Leaving baby

[BabyPufflingMumna]

I am a first time mum to DS who is 4 months old. He was born prematurely and is BF and still feeding every 2 hours. It’s been tough as my other half is not supportive and we argue lots. Recently he has said that I need to start leaving the baby with him more and that it’s a sign of PND that I don’t want to leave DS.
I have left him for a couple of hours on one occasion but have no desire to be away from him. I say I would like time for a bath and a nap without having to go out and he says it’s not healthy that I don’t want to leave my son.
I guess I would like to know if it’s worrying that I don’t want to leave the baby yet. At what point should I worry that it’s not healthy wanting to be with him all the time?

If you’re dh is saying he wants more time with your dc and letting you have some me time. Then it seems he is supportive.

BackforGood I agree to a point. I think it is easier for dad to bond with baby when they aren’t under the watchful eye of mum.

But I do think op dh needs to earn his stripes a little bit and work with op until she feels happy to leave her baby. It’s nit strange for op to be extremely protective of her new baby. The bond is stronger there with the mother at the the start, no doubt.

My mil took my Dd out very young without my consent. A bit like the grey area of consent though, I wasn’t strong enough to explicitly tell her not to. I cried the whole time she was gone and I’ve never totally forgiven her.

The thing that would annoy me is dh suggestions that op is sick and he is do No her a favour getting her to go out, instead of out and out framing it as craving one to one time with baby.

I think he sounds clueless and baffled about the arguments. Perhaps he has googled about this and decided he prefers the idea that op is sick rather than the idea that he is a bit useless and unhelpful.

Thanks AssasinatedBeauty that's exactly it. There is no care or understanding that I don't want to leave him and could do with some 'me time' while he watches DS. I felt attacked when he said it wasn't normal or healthy that I don't want to go out. I'm sure he said it to hurt me but that's a different issue. I started to worry that maybe I should think more about leaving him even though I really don't want to. so wanted Some Mums advice and opinions on when you all started to leave your DC.