Coats in car seats

[MamaOl]

I don’t currently drive, so my parents unfortunately drive me and my young son out if we ever need to go anywhere.
Now it’s winter, he has a coat, which has sparked a debate, and argument. I take his coat off in the car seat & they are now refusing to take us anywhere if I don’t do as they say and put a coat on him in car seat.

I’ve read everywhere it’s unsafe, asked other mums and they’ve said same thing. My mum’s now saying my son will get pneumonia if I don’t put him in a coat in the car. My anxiety is getting the better of me now.

Who is right?

My kids never wear a coat in the car I put it on to take them out to the car but take it off once in there seat and then out it back on before we get out.

It is a safety issue as the coat stops you front fixing the belt properly.

I would say to them that's why cars have heating to put it in so he won't need a coat in the car..

Try showing her the difference in belt positions with and without coat. Show her evidence from credible sources. Put a blanket over if it's chilly. Also, pneumonia is a bacteria and not caught by being a bit cold.

Your right. We have a 'car' cardigan that dd wears (we keep it in the boot). Could you bring a blanket to appease them?

Take this as an opportunity to reduce contact. They are totally blackmailing you — that only works if you fold.

Put a blanket over him once he is strapped in

Mine wear fleece jackets for the car - they are thin but warm

Theres some rather graohic and horrible videos involving test dummies. That are graphic but would make your point. Should you wish to show your parents.

Thank you everyone who’s commented so far, I’ve constantly told them I would take him to the car in a coat, take it off in the car and put a light hoodie and a blanket on him, but they’ve told me it’s not good enough and that the advice I’ve shown her from online that it’s unsafe is “bs” because they never took our coats off me and my sisters when I was little... 20 odd years ago mind!

DD6 doesn't wear a coat in the car

Phrases like like grind my gears, OP. You have my sympathy. Drink driving also used to be acceptable...

Pneumonia is a viral or bacterial infection. It doesn’t just infect anyone magically when they don’t wear a coat.

A warm jumper with a hood or hat is perfectly sufficient in a car. Babies are actually much more likely to overheat in a car seat than be too cold. Mine is just in a jumper and always comes out a bit sweaty. Safety aside, it just isn’t necessary though unless your parents are driving around in a convertible in winter.

Just tell them your baby and you will decide if he wears a coat in the car or not and if he gets ill you will look after him not them..

Mine never wear their coats in the car.

But OMG what an almighty pain in the arse it is. Constantly taking them on and off when you’re just popping to a few shops.

Never have your child in a coat or snowsuit in the car. Strap them in, securely tighten the straps and then place a blanket on top.

Do they wear coats in the car?

I live in a ski resort. we don't wear coats in the car - we heat the car! my now 3 year old always has a fleece blanket over him in winter and has since he was a baby. no jumper. no coat. just a blanket.

I did that, but my mum said that if he gets seriously ill or develops pneumonia, she said she will say “told you so” it’s really affecting how I feel as a parent

Thank you everyone who’s commenting
I really appreciate everyone’s opinion
Glad I’m not the only one thinking this way

Safety first. If they are concerned take a blanket to put over DC in car too!

How old is he? Something like this is great morrck.com/product-category/baby-hoodie-travel-wraps/

Neither my 3yr old or my 5month old wear coats in the car. Dd (3) has a hoody that she wears in the car and if we think it's going to be really cold we take a blanket. 5 month old ds has a blanket over him in the car seat. Cars have heaters. It a only the first 5 mins that a car is cold normally. It is much safer for them to not have a coat on.

Seat belt doesn't work properly with a jacket on. Simple as. Even if your mum had a small bump your child would be harmed due to not being belted adequately.
It is a pain with jackets but mine just wears a jumper and our car is coooold. She's fine. We also have a car blanket.

You’re right and they’re wrong

Do you not have heating in the car? You're clearly right and can't argue with stupid people. Your baby. Your rules. At worst with you he might be cold whilst the heating kicks in; with them, he might die.

Thanks everyone. Anyone have any advice on how to get them to listen to me?
I’ve shown them posts/shown them what my friends said and shown them what it says online about car seat safety.. but I’m told it’s rubbish because they never did that.

It’s just causing them to argue with me.
It shouldn’t be this way, I’m the parent, yet not being treated as.