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Naked parents....

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Wilkie · 03/06/2007 22:16

This is gonna sound really odd so please bear with me.

Have a DS who is 5 months old and this morning I walked in to his nursery naked (I sleep naked) and picked him up to bring him through to our bedroom. This Q suddenly struck me!

When do you feel it is inappropriate to wander around naked in front of you children?? My DH and I tend to walk round naked (upstairs between bathroom and bedroom - not generally round the house ).

At what age would you consider 'covering up'?? Or those of you that have older children what was your experience of it.

Sorry if it sounds weird but was just pondering....

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lisad123 · 03/06/2007 22:19

I sleep naked too. I will happily walk into DD room in just knickers and she will chat away while im in the bath. She is 4.
My Dh does not do naked, but will walk around with no top on.
I rememeber seeing my mum topless as a child and teenager, but never dad. Hmmm personal opinion.
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ViciousSquirrelSpotter · 03/06/2007 22:21

I still wander round nekkid and my DS is 8.

Will stop doing so when he starts shrieking at the sight of me. Maybe.

rantinghousewife · 03/06/2007 22:22

I do but, am careful not to if ds (age 13)is about, stopped when he was about 6 ish, I think. Would just have been weird for him and me I think, had I carried on.

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 03/06/2007 22:23

Oh God.. I pictured you walking into his nursery (as in day care centre!! ) naked!!!

Am still recovering from the shock!!

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Wilkie · 03/06/2007 22:23

PMSL

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wrinklytum · 03/06/2007 22:23

I hope it is not inappropriate as I frequently wander around naked in front of dcs 3 and 1!!

IMO it is a natural and normal thing for children,bodies are extremely interesting,as are bodily functions to your average 3 year old!!DS once yelled very loudly in a toilet cubilcle in the middle of town

"Mummy,are you doing a poo or a wee!!"

He is also astounded that his sister does not have a penis

"Muumy,when xxxx is bigger,will she grow one?"

Cue explanation for the zillionth time that mummies and girls do not have a penis but daddies and boys do.

No one tells you about this stuff when you are in those idealistic,dreamy pregnancy days!!!!!!

Rachmumoftwo · 03/06/2007 22:24

My DD age 5 and DD age 4 just go 'ooh nice boobies' or 'nice bottom' if I am naked, so they must be fine with it. It is a bit different for DH as they point and laugh at his winkie, so he tends to cover up now!

highonlife · 03/06/2007 22:24

My DD who is 3 has just started making observations, for example whilst sharing a bath the other day she asked why I had a woolly, tickly bottom! I am not as hairy as she perceives .
Will continue to be naked around her and DS until me and DH disugust them. Maybe this will be sooner than we think!

Nixz · 03/06/2007 22:25

I walk around naked all the time (dd 6), well not all the time
DP wears his speedo's if he gets in the bath with DD!!!!!!
He wont even sneak out if bed when she is in the room - he has always acted this way. And as a consequence, DD goes mad if DP sees her with no clothes on.

brightwell · 03/06/2007 22:25

My dc are 12dd & 9ds, I sleep naked & wander about upstairs naked. I have no intention of covering up, I'm sure when it becomes a problem for them they will learn to stay out of the way when I'm showering, changing etc.

Heathcliffscathy · 03/06/2007 22:26

i think it becomes inappropriate when THEY get embarrassed, probably not til adolescence or never....

ViciousSquirrelSpotter · 03/06/2007 22:26

I used to know a little girl who insisted on wearing her pants in the bath "because God could see her"

hmmm...

rantinghousewife · 03/06/2007 22:28

Wrinkly tum, I don't think it's inappropriate but, I think I felt more self conscious about it. I think you just know when it's not something you feel comfortable about. Of course then there's the day when they tell you that they 'heard you and dad last night'. Makes for a very stilted breakfast conversation, I can tell you

Loshad · 03/06/2007 22:30

I still wander about naked, oldest is 13.5yo DS, he doesn't look or seem embarassed about it.

weebleswobble · 03/06/2007 22:33

I wander around upstairs naked - dcs don't bat an eyelid. I didn't want them growing up with the same inhibitions I did about nudity because my parents were always covered up and drummed it into us that we should be.

(doesn't hurt for them to know we women don't stay pert forever either )

wrinklytum · 03/06/2007 22:34

Yes,am sure ther comes an age when it is inappropriate,when they are embarrased by it.
Have not yet considered the overhearing sex thing!!!They are only little at the mo!

Skribble · 03/06/2007 22:35

My kids are 10 and 7 and we don't bother about being naked and neither do they. I would cover up if I felt DS was embarrised about it as woulf DH with DD but no-one bothered yet.

mymatemax · 03/06/2007 23:05

If you feel OK with it I think it will be the norm for your lo.
I have started covering up recently as ds1 (age7) & his mates seem to be fascinated with body parts & I started to get a few sniggers from him.
I'm sure its a phase but i'm not keen on being discussed in the playground

christywhisty · 03/06/2007 23:05

DS11 & DD9 I still walk about naked upstairs, they are not bothered but will stop it they got embarrassed.

Tortington · 03/06/2007 23:09

around age 13

tegan · 03/06/2007 23:18

Both dh and I walk around the house naked and our girls are 9 and 3. As such they know daddy is different and aren't affraid to talk about their bodies.

my mum was in the bath one day last week when I went round and I was desperate for the loo so up I went and ended up having a chat with her while she was in the bath.

squidette · 03/06/2007 23:25

My children see me without clothes on and they are 5 and 8. Neither of them minds, but if they ever feel embarrased or ask me to cover up, then i will respect their wishes.

Last week, while camping my youngest and i were sharing a shower cubicle with my eldest doing his own thing in the next door stall. There is no curtain between the shower area and the getting-dry area and the whole of the female shower block is subjected to my son explaining that

'when you wash your hair mummy, it makes your bottom go all shaky - do it again please' 'hey (son next door) mummys got a shaky bottom, you cant see it but i can!'

sigh

RosaLuxembourg · 03/06/2007 23:30

We both walk around naked - DD1 is nearly 10. I don't expect to ever have to cover up but DH probably would if the DDs were uncomfortable with it. As yet they are not so we just carry on being closet naturists.

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Wilkie · 04/06/2007 07:58

Squidette PMSL.

Apparently when I was little I was talking loudly to my friend in the garden and our neighbours were having a quiet family BBQ in their garden.

All they heard me say was 'When my daddy brushes his teeth, his willy wobbles from side to side...'

I prob stopped seeing my dad naked when I was about 8-9 but mum until I was about 14. Never felt embarrased by it either.

Thanks for the answers though, was just interested to see if naked is the norm which is appears to be so I shall stay naked with pride.

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indiasmum · 04/06/2007 08:23

yes i still wander aronund naked whilst inbetween shower and getting dressed etc. ds1 is nearly 9, ds2 is 4 and dd is 2. i think its good for them to see esp the other sex parent to show the human body isnt just about bloody sex sex sex. it should make them feel comfortable with themselves. if it starts to make them feel uncomnfortable, i hope i will be able to sit down with them and discuss why the fgeel like that.