Legal guardianship of your child if anything happened to you and their other parent

[bourbonbiccy]

I have recently experienced the devastatingly heartbreaking bereavement of my amazing mum. I have an 11 month old and it has left me starting to make plans and put things in place if anything ever happens to me. This led me to thinking, what would happen if anything happened to both myself and my hubby. While my brother is an amazing person and I would love my son to grow up to have a lot if his qualities and I know he would look after my son in every way possible, he is not great with kids and both him and his partner have said they don't want kids, and my brother regularly says his partner can't look after herself never mind a kid or pet. But my brother has made a comment about obviously "getting" my son if anything happened to us. But I feel my hubby sister would be better equipped.but I would want caviats in place like she couldn't move him out the country so my family can't see him etc

Sorry about that waffle, so in short has anyone put a legal guardianship in place in a will? Who did you award it too and why? And did you put any caviats in.

@DrunkUnicorn yes sounds the same as what I would want ( the uk based thing) do you have this in writing, set out in a will or have you just discussed it with them and they are happy. I only ask as I wondered if you were told the caviats would stand legally or just your wishes would be heard by a court and passed on to the designated guardian, sorry to fire questions at you, just wondering

@DrunkUnicorn thanks yes we are going to have the chat with my SIL and my brother to set out their roles if anything were to happen to us. I suppose we should be grateful my DS has all these people who would love to care for him. At tines I think my SIL would Steal him now given half the chance she adores him that much lol. But you are definitely correct it is keeping me awake running the different option through my head and the fear of what would happen as we have nothing on paper. So I did this post for good suggestions and then a little kick to get it sorted, thanks