Always told my baby looks nothing like me :(

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I know it's silly and it shouldn't matter but it hurts my feelings always being told he's 'all daddy' or just like dad. It makes me feel left out and it's constantly rubbed in my face by my SO's side of the family. I just wish he looked more like me as I went through pregnancy and birth and he ended up looking like dad!! I wouldn't even mind if it wasn't constantly brought up so that I'm made to feel like just the baby incubator. I'm sure it's just hormones making me this bothered about it because I know at the end of the day he is my child and I love him dearly. I'm just praying he grows up to look more like me ha. I've uploaded some pics for reference - first pic is our baba, second is me as a baby and third is my SO as a baby. The trouble is SO looks so much like he did as a baby as he does now (same distinctive features) whereas I look nothing like I did as a baby so I feel like I have no chance of any of my babies looking like current me. So frustrating lol. Does anyone else have this problem??

Ds really did look like dh and his brothers boys as a baby. But now, although he still does have a strong resemblance to that side of the family you can see a lot more of me in him.
OTOH, people are funny - I am the absolute spit of my mum, her mum, and her grandmother. Its scary tbh. But people who only know my dads family comment on how much I look like my dads sister which I don't see at all

When most people look at a baby they pick up on the features of the person that they know the best, so I don't think your SO's family are necessarily over-exaggerating it's just that they know your SO better than you. Your friends who don't know your SO well will probably see more of you in him.

We used to occasionally get people thinking that DS or DD looked like one or other of us, both DC's were adopted by us. It's definitely in the eye of the beholder, subjective not objective.

I have numerous dc.
Only 1 has ever resembled me imo!!

I am tall dark eyed and dark hair and a little overweight. My daughter is blond blue eyed, has freckles and a size 6. We both work for the same company in different departments, when our paths cross people are very surprised that she is mine, I've remarried and at work she calls me buy my name so some people still don't believe us. When she was a baby it was a bit of a shock but now it's just funny

1st baby pic looks more like 2nd pic to me but I definatley see some of the 3rd in there too.

haha is it your in laws?
My mil still goes on how my dc2 10 looks just like her it's almost as if I had no input

Haha my baby looks like me and everyone is constantly saying it in shops and well everywhere we go...

Only thing is I was desparate for her to look like her Dad! He's got lovely golden brown skin, silky black hair and chocolate brown eyes. All my family are white with blonde or light brown hair and blue eyes. So I guess I always wanted my baby to have the complexion I always wanted..

But nope! She's my double. Although she looks like her Dad in baby pics and her eyes seem to be changing colour so fingers crossed!!

Isn’t it an evolutionary thing that they look ike their dads so the dads have a better chance of bonding, and therefore tge baby had a better chance of surviving back in the hunter gatherer days.

Everyone tells me my youngest looks just like his 'Dad' and nothing like me. They always looked gobsmacked when I tell them he is not actually his biological father...

My DS gets stopped in the street by people he doesn’t know saying ‘you must be ’s son because he looks so like him.

I have never let it bother me. He has other characteristics from me - academic ability and personality for starters, which will hopefully be a lot more useful to him than being the spitting image of his dad.

Agree that your baby looks more like you than dad (very cute baby btw).
ILs always say this shit - it's really annoying but it doesn't mean they are right.

Lol at 'dad's eyes are close together'

I have 3 dcs eldest looks like dad 2nd looks like dad. 3rd know looks like his dad but never really looked like anyone when he was first born. My mil took my husband to one side and actually said are you sure dc3 is yours he said of course he is and he is and he now looks like his dad.

My daughter looks Mediterranean(like her dad), I am a redhead with freckles. When she was newborn someone asked me if she was mine!

Her sister looks like me and I get asked whether they are full siblings.

I save my best withering looks or my 'what are you trying to suggest?' replies for those cheeky feckers.

It isn’t all about looks. Personality is important too. I have my DF’s personality and interests, we get along really well. My DM is totally different to us. I know she sometimes feels left out when we’re doing stuff we enjoy. She and I have the same nose and cheekbones but we’re conpletely different people.

It's evolutionary - babies look like their dad as it helps them bond. My baby was the spitting image of his dad but now, at nearly 4, he looks exactly like me. I had years of people saying how much DS looked like his dad. I thought it was cute.

Is it really a problem though?

My eldest is very much a little mini me off his dad. Only thing I'd say he's got from my side is his hair (which isn't even the same colour as mine but is everyone else's in my family!) Youngest on the other hand is the absolute spitting image of me.

I know it does get a bit boring to hear when they're babies. But it's nice when they're older and their personality comes through. Because both boys say and do so many things I do!

Your baby looks more like you to me! Definitely doesn’t have his dads eyes.
Two of mine look just like me, one exactly like her dad. Everyone could see she looked like her dad except his own parents!

@NoTeaNoShadeNoPinkLemonade
Yes it's my in laws, particularly my MIL 😂 she's always like 'sorry but he's all

Hormones.

My first-born looked very much like her dad's side of the family; now grown-up, she is basically my late MIL as a girl, but with my mother's smile. I'm blond and blue-eyed and quite chunky in build, big hands and feet: she has olive skin, brown eyes and dark hair, with dainty, elegant hands. Personality-wise also a cross between MIL and my mother. Hasn't got anything from me (apart from a chronic condition she'd have been happier without). But I love her dearly and get so much fun out of her! And though we are chalk and cheese when it comes to personality and how we react to things, we have a lot of interests in common and always something to talk about.

Our second-born otoh is very much like me in looks and personality, nobody could possibly believe he had anything from his dad. I understand exactly how he reacts and know I would have done the same at his age. He looks like me, he looks like my brothers (in fact, more than any brothers' children do). But we don't share a single interest (apart from what I force myself to take an interest in for his sake) and tbh, dearly as we love each other, struggle to maintain a conversation because we simply don't have anything in common. Still love each other, though.

I tend to find families “claim” babies as being more like their own side - MIL does it all the time with my nephew even though he’s the spit of his other grandad! SIL used to get annoyed but then realised that actually MIL had no idea what she looked like as a baby.

My cousin had the same and we came up with some great comebacks. My favourites being “I know, the ungrateful bastard” and “well at least it meant that we didn’t have to do a test...” She used to love winding her MIL up though.

My (very pretty) friend married for money and her kids all look like their dad. She is devastated

none of my 3children look like my kids. Im just glad that they are healty and happy, because thats the most important thing. Dont care who they look like

I think he looks much more like you as a baby OP but I honestly wouldn't worry to much about these comments.

When my DSS was little and I took him out alone to places many people would say to me 'awww he looks so much like you' when I told them he was my step child they would say 'oh, but he does' because I don't think they knew what to say lol.

I think most people say it to be polite.

I think he looks like you.

Honey, of my three children, only my son bears a slight resemblance to me. My two daughters look extremely alike and they have different fathers! Genentics is a funny old thing..