Another grunting baby

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dC2 is 4 weeks and just like Dc1 has started to grunt in his sleep all night long...I feel like I am being tortured.

I late awake all night as it is so hard to sleep through.

With Dc1 it lasted for 11 weeks...ELEVEN WEEKS! how am I going to do this again when Dc1 is only 15 months and has me up at 5am!

Anyone else with a grunter have some words of support?

I remember the nightmare of a noisy sleeper!
My daughter did this for 5 months, until she was prescribed ranitidine. It was reflux related.

Ours is 6 months and still grunting I have found baby vicks and elevating the cot works to ease it

5 and 6 months! How on Earth did you cope with the sleep deprivation? I am literally unable to sleep through it, I lay awake most of the night until I maybe drift off for 20 minutes at a time until he wakes me up again.

How did you survive?!

Ear plugs are your friend.

Well when he is not snoring grunting or thrashing around he is awake so sleep is a luxury in this house I genuinely can't say how we are surviving save that I do the night feeds so bare the brunt DH did one night this week and needed a nap . I do find myself uttering the phrase "this too shall pass"!! a lot

Mine grunted a LOT and it was silent reflux and CMPA. It was like sleeping in a barnyard

Ds is on neocate already due to suspected cmpa...I don't think it's reflux as aside from hiccups he doesn't show any other symptoms, and DD was exactly the same.

You ladies sound like you are all coping with it really well. I literally feel like it is breaking me. I feel so depressed over it and irrationally angry with all other mum's that don't have to suffer through it.

I remember the grunting!! My truffle pig was very prem and for such a tiny baby he snorted incredibly loudly. I miss the snorts (but not the lack of sleep!x

I am terrible I moved all my children out of my room early because of this. First was 3 months, second was 5 weeks, third 8 weeks. I couldn't sleep listening to all the noise, my daughter is 3 months with suspected cmpa and silent reflux and like your son is on neocate. She is quite a difficult sleeper and feeder. My toddler is also waking me at night multiple times screaming. I'm very sleep deprived and at times very anxious, but I know from experience it gets better as I went through all this when I had my second and my eldest was waking me at night and still you have to get through each day! Hugs xxx

Ps I also feel very jealous and irrationally angry with the mums who say 'oh all mine were fab sleepers/feeders' because all mine weren't..

I went to the doctors and cried, I didn’t brush my teeth for more than a week, I snapped at my husband so badly that he was afraid of me, I had zero patience with my toddler and I lost a stone. So I get it. Sorry for sounding flippant earlier. It really did go away but the biggest thing I did was move her to her own room at 10 weeks and sod the sodding guidelines.

Mine ended up in their own rooms for my sanity I am an incredibly light sleeper in a tiny house with cardboard doors...

In hindsight I'd use ear plugs so baby could here us breathing!

Thanks for your honesty guys,it really makes me feel better as right now I feel like a failure for not being able to cope. It's so hard to find other people that understand as when I talk about it to others most will say "aww at least you know he is there" or " aww mine made little noises too"...I could punch them in the face, these noises are not cute and they certainly aren't little!

I wish I could find the strength to put him in his own room because it's breaking me right now and making me hate motherhood.

I agree with the ear plug suggestions!! They were my sanity for first few months. They just dulled the noise enough to not wake me constantly but I still heard crying etc when DS needed me.

‘This too shall pass’

Mine were sleeping though and I most certainly wasn't and had boobs spurting out milk sleep deprivation is a well used form of torture because it works!!! Best ear plugs I've found are orange shaped foam ones.

My two are 10&12 now but I never had them in my room due to the grunting. I could certainly hear them when they woke properly in their own rooms though. I appreciate that it is not the advice given now though. Good luck.

Gosh yes sleep deprivation is the worst I have a two year old who has slept 8 hours in a row precisely twice!
But please keep your child close putting them in their own room very very young is so dangerous. How would you feel if something awful were to happen and you weren't there????
Everyone knows lack of sleep comes with having babies sorry you just need to tolerate it for a while.

Another vote for earplugs, were a game changer for me in terms of sleep. Unfortunately I still need them now and the grunting baby is now 2!

@glassofred...I'm assuming you have had a baby who grunts all night long then with your "suck it up buttercup" statement?

I took to using ear plugs and sleeping with white noise which helped the baby sleep anyway. I could hear well enough that if he started to wimper I could resettle or feed him but all the little grunts and sniffles were blocked out.

Yes the earplugs take the edge off it - you'll still hear them if they need you, don't worry.

Sounds like silent reflux, hiccups and grunting are classic symptoms. DS was like a truffle pig in his little cot next to my bed, which sounds cute...until you try to sleep next to it.

Ranitidine was a saviour.

Another vote for putting him in his own room. I hate earplugs!

Have you had him checked out? Anything else odd with his breathing (eg skin around ribs sucking in when he breathes).

My smaller twin has both, and he wasn’t just grunting at night, he sounded like a warthog 24/7 until he was about 9 months old, and only improved at night around 15 months (unsurprisingly that’s also when he started sleeping better).

He was diagnosed with enlarged adenoids, and a friend’s baby has similar issues caused by a floppy larynx.

@sinkgirl no haven't had him checked out, but only because DD was exactly the same, and we were back and forth to the Drs with her over it, only to be told it's just what some babies do. He rarely doesn't during the day, and never when awake...he just saves it for night time.

I'm probably just in a rotten mood due to the lack of sleep now and for months to come, but for anyone refers to these grunts as "little noises" or something similar...I don't think we are on the same page!

I agree with giving white noise a try if you haven’t already , and if you notice any signs of actual difficulty breathing (pauses in breathing, blue tinge to lips or increased effort to breathe) then definitely get him checked over. I hope it doesn’t last long for you. Is your partner helpful, assuming you’re not single? Can you take turns / shifts so you each get some rest?