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Baby gate/closed bedroom door ?

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sourpatchkid · 14/03/2018 21:48

DS and I currently bed share on a mattress in his room (he's 15 months). I've always gone to bed with him but would like to start leaving him for an hour before I go up.

We tried a baby gate but that means I can't close the door when I go to bed.

I don't want to close the door on him while he's alone. It's not safe to have the door open.

Is there a solution? Would a retractable gate work?

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whampiece · 14/03/2018 21:54

Why can't you close the door when the gate is on?

Astrid2 · 14/03/2018 21:58

Baby gate at top of stairs? Bedroom door open but all others shut?

Icklepickle101 · 14/03/2018 21:59

We have a gate on the other side of the door lining so the door closes fine, is that not an option?

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Believeitornot · 14/03/2018 22:00

Why don’t you want to close the door?

That’s what we did. We had a monitor so could hear the dcs if they needed us

GinIsIn · 14/03/2018 22:02

Why can’t you close the door?

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sourpatchkid · 14/03/2018 22:03

Thanks for such quick replies

I know he would be scared if he woke (which he does) and the door was closed (because he wouldn't be able to open it) I would have a monitor but don't want him to be scared before i get there.

We bought and fitted a baby gate but the door then wouldn't really even move never mind close

The landing isn't safe, it goes straight to the stairs which are open plan

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GreenTulips · 14/03/2018 22:03

We had a door clip that held the door closed but slightly open - one finer operation - to stop the cat getting in - was fairly cheap and a few screws to fit

SleepingInYourFlowerbed · 14/03/2018 22:07

Do you need to close the door when you go to bed if there is a stairgate on the doorway?

whampiece · 14/03/2018 22:16

Where are you fitting the gate?

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sourpatchkid · 14/03/2018 22:23

@GreenTulips - that's interesting. Is it easy to take it off (to open and close door)

Baby gate was fitted within the frame, I can't really see where else it would go ..

With the baby gate on I literally can't close the door at all and I can't sleep with it wide open (too bright and feels too exposed)

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DuckBilledAardvark · 14/03/2018 22:27

What's wrong with having the door open and a gate on? We've had ours like that with our pre-schooler for a couple of years and it's never really caused any problems.

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sourpatchkid · 14/03/2018 22:30

Because I sleep there too Duck and I can't sleep with the door open. I want to be able to shut it when I go to sleep.

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whampiece · 14/03/2018 22:31

Baby gate was fitted within the frame, I can't really see where else it would go ..

On the outside piece of frame, the bit that doesn't have the door in it

GreenTulips · 14/03/2018 22:37

The clip is similar to a cupboard door clip so stays ajar when in place - you then twist the long piece up and the door shuts properly

Believeitornot · 14/03/2018 22:50

If he woke, it would only take less than a minute to get to him. He would quickly learn that you come when he calls....

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sourpatchkid · 14/03/2018 23:19

I know I'm being daft Wham but I can't understand what you mean - the gate screwed into the door frame, I don't know what else it would rest against but I'll have a look tomorrow to try to figure it out

Thanks re: clips Green. I'll look into them.

Believe - I don't want him scared even if only takes a few mins. If the door is ajar or has gate on he will crawl to it and about me. In the dale he will just be scared.

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sourpatchkid · 14/03/2018 23:21

Ha! No glasses on and the last bit of my message makes no sense

Dark not dale

And I meant he would call for me

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FormerlyFrikadela01 · 14/03/2018 23:27

Honestly i understand wanting to prevent him being scared but he will very very quickly learn that you will come. Surely this is one of the things we try and teach our children, that we aren't always there but it's not something to fear.

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sourpatchkid · 14/03/2018 23:38

You know I kinda agree but I just can't. I know him, if he wakes and ends up scared it will take me ages to settle him back to sleep. I don't have the energy for that right now, i just don't. I'll teach him bravery in the day light hours 😊

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Caterina99 · 14/03/2018 23:40

OP I get that our parenting style is probably different since bed sharing is so not my thing, but I think you should just close the door. Why would he be scared? It’s his bedroom where he sleeps every night. He might be upset or angry that you aren’t right there as that’s what he wants, but probably not scared.

Regarding the gate - assume your door opens onwards into your room, then fit the gate opening outwards on the outside part of the door frame.

minipie · 15/03/2018 00:12

Is he old enough to be scared of the dark? Mine weren't remotely bothered by it till age 2+.

GinIsIn · 15/03/2018 00:58

Would be actually be scared or are you supposing he would? Have you tried? I have a DS only a couple of months younger than yours and it simply wouldn’t bother him whether a door was shut or not.

SleepingInYourFlowerbed · 15/03/2018 06:31

Fit the gate in the outer part of the door frame rather than the inner, if that makes sense

Believeitornot · 15/03/2018 06:45

Well you could try closing the door and see what happens....

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