Little girls with bare chests

[FusionChefGeoff]

So in the park, DS(5) takes off t shirt. All good. DD(3) also wants to take off t shirt.

I don't think I mind - but I am worried about a park full of people judging me. They have cream on, this is a question of 'should' girls be ok topless in public before puberty??

What do you think? Should I let her take her T shirt off too?

I'm a strident feminist usually but really finding this one difficult.

I don't think you second guessing yourself is stupid or silly or 'brain dead'.

I think your two parallel trains of thought are perfectly reasonable because in this day and age, someone's ALWAYS judging.

Children of either sex should have tshirts on to protect their skin from burning.

DD is 6 and still way off the age I would feel uncomfortable if she took her top off.

Sadly, she is already starting to be self conscious because of comments from classmates

What would their judging look like or feel like that is so serious for you to make this an issue ?

Of course. Let little girls run free.

I really can't understand your train of though. She's 3 not 13.
I would keep t- shirts on a child of any age in this weather but your (non) logistical leap to pedophiles is ridiculous.

I might judge you for the sun exposure but not for the nipples. I put both my girl babies in just swim pants at the pool until the oldest was old about 3.5 and noticed other girls were in one piece costumes.

Come back when she is 9

My four year old daughter will only wear trunks when swimming. So at her swimming lesson, everyone assumes she is a boy. I can’t see why anyone would ‘judge’ this. Of course you should let your 3 yr old girl wear just pants!

In fact, how would the rest of the park know she was a girl and not a boy to ‘judge’ you?

How would anyone tell whether a 3-year-old was a girl or a boy? confused

At THREE ? Good grief she is still virtually a baby, of course she can run around topless. Any age up to puberty is fine anyway, but many girls want to cover up from about seven. Have pic here of dd and her friend, aged 8 and 7, in the sea in nothing but their pants a couple of years ago. It was Autumn so they had no costumes but it was warm so they happily stripped off. No one batted an eyelid.

I get you OP
The idea that a little girl nipple are the same than breast and therefore sexual and shouod be hidden is well and truly there and present.

As another poster said, her dd is now feeling self concious age 6yo (learnt at school). Where do you think these 6yo have learnt that from?

I think you will get judged, maybe be starred at. But I would still do it because THEY have the every backward view of girls body. Not you.

I would let her do the same. 13 no. 3 yes.

You're overthinking this. Your daughter has nothing to show, nothing to hide. If she wants to go topless in this heat why shouldn't she? The sensible people in the park will not judge you or her.

I wouldn't let any of my children out bare chested, but that's because I'm scared of skin cancer. We have a family history of it on both sides.

There are many photos of my sister and I age about 1.5 and 3.5 running around a beach on holiday completely starkers. None of the people around seem to be batting an eyelid but not sure I’d let my kids run around naked. Topless is fine!

I wouldn't let her, but I wouldn't let DS either because children should be covered up to protect them from the sun.

Relax. It's perfectly fine.

She's three! When I was little and we used to go in holiday in the South of France all little girls up to about 10 just wore bottoms

I agree that at 3 it's fine. There is no difference between girls chests and boys chests at this age. I am uncomfortable with little girls in bikinis when they are this young, my mother buys them for my 3yr old and I feel it's like pretending she has breasts..... I think I need to join the ranks of those of us who over think things!!!

Pre puberty boys and girls bodies are almost identical.

Judging by the family photos, I’m pretty sure I didn’t wear clothes on sunny days until I was about 8. I find young girls in bikinis a much stranger thought than bare chested ones.

You're thinking about this waaaay too much. My DS and the neighbours kids (girls)have pretty much spent the last two day running around the gardens in underpants/knickers .... and on occasions completely naked. The only thing we've been concerned about is if they've got enough sun cream on!

another poster said, her dd is now feeling self concious age 6yo (learnt at school). Where do you think these 6yo have learnt that from?

That was me. But my point was that she shouldn't be feeling self conscious at 6, and there is nothing about her body that needs to be hidden at that age.

There is nothing sexual about a 6 year olds nipple