Would you leave your 11 month old for a holiday?

[reluctantlondoner]

Trying to gauge opinions. Would you leave an 11 month old for a holiday? I would be leaving them with grandparents who they see pretty regularly (1-2 per month for 1-3 days at a time due to distance). Baby is tiny now so hard for me to imagine leaving them ever. Grandparents have offered to allow us to have a break together before I go back to work and because we'd be going to a wedding whilst away which might be difficult with an 11 month old. We are going reasonably far away, to a different continent (8-10 hour journey), so could not get back very quickly if needed. Also, if you would leave them, how long for? For context, I am not sure about this at all but DH is keen. Thanks in advance.

Nope. Wouldn't even think of it.

No. I struggled leaving dd with anyone even for short periods at that age.

Was supposed to be leaving her with her dad when she was almost 3 for a weekend away for a friend's birthday - crunch time came I couldn't do it.

She wasn't away from me at any distance for any great length of time more than one night until she was 5.

At that age, that distance? I couldn't have done it.

It's a very personal thing but I don't know anyone that's done this or similar.

I would advise if you're considering it to do a "trial run" the month before. Then you'll know how you feel.

Fwiw generally the babies/DC are fine in these scenarios it's the mum/parents that struggle!

No, I wouldnt. I left my ds with dm for one night when he was 11 months old. I didn't enjoy the night away as much as I should have done, I just missed him and felt guilty. I did leave him for 5 days though with dh when he was 2.9y. That felt ok. But I wouldnt leave him with anyone else for more than one night, and even then, I'll only leave him with dm or dbro. But that's just me - I'm a sahm, still bfing, still co sleeping etc. It feels like too much, too long.

I wouldn't because I'd worry about being so far away if they were ill.

I had a weekend in Belfast for a wedding when my daughter was 2 and it was horrible, couldn't enjoy myself. I would have been ok if it was somewhere I could drive back from but with a flight I felt trapped away from her.

I would! Left DS at 5mo to go skiing for a week, did the same a year later and have left him again for long weekends. Having your own life is important too OP

Yes we did - left 3 year old & 11 month old for a week with grandparents to go to a wedding in Mexico. It worked out really well, we had a great trip and everyone was fine. Go for it.

Overnight? Yes, of course. An 8 hour flight for a long period of time? Not a chance in hell.

Having done it at different ages - short of not taking a bottle because of EBF - it's easier when they're babies i.e. less than 18 months. Older kids will really understand that you've gone and may take it harder.

We're going away shortly when kids are 12 months and 3 years old and I think the 3 year old is going to be more upset.

@gladstonefive I agree there Baby four really tips those scales

Yes I went away for a week when she was 1.
It didn't worry me as I knew she was having a great time with nan and grandad.

Dh on the other hand couldn't relax and really enjoy it because he missed her.