Do you kiss your child on the lips?

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I'm just wondering - do most parents kiss their child on the lips?

What are your thoughts on this? Opinion seems to be divided from what I see!

lip kissing is sexual and totally inappropriate for a child

Can someone explain why? Who do you think is getting the sexual thrill? Do you really think those of us who do are all doing it to get turned on??

If I took my husbands underwear off, lay him on the bed and cleaned his poop then redressed him, that would be seriously kinky sexual stuff. If I let hi suck on my nipples its sexual. If I washed him down in the bath it's sexual.

Should I not do any of these for my baby either??

Yes. I would've argued that it was wrong before I had DS but it's such an affectionate thing when they're little! Probably wouldn't carry it on past 7/8 years old!

No, I don't. XH did it with his children from his first marriage. It gave me the creeps when I saw him kiss his DD3 on the lips when she was about 18. It turned out he had been abusing her (I found this out much later, once I had left him after he tried to do something wholly inappropriate with our youngest DC - fortunately she told him to go away and told me immediately). So, no, no kissing children on the lips here.

Never.

Whoever said kissing a child on the lips is sexual. You have a serious problem and should seek help!

Have to agree with that - definitely needs professional help!

Kisses on lips here with my DS 3yrs but I'm sure it's be something that gets outgrown. My grandparents used to kiss me on lips and I grow to dislike it no reason just because really, so I will let my DS decide the terms aa he grows as I like the idea he has the choice

Dd is nearly 15 and still merrily kisses me on the lips ds1 (12) hasn’t for years he used to offer me his forehead when he wanted a kiss he’s nearly the same height as me now so I’ll be reaching for his forehead soon. Ds2 lip kisses at bedtime but in the playground it’s head or cheek I get given.
When I met dh and discovered he still kissed his mum on the lips I was a bit surprised but now I kiss her too and aunties and grandpa and the like they are all at it and it feels normal now.

No I don’t cheeks and arms and tummy but not lips. It’s because they just copy and do it to others, and also because I do think as they grow through toddlerhood it’s good to teach them what’s for adults and what’s play. Kissing in the lips passed babyhood isn’t something I do.

No, never have never will. That's not appropriate

Why Happy?

Why @happy?

No we don't and never have. Lots of over lovely places to kiss instead - cheeks, tops of heads, tummy. And lots of hugs. I do get cold sores occasionally and you can transmit the virus even if you don't have a sore and I don't want to pass them on. I hate getting cold sores and want to minimise risk to DC. Still feel cross that parents / grandparents gave me the virus in the first place

I understand it’s innocent, but I find it weird. Not common in the country I’m from either. The idea of someone kissing a baby on the lips is beyond me, not because it’s sexual, but I do find it gross. One thing I noticed after moving to the UK was how cold sores are widespread here, also among children. It’s true contagion only happens if you have a cold sore, as someone pointed out, but there’s a stage before the actual blister appears when you are highly contagious. So, considering it all, I rather have less kisses and more hugs!

Sorry, its incorrect that you only get cold sores if you have an active sore on your lips - you can transmit the virus before the sore comes out and at other times too. Also lots of people carry the virus and don't know because they don't regularly get outbreaks. Misses point of thread completely

Agree, Cods. In my case, I got it from my husband when we were dating. He came from a family of kissers and didn’t even know he had herpes. It was like the little blisters that everyone in the family had from time to time. I had to stop his sister from giving my daughter a loving and long kiss on the cheeks with a disgusting blister on her lips. Her son seems to have a permanent one, the poor thing

My family come out with stuff like 'everyone gets cold sores'' which irritates the hell out of me because they could take a lot more care not to transmit the virus.

If people want to kiss their kids on the lips that's fine with me, but I chose not to and ask other people not to do it too.

I've never felt the urge to kiss my kids on the lips,and find it slightly cringey and overbearing when I see other parents doing it to be honest.A kiss on those gorgeous and once upon a time chubby,soft cheeks of theirs is much more
appealing and natural to me.

I find it strange this is even a question! Of course I kiss my children on the lips, always have done, my parents did to me, don't think they do now though.

My family come out with stuff like 'everyone gets cold sores'' which irritates the hell out of me because they could take a lot more care not to transmit the virus.
I've never had one in the 40 odd years I've been on this earth,and neither have any of my 5 kids,and my eldest is 25.

Yes but more often we cuddle or i kiss them on the head or cheek. I think when DD was around 9 we didn't really kiss on the lips anymore, there wasn't a certain age to stop she just eased away from it. Though she's 13 now and she comes over for a cuddle sometimes. But i still kiss DS(6) and DD(2) on the lips. It's seen as completely normal in our family, their aunty might givw them a kiss occasionally

My youngest has always kissed me on the lips. It came from him.

My MIL still tries to kiss my DH on the lips and I think that's really weird as adults

I never did as babies, it just wouldn’t have occurred to me. Now they’re 4 and 3 they kiss me on the lips, and it would feel pretty mean and weird to tell them that they can’t.
3 year old is sometimes a bit slobbery and says ‘that was a wet one!’ afterwards

Yes I do, my kids are still young.

My MIL and GIL (granny) kiss my DH on the lips. At first I thought it was weird as my family don't do that... but now I think it's lovely as they are close

The thing with babies is like puppies they explore the world through their mouth so pulling you in to see what you taste like and how you feel and if they can fit you all Inn their big slobber mouths is instinctive. I isn't understand why it's any more sexual than bum changing or breast feedinv