How do you feel about controlled crying?

[hellobeautiful123]

Me & my husband are wanting to try and get our 7 month old to sleep in her own room.

My husband is all for controlled crying but I don’t like the sound of it and leaving our DD to cry. She’s never really been left to cry before.

What are everyone’s opinions/experiences? Anything else we could try?

TIA :)

I think we need to know what OP's husband is actually proposing.

Some people equate controlled crying with cry it out (i.e: simply leaving the baby to cry).
Others seem to mean some kind of process of coming in at decreasing intervals.
The two are very different imo.

Fwiw my first was in his own room from about 6 months old.
I breast fed him to sleep, put him down while sleeping and came in to feed during the night.
So, if the aim is simply to get LO sleeping in his own room, sleep training may not be necessary.

Alilwolf I hope you realise that plenty of babies cry even when being held and comforted.

"controlled crying" ie ignoring your upset child is cruel and wrong no matter the age of the child but at 7 months your baby still needs you at night. Please don't do it

I did try it, until I started crying and went and got him for a cuddle. I felt terrible, they're too you g to understand. I really don't like it at all.

Tatie you have completely misunderstood what cc is if you think it involves ignoring your upset child.

I do wish people would research the differences between controlled crying and cry it out, they are absolutely not the same thing at all.

I did it, in one minute increments - so left for 1 minute before going in, then 2, then 3 to a maximum of 5 minutes. Worked for us.

Thanks @InDubiousBattle

Isn't CC ignoring them crying for increasing amounts of time though? Or do I have it wrong? I thought it was leaving to cry, for 1 minuttes/3/5/7 etc?

We did CC at 3 months when we moved her to her own room. Took 4 days or so, and i never left her to cry for long before going in shhhing etc.

Only did it to go to sleep, if she wakes in the night we go in.

She's 10months now and sleeps 12-13hrs a night, plus 2x 90min naps in the day. No crying at all

I disagree with it, I would never leave my children to cry thinking they were all alone.