night and is nearly 4 - mainly because I am too lazy to try!

ds1 did go to school in nappies, I wouldn;t worry about it.

I'd put him back in nappies for a month then start again. He might not even realise what he's meant to be doing if he's been doing it wrong for a year.

DS3 (2years 6 months) has just started telling me when he wants to poo. No potty, straight on the toilet. He's still wearing nappies and gone from none to getting about 50% in a week. We'll try wees next, but really I don't think there's much point in taking nappies off until they;re beginning to understand and not weeing all over the place.

DS is 2 and a half. None of the boys in his age group at nursery is potty trained, and around half the girls are, I think. Try not to stress, just put him back in nappies for three or four months before you think about trying again.

DS1 went into pants a week before his 3rd birthday and that was quite normal among his group of friends

I thought you were going to say that your DS was going to school in September! You have loads of time - cut him (and yourself) some slack

(BTW DS1 is still in nighttime nappies at 5.5 and DS2 3) is dry at night so it's just luck I think)

My daughter was exactly the same as bookwormmum, 3.3 months before she was even interested and then suddenly she was in pants and dry all day.

My son cracked it just before he turned 4 and we still have bad days now. Your ds is completely normal. Boys can't feel it coming in the same way girls can - just biology

WE tried GF's book and failed miserably.

He was showing all the signs except being able to undress himself. I ignored that thinking it didn't matter - but it really really does.

Unless he has the physical co ordination to pull trousers down, pull pants down, sit down, wait until something happens and then tell you when he's finished, then it won't work. ds managed this well after he was 3.5.

dd3 is 3y2m and while she doesn't actually attend pre-school in nappies, and has officially been out of nappies for 4 months, she's basically 90% incontinent. She's absolutely chronically useless at it all.

It's nothing you're doing wrong.
I was a smug toilet-trainee before dd3, thought I was really good at toilet training, my other two took 2 days to get the hang of it, and were much younger. dd2 was one of those who could basically do it at 18 months.

I'm just assuming that one day dd3 will get the hang of it and meanwhile, there's not much point stressing too much.

Your comments have made me feel much better. I think I will give the toilet training and the carpet a rest for a while. xx

eh? where's the problem?
you hav a boy under the age of three in nappies. sounds perfectly normal to me.
neither one of my boys was out of nappies till after their third birthday. dd was dry at 2.10, but i'm sure thats a sgirl ting.
ds2 will be six on saturday. he still wears a nappy at night.

Sounds totally normal to me! Both my DS's were not ready until around 6 weeks before their 3rd birthdays, and DS2 took around another 3 months to properly master the poo side of things, but they get there.
I will put money on the fact that your DS will be clean & dry WAY before he starts school!

fennel and others - you are making me feel better about DS, 3.3, who seems nowhere near ready!

ds was 3.5 dd was 3. Don't worry, he will be fine, relax, give him time and he will do it when he is ready.

My youngest dd was 3y4m when she came out of nappies. 2 days and she had cracked it.
I also thought your son would be about 4 when I read that he was going to school.

And Tulip - you started WAY too early!