I bought How to Listen So Kids Will Talk etc, because of cod's thread, and it is *brilliant*

[Pruni]

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I have been thinking about getting this book and tried a couple of the strategies I read on Cod's thread and had a better week (until 4.45am today when DS2 thought it was a good time to get up and wake the whole house ) so I think I will definitely buy my own copy.

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i have just ordered this and also how to talk so kids learn.
i will let you know what i think and if it is useful for kids with autism!

is it by adele faber and elaine mazlish? there are so many versions. which to get?

Ah well Pruni chuck it my way after you have finished it pls

you can put it in with Necklace of Raindrops

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I haven't read my copy for a year or two (must fish it out) but one thing that I have started using recently with my 7 year old ds that really works is this:

Instead of asking him to do something again and again and again, then getting cross when he doesn't do it, I ask him once, then if he doesn't do it I say

"Ds, tell me what I have asked you to do"

He repeats the instruction, then I say something like

"Great! Now I know you know I don't have to ask you again"

So far it has worked like a dream, no endless nagging/getting cross/ds getting upset

that sounds really good. does it work with overgrown kids like dp's?

LOL Fransmom!

Is there?

Is there? I mean is there one?

I'm going to bed before I kill another thread

i don't know but there should be!

(or it should be called "how not to laugh at an ovwergrown kid having a stamping /screaming tantrum" i pmsl

I'd buy it!

so would i ........ i might even leave it on the table

overgrown even

What age group is this book aimed at? I'm guessing it's too late for me and my 11 year old

lol fransmum I should try it on my dh!

schnapps - I think it is still relevant for that age. There might also be a book aimed at parents of teenagers, I think?

i think some teachers must use it, at least when i help in class i am often imprssed how they actually talk to the children... i need to swallow a few phrases.
any examples,? too m ean to buy it

and is cod's thread helpful?

i will search for it if it is

I've just ordered it from speccy's link for £6.86

wallace, i think that you, foxy brown and i should write something like that then

Good idea! My input will be providing plentiful examples of twattish dh behaviour

how about classic dp'isms?

my fave is (when i had boiled the kettle and refilled it straight away with cold water..........)

you can't do that, you will confuse the element

rofl and pmsl as good as seeing him have a tantrum

erm i dont knwo if my thread is hlepful

it is er FUNNY

cod?