would this offend you?

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i apologise now-this is a long thread
my daughter's 6th party is in a few weeks and she's invited practically the whole class.
my dilemma is that with that many kids, she's bound to get loads of presents that she wouldn't really play with and will just get forgotton and/or broken and tbh the kids have so many toys anyway.
we're also going through a stage at the moment where she expects to have brought for her everything she wants.
so would it be seen as rude to ask for money instead so she can start learning about budgeting and the value of things.

personally,i'd have no problem with being asked this but i'd like to know how others feel before i ofend anyone.
(dd loves getting money as presents so she can buy her own things so this wouldn't be depriving her of a "proper" present.)

also like the book token idea

All the parents buying the tokens seemed pretty relieved to be let off the birthday present hook and as it was quite a big party they added up to quite a few books.

I would perhaps put "no present please" in the invite.

Why not stock pile the unwanted presents and use for gifts, exchange at shop.

6yrs is a might be a bit late to be learning respect for gifts, don't know if asking for money will teach her anything different.

thank you for all your replies
i honestly didn't think that this would be such a big deal.
i can understand that some parents can feel uncomfortable that their money/voucher gift will be under scrutiny as we would know how much was spent on the gift. (isn't anything up to £5 the norm nowdays anyway as i only ever spend more on really good friends)
the book token idea seems great as she's just starting to read independantly.
i didn't mean to sound ungrateful for any gifts that she might receive, and we're not the kind of parents that look down on some who don't spend a certain amount on gifts, i just thought that it might save some time.

at least now i know. glad i asked without finding out the hard way!.

you could "let it be known" through some mums that you know better that you'd quite like books or book tokens for your dd and let the grapevine do the work for you? then you aren't exactly sending out a gift list but you are giving other mums (especially those who don't know your dd so well) some sort of guidance which they will probably appreciate! Plus books needn't cost much so a couple of pounds will get your dd a pressie she would love and keep.

You know what would happen - she'd end up with 25 copies of The Gruffalo...

Late to this thread and havent read all the replies, but I wouldn't appreciate being asked fr money for a 6 yr old's birthday. No way.

We had two instances like this where both mums asked for vouchers. I personally didn't mind as I usually do buy vouchers for the kids birthdays. However I would never ask for money or vouchers myself and if you could have heard the backlash and gossip from the other mothers it seemed hardly worth it. What I would do is gratefully receive all the pressies and then donate to the local hospital which we have done in the past.
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Glad you've decided against it- definitely wouldn't go down well with many parents imo. Hope dd has a great birthday.

I wouldn't like to be asked for money or vouchers TBH.

DD enjoys going out and choosing a present for her friends, and taking it to the party. For DD it is part of the whole party thing.