Do you let your toddler run

[LizMyles]

I have a question. Do those of you with toddlers allow them to run on hard surfaces such as decking and concrete or do you prevent this in case of falls?

Sorry my message was confusing. It wasn’t my OH that scarred at 10 months old it was our son. He fell when holding onto the side of his wooden activity block and bashed his eyelid on one of the corners and it has caused a scar. My OH now tries everything in his power to prevent anymore accidents. No running.. no jumping.. etc etc etc

Thanks for your comment. Nice to hear from some one who’s suffered with anxiety. Have you had treatment for it? If so, was it private or NHS?

I’m not sure if I’m replying to the right posts. I’m hitting reply.. but my messages just seem to be coming up as new not as replies. Anyway.. hope they’ve made sense.

@LizMyles I think the anxiety treatment was to me? It’s NHS, combination of medication (mirtazipine on a half dose because the full dose makes me too sleepy), counselling and mindfulness with my CPN and CBT.

I won’t pretend my anxiety is gone, but most days I can handle it to the point I’m able to function.

It's made sense Liz.

My Ds slipped indoors when he was 2.8 and caught his eyebrow on the corner of a chest. He had to have it glued in casualty. It was a nasty scar for several years. He is 16 now and you can only see it as a silver line when he gets a tan now. Knocks and cuts do fade with time, only the really serious ones last. I think he is rather proud of his scar though.

Children will fall and hurt themselves, it's not usually injuries that leave scars, thankfully.

However, you can obviously see it's an issue regarding your DH. It could really hinder his relationship with his son as your son grows up. He's 27 months now, what about even he's 4 or 7 or 10 and may want to do much much ambitious activities/sports?

I do think it's worth trying to get some counselling for your OH as it's not something that will change as your son grows up, unless he gets some help with the issue.

A friend of mine was over protective with her first child, telling him to be careful all the time and not allowing any 'risky' behaviour.
When he was about 10 she told me that she regretted how she had taught him to be in his early years because he of course grew into an overly cautious and nervous child.
Your oh is being detrimental to his child's development, he would benefit from therapy to address his anxiety rather than passing it on to his son.

I had a friend that stopped their 4/5 year old running on anything but grass. I just inwardly thought they're making their child think that running/concrete is inherently dangerous.

LizMyles you can only put your replies at the very bottom of the thread not under someone else comment like Facebook.

You show you are replying to some in particular you put their name in bold first. You put something in bold by putting a either side of the word with no space between the word and the