Another grunting baby

[Namechangemum100]

dC2 is 4 weeks and just like Dc1 has started to grunt in his sleep all night long...I feel like I am being tortured.

I late awake all night as it is so hard to sleep through.

With Dc1 it lasted for 11 weeks...ELEVEN WEEKS! how am I going to do this again when Dc1 is only 15 months and has me up at 5am!

Anyone else with a grunter have some words of support?

If it's reflux you'll be fobbed off by doctors until the cows come home. "It's what babies do" sounds familiar...
Or worse, you'll be given that evil stuff that is infant gaviscon.
Once my daughter was diagnosed and prescribed ranitidine she was like a different child.
She only needed to take it for about 3 months. By the time she was predominantly sitting up and crawling, and established on solids, she was fine.

I asked my midwife about this...also earplugs! They blocked DS's background noise out but not his crying for a feed 😁

Yes love my baby grunted with broncilitis if she'd been shoved in another room for my own convenience she probably wouldn't be here now. Get a grip will you it's not all about you.

Brochiolitis grunting is totally different and presents with other symptoms such as runny/blocked nose, wheezing, chest retractions and phlegmatic breathing.

Hi OP just checking in hope you are ok? . I would try the earplugs it may take off the worst of the noise. I've also been to see a consultant Pediatrician as PFB was a premie- we have been referred to ENT although she could not see enlarged tonsils etc we showed her a video of DS and she agreed his noises were more than "snuffles" so it maybe worth getting to the gp for a check over? Take some video footage so you have some examples. Feel free to PM me if you need to - you are doing a great job don't doubt that - be kind to yourself. Sleep deprivation is the absolute pits and a highly effective form of torture - I feel I'd be great on SAS are you tough enough now 😂. I also find chugging a lot of water helps - I've also discovered quite by accident a freezing cold shower in the morning wakes you up from that horrible sleep fog quick smart

Oh god DD2 did this and it was a killer. DD1 was snuffly/grunty but DD2 was a whole other level. It was torture.
The way we dealt with it was that I slept in the spare room! DH was a much deeper sleeper and was able to sleep through it better than I could, so I went in the spare room and he just came to fetch me when she needed feeding.
I always wonder whether there was something ‘wrong’ but she didn’t show any other symptoms of reflux or allergies so I think it’s just the way she was.

Haha I remember this! My second was a terrible grunter he sounded like a baby goat! And third grunted all the time even when feeding. It does pass as it know, no help now though!

Kindly do one @glassofred...it isn't that as I have already explained...way to shame and guilt trip.

Go spread your venom elsewhere.

And for your information@glassofred, had you read my posts properly you will see that I am well aware it's not all about me, hence why he is still in my room! And I am asking for help on how to cope with it!

Clearly your lo didn't have the same kind of grunting as the rest of us have experienced, and therefore you are not qualified to comment on this matter, let alone critisize!

one of my twins was like this. It tipped me over the edge, completely broke me. I couldn't explain to anyone how tortuous it was; like listening to my baby in pain every second of every minute of every hour of the night, and the irony was, she was the good sleeper!! She was sleeping; I wasn't! Then she suddenly stopped. At about five months I think. Feel for you op. It will stop. x

@mommybear1 I am ok, thank you for asking :) dh slept with him last night so I could get some sleep in the spare room, he seems to sleep through it alot better than me. I think as mum's we are biologically tuned into our babies, so it feels virtually impossible to ignore him, especially because it sounds like he is in pain.

I have spent some time reading about silent reflux today and think he is actually showing a fair few symptoms. He has a peadiatric review for his cmpa on Wednesday so I will discuss it there to see if they agree.

For those with reflux babies,what was your experience like in getting a diagnosis and medication. I'm very reluctant to put him on baby gaviscon if offered asi have read it causes constipation and his bowel movements are slow anyway, and DD has horrid constipation so I feel as though it won't be good for him.

Also, those with grunters or refluxers...what's your experience with naps? Just like DD I have a 30 minute napper as well, I thought my luck might be in with Ds and that he couldn't possibly have all the same traits as DD who almost drove me insane...but it seems I'm reliving the last year of hell all over again day and night.

Mine had catnaps until I swaddled her and then she slept longer, when she started rolling I unswaddled her and trained her to nap longer. I did this by watching the monitor like a hawk and as soon I saw her stirring I went in and held her still and shhhd her over to the next sleep cycle. It took 2 weeks and now she has lovely long naps.

I also recommend white noise. I downloaded an app for my phone a couple of days ago and I think it helps my son sleep, but it helps me more by drowning out the noises he makes. You can also set a timer so it switches off eventually.

Gaviscon made my son really constipated, so we are using ranitidine now. which isn't as bad. but he still has problems going. Trying switching to comfort milk to see if it will help (also slightly thicker so it will hopefully be easier to keep down)

Sorry forgot to say, didn't have a problem getting prescribed either, gaviscon was prescribed over a phone call with my GP, ranitidine when we took him into the children's hospital due to projectile vomiting.

Hi namechange glad you are ok and ignoring the pointless responses on this thread. You are so right my DH is exactly the same when he does a night feed shift he literally wakes only when the baby needs to be fed - it's truly incredible not to mention completely annoying. Good luck for Wednesday

"Sorry forgot to say, didn't have a problem getting prescribed either, gaviscon was prescribed over a phone call with my GP, ranitidine when we took him into the children's hospital due to projectile vomiting."

We had exactly the same experience. Gaviscon made our daughter constipated.

Hi OP,

Very similar baby here. DM didn't believe me until she came to stay over one night when DD was 9 days old and then said "something's wrong, babies aren't meant to sound like that in their sleep".

DD is now 16 weeks with silent reflux and suspected cmpa. Gaviscon was useless (but always the first thing they try). Ranitidine helped massively with the grunting but took a couple of weeks to take effect. Today we've been moved onto omeprezole to try and tackle ongoing feeding issues. She's on neocate too.

We moved the next2me away from the bed, have a ewan sheep for white noise and I wear earplugs (they just reduce the noise, i can still hear everything). These things help me sleep slightly better.

You have my sympathy, it's awful and I've found that only mum's with reflux/allergy babies truly 'get it'. Hope you're alright, one day this will be a distant memory.

ds1 went "ahhh ahh ahh..ahhh ahhhhhhhhh a ahhhhha"to self settle when bedtimes....ds2 thumb sooker..around 8months he took to grunts..i thought was cause hes taurus..(.not that i thought very much as to how reasonable explanation was obviously)

If any comfort my grunter when she stopped at 5 months became the most awesome sleeper and napper .... 12 hrs at night and at least 2 hr naps in the day. Her non grunting twin on the other hand.... sorry I have no decent advice except hang in there xx

You poor love. My DS did this - he was 6 weeks prem and the grunting I think went on until he was about 3 months old. It was utter torture. He grunted ALL NIGHT, and I literally couldn't sleep AT ALL. Not a wink. I too posted on forums about it and I used to be utterly bereft at the responses that said "aw it was quite sweet" and "little snuffles" etc because literally I hated the noises so much I started to get really angry about it and hated DS for a while as awful as that makes me feel now.

I tried everything. White noise in the bedroom, white noise through my headphones and then trying to sleep with headphones in, head under my pillow, nothing worked. I then got so anxious with every little grunt (read, LOUD GRUNT) that I couldn't sleep even when he wasn't grunting. I think I lasted about 10 days. At some point, I was so sleep deprived I felt physically sick and emotionally on the edge/over the edge.

DH realised how bad it had got and banished me to the spare room, waking me for feeds. He could actually sleep through it amazingly, because he is a deeper sleeper than me. And that's how we coped, me in spare room and DS in with DH for the first few months. At some points, the grunting was so loud that DH couldn't deal with it and then we slept in shifts through the night, all week (yes, when DH was working). Without this, I think I would have been admitted to hospital with severe depression as I was literally losing my mind.

Do you have a DH who can share the load with?

I really feel for you - the grunting was utter hell. BUT it will pass and it won't happen forever and you will get through this. Sending lots of hugs xxx

You have my sympathy OP! Ds was an epic grunter with silent reflux and the paediatrician prescribed omeprazole which was fantastic (infant gaviscon was useless). He was also a cat napper...he nearly broke me😳 BUT it does pass, so hang on in there and be kind to yourself. It's especially tough when you have an older one too. Hugs of solidarity 👊🏼

Ear plugs saved my life

My son was grunting alot as well as a newborn . He was diagnosed with silent reflux at 6 weeks and was put on renidetine . He then developed severe eczema at 4 months and the pediatrician said it was suspected cmpa . We are now on neocate and (touch wood ) his sleep improved a lot . He stopped grunting once on renidetine but he didnt sleep anw until recently :p

I had this and just wanted to send mum-of-warthog-sympathy and parent of CMPA kids fist bumps. My DH was never bothered by the walrus-noises (infuriating!) but the noise and the ensuing sleeplessness nearly broke me. Here's what I did: got one of those video baby monitors plus a breathing mat sensor thing and put him in his own room next to ours - I then had controllable sound volume but could still see and hear him when I needed to check on him plus added reassurance of the breathing sensor pad. After the first couple of nights of worrying incessantly and spending half the night gazing at him on the monitor, I added bio silicone earplugs (for me, not the baby), put the sound monitor on DH's side of the bed and had the best sleep EVER. Did exactly the same for the next baby. People underestimate the effect of sleep loss and the subsequent anxiety and I think it's easy to forget about your own need for sanity - hope you find something that helps and you get some rest!