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I am so DAMN SICK of my children arguing all the time <worn out emotion>

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DANCESwithaFewExtraPounds · 30/04/2007 16:02

DD is almost 4 and ds is 2 so still v. young but if I hear one more shout (accompanied by screech) of 'MINE' or 'I WANT' they may not live to see their 4th and 3rd birthdays respectively. I know I'm sounding flippant but I have HAD ENOUGH today.

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CookieBear · 02/05/2007 11:11

oooohhhh yeahhhh, have sussed out how to do italics.
Dimpled you are a darling thank you...it's the simple things that keep me happy you know

ThomCat · 02/05/2007 11:11

My DD1 is 5 and Dd2 is 16 months.
DD1 has Sn's and I think some of her behaviour is down to her SN's but doesn't make it easier to cope with.
She can't wait for Dd2 to play with her and then the minute DD2 tries to play she gets shouted at. No this, no that, and DD1 is obsessed with everything being 'mine'. So she shouts 'mine' and DD2 schreeches and runs away with said toy. Then they try again and the pattern is repeated. It's exhausting. I have started to leave them to to it a lot of the time as there is no telling them and it just stresses me out. I have found ignoring them works best. if it gets really bad they are seperated for 10 mins or so.

CookieBear · 02/05/2007 11:14
  • ThomCat.
Sorry, it sounds like hard work for you.

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ThomCat · 02/05/2007 11:18

Oh don't worry, it's just life and how it is. I see it as part of having 2 kids, and part of havng a child with SN's. I'm not overly stressed although it can be stressful. They are still great kids and I love them massively. I'd be shocked if they didn't argue tbh, it's just life aye!
I just hope that when no3 comes along after a few years the 3 of them will work better than the 2 of them. That's all I ask for, that in general my 3 work it out and it all works better as a 3 than a 2. Please!

CookieBear · 02/05/2007 11:20

I like your attitude ThomCat!

ThomCat · 02/05/2007 11:24

Yeah, well thanks, but check back with me when no3 has arrived and settled in, let's see how my attitude is holding out then!

Listen, I argued with my sister, loads. had proper punching fights with her and everything. My mum was terrorised by her 5 brothers! It really is just life. I don't trust anyone that says their kids don't argue, there's something wrong with that!

Dd1 gets cross with Dd2 and it's not nice but they also kiss and cuddle and laugh togehter kloads too.
Swings and roundabouts and all part of grwoing up and of being a parent.

You just have to always have a bottle of wine chilling in the fridge and keep a sense of homour about you and grin and get on with it aye!

CookieBear · 02/05/2007 11:28

I think you'll go far ThomCat!
and I totally agree about the sense of humour and the wine chilling in the fridge...(thinks longly about the bottle of rose chilling in the fridge for later)

CookieBear · 02/05/2007 11:29

..or even longingly??

oliveoil · 02/05/2007 11:29

my house goes like this:

me back from work, tired and longing to see my angels: HELLOOOOOOOOOO!

Dd1:

dd2:

ME: what's the matter?
dd1: she is a stinky bum
dd2: am not!
dd1: I HATE YOU
dd2: WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA [hits with force]
dd1: [cries dramatically]

repeat until 7pm when they are in bed, various things like she has her Barbie etc

and when I am off work, I think, right going to have a lovely day today and they argue over breakfast bowls at 7am

mine are 4 and 2

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

CookieBear · 02/05/2007 11:30

LOL Oliveoil!!

ThomCat · 02/05/2007 11:46

LOL Olive - oh yes the days of waking up thinking 'ohhh we'll have a lovley day in the garden' have long been banished from my thoughts.

My mum said to me the other day 'are you looking dforward to Centre Parcs?' to which a replied 'I don't let myself look forward to anything too much anymore mum, but yes it'll be nice to have a change of scenery and we'll probably have afew nice moments!'

Hassled · 02/05/2007 11:52

Ignoring them is the best policy - although it took years for me to work that out. They'll never learn how to resolve conflicts otherwise. DS1 and DD are now 19 and 17 and are still at it - I don't think they will ever actually like each other. They have at least stopped hitting each other but that was only in the last year . However I can remember biting my brother until he bled when I was about 8 and we're now very close - there's hope for some. My youngest 2 are the best of friends, though - weird.

hk78 · 03/05/2007 00:54

i'll say it again: earplugs!

use em all the time, i'm not joking.

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