DS (14) went for a 9 day holiday with his Paternal Grandparents last Sunday. They took him up to the Lakes for 5 days and then he should have been staying at theirs until Sunday, But I received a phone call yesterday morning from his GM saying that he wasn't behaving well and they were bringing him straight home. Which was fine.
He got home at 11am and things were hostile between them to say the least. DS stormed into the house and has not left his room for more than a bathroom break since.
For some background DS has had issues controlling his emotions since about the age of 5/6 and is something we had been working on since then. He has had evolvement from outside agencies as well as a consistent approach from me and his stepdad. We had thought that things had settled right down and things had improved greatly as we had not had one of these sorts of outbursts for the last 2 years.
Anyway what I have been told by GPs is that he told them that he was feeling car sick, so they stopped the car and he got out and laid down so that he was laid half on a grass verge and his legs on the road. He refused to move and then when he finally did he took his case from the car and stormed off (to where no one knows) GF followed him and made him come back.
That was all the information I received from them other than the fact he had said some awful things to them, such as he wishes they were dead. They in turn have said they don't want to see him.
DS won't talk to me about what has happened and is happy to take consequences instead of apologising and dealing with the emotions involved. I think that part of the consequences needs to including dealing with what has happened and admitting guilt and apologising. But he's shutting down each time because he says they don't want to see me to so why should I?
Has anyone any ideas of how I can deal with constructively and get passed it and rebuild the relationship?