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Would you let your parents take your 3 year old on holiday.

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LandSmum · 02/05/2007 22:43

My partner and I get on excellently with my parents and they are brilliant with our 2 dd's. DD1 has just turned 3 and my parents have asked if they could take her on holiday with them this year to give us a rest - DD2 is only 11 weeks and breastfeeding so impossible for them to take her too.
I trust them completely and know that she would be as well looked after with them as she is at home but I am in a complete dilemma as to wether to allow her to go or not (they are paying by the way). I think its partly selfish of me because I know how much I would miss her, she would obviously miss us but she would have so much fun and she is really close to my parents that I dont think it would bother her that much.

What would you do?

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LucyJones · 03/05/2007 09:59

3 year old ds has just been to stay with inlaws for 4 nights on his own. It was the first time we'd done this and he was absolutely fine. I too have a young baby and they were able to take him places that I haven't been able to for ages. He got spoilt rotten and I got some quality time with my little one. I was worried but am I so glad we did it as now we know we can do it again

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LandSmum · 03/05/2007 10:08

No I dont think she would get jealous - well she hasnt been so far and she has stayed over since dd2 was born but dd2 has only stayed over once (bf'ing makes it difficult or both girls would be going at same time to stay).

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rarrie · 04/05/2007 00:23

We're going on holiday with my parents, as we do every year, but this year my parents are taking away my eldest DD for a long Weekend (Fri - Mon). They're only going to an hour away, and DD loves them, and they look after her 2 1/2 days a week anyway, so I don't have any problems with that at all. It will also allow me to spend some time with my youngest (5 months).

However, I wouldn't let her go with my ILs as they don't respect the way I'm bringing up my children.

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DaphneHarvey · 04/05/2007 01:28

No. Neither would I want my 6 year old to be apart from us for a whole week. No matter who with.

UCM · 04/05/2007 01:31

I haven't read this entire thread, but yes I would. She bought you up and you are still here

UCM · 04/05/2007 01:33

Just to add that my two will never really know their grandparents, my father is very very ill. My Darling Mother died 15 years ago, Dh's parents are dead.

You are lucky that your children have grandparents really

roisin · 04/05/2007 01:42

Yes, I would - I'm tempted to say of course. You clearly trust your parents implicitly and they do lots of childcare for you already: it's a great opportunity for all of you.

FWIW we lived a long way from my parents so they couldn't do regular childcare, but used to have the boys to stay a couple of times a year to give us a break. The boys loved it and my parents enjoyed it too: the stuff of really precious memories.

When the boys were 3 and 5 my dad was diagnosed with cancer, and over the next 4 years such visits were not possible, and the times they did spend with my dad (visiting in hospital, keeping quiet in the house because he was so poorly, etc.) are very different memories.

My dad died last year (he was only 64) and I am so pleased that they have so many positive and active memories of my dad, because of that early time together.

So take the opportunities when they are available: you never know what's round the corner. Those options may not be there when the children are older.

WideWebWitch · 04/05/2007 06:04

I would too.

belgo · 04/05/2007 06:11

I wouldn't let my parents take my dd aged three away on holiday. I completely trust them and they are great with her, but I think it would be too much hard work for them, and they wouldn't get a holiday.

Also my dd would miss me too much, as I have seen when an older friend of mine took her granddaughter aged three on holiday without her parents. She was very upset the whole holiday, wouldn't eat much, and refused to talk. I felt very sorry for her.

And I would miss her far too much.

NadineBaggott · 04/05/2007 06:52

Sorry, I don't know what the problem is.

All your posts show not one ounce of concern that your parents are incapable or that your dd would be upset, in fact just the opposite!

What a great adventure and happy memories in the making for your dd and her grandparents.

Get packing!

PregnantGrrrl · 04/05/2007 07:34

my parents, yes i would, as long as it wasn't for too long. (only because i'd miss DS!)

twentypence · 04/05/2007 07:35

Is it the "to give us a break" bit that's stopping you biting their hand off - like you think it's like admitting that you are finding it hard having 2 children.

I never said yes to any suggestion my MIL made to have ds to "give me a break". I think someone tipped her off that if she tried saying how much she would enjoy having ds to stay she would be more successful and I said yes straight away.

She now rings and says "we enjoy having him to stay so much and he's no trouble - please can we have him again".

Anna8888 · 04/05/2007 07:37

I definitely would. My daughter (2.6) has stayed alone with my parents (at their house in England while I was on holiday abroad) for up to 11 days and it was lovely for ALL of us. I didn't worry a bit.

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LandSmum · 06/05/2007 13:23

Well having finally agreed to allow my parents to take dd1 away for a week they have come back and said that they have been thinking about it and rather than taking just her away they are taking all 4 of us away!! Were looking to go away somewhere in GB though as dd2 is only 11weeks old at the moment. So if anyone can recommend any good family orientated caravan sites for the last week in June?

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Blondilocks · 06/05/2007 13:26

I wouldn't think twice about it. Trust my parents implicitly. Would just be jealous that I was left behind!

jellybeans · 08/05/2007 10:22

Hi that sounds a good idea. I was also would say no my parents taking LO's on holiday especially abroad (at least till teenage) We did say no to MIL when DD was 12 months old. I also wouldn't go abroad and leave them with family. Not cos I don't trust them but it just wouldn't 'feel right' for me. Quay West (SW Wales) (haven) holiday park is really nice, quiet, scenic, entertainment.

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