weaning pacifier

[BellaVictoria]

I need ideas on weaning a 3 year old off her pacifier. Thanks

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hi mine was thrown to the birdies (my mom fethed it in before i went looking for it) i have got my dd to only have her diddy at sleep times or if she is really upset an not just a whinge.
You could explain to her she is big girl now and she can swap i for a new toy etc
beware you will be unsettled. you could slowly bin them one at a time be carfull my dd has hidy spots for them! good luck

thanks

We went slowly - only at bedtimes then swapped for a treat of her choice that she could play with all day and wasn't that so much better than dummy which she was only allowed at bedtimes IYKWIM

she has a bear & her pacifier...they're always together!!!! At school she leaves them in a locker...at home she leaves them when we gotta work outside....but when she's upset or tired...you can't mess with either!!!!!

we've read that they'll wean themselves by 5...our dentist is completely against it....we're caught in the middle...

We sent my DD1's dummy to Father Christmas so she would get lovely presents!!! Mean I know but it worked

Andie: what's the letters at the end of your message?

emwad: how old was he/she?

Bella victoria, how old is your DD? Mine is nearly 2 and she still needs a dummy alot Are you in UK or US? I try not to give it to her during the day, but it's the only way I can get her to sit in her car seat. I am now begining to worry about the effect on her teeth.

My experience was with DP DD who stays with us on a weekend, apparently still has dummy at mammys at bedtime, she's just turned 6!
You've just got to be strong (easy for me to say it when i only did it on a weekend) we went thru the whole "it's only for bedtime" thing knowing full well that on a Sunday she could have it whenever she wanted it.
Really hard but something will click and it won't be wanted anymore.

IYKWIM = If You Know What I Mean

She was approx 2.5 - 3 yrs.

Lynnette, she's 3...we're in America

well, she just slipped at fell....and all she wanted was her pacifier & her bear!!! I'm not seeing her bargaining well at all!!!!

What about when she gets upset or tired? what do you guys do?

I can't really remember that far back (DD 9 now) for specifics but with DS1 we will just see how it goes (he is only 6 mths now and has it all the time). Sorry can't be more help

emwad: thanks for your input

Anyone else...any other ideas?

you just have to do it if it has been cut down to just when needed swap it for something she has wanted ie new doll teddy etc kind of like tooth fairy you leave diddy an get pressie

I can see I'm going to be posting exactly the same as BellaVictoria in a years time!

Can you save the dummy for bedtime only? And give just cuddles and bear during the day? Or is that stupid? If it is then just let her have the dummy when she does really need it. Then take it out as soon as possible afterward, when she's calmed down.

I don't know.....is there a right/wrong way???

I don't think there is a right or wrong way. Only you know best how your DD will handle things. Personally I know a dummy really makes my DD relax, which can't be a bad thing. She'll start nursery just after she turns 3, and I won't let her take it, but heavens only knows when she'll give it up at bed time.

We started her at school 2 days a week when she was 2...we thought we'd do the same....but then being away from all of her stuff.....we let her have it. Now, she puts it in a little locker she has...and only gets it when she's in real need.
I guess I have not found that at home yet........

I think dummies have such a stigma atached to them. DS1 sucked his thumb in class when he was 4; the other children told him he was a baby, but the teacher told them to leave him alone. I sucked my thumb as a child,and find it totally acceptable, but if I see an older child with a dummy, I'm afraid I will be judgemental. If your DD's friends point out to her she is babyish, she may not want it at school any more. There is no rule of thumb (excuse my pun). Just do what is best for you and your DD to get her to drop the habbit when you are ready.

I agree with the stigma......we've gotten it from all sorts of stuff......diapers when she was still wearing them, pacifier, breat feeding, her bear....
So far we have done what's best....we're unclear about this.....especially since the dentist ddressed it with me