How soon after newborn did you go out?

[KimchiLaLa]

Just that really. Today I popped out for 2 hours while she was with her grandma sleeping. I can't take her out yet; in our culture she has to stay at home and her first trip will be to the temple. I felt so bad but at the same time got home refreshed and feeling like I'd had a break. How soon did you go out? What do you think is appropriate?

With DS, day after we were discharged, without 2 weeks, to the pub with my friends, was lovely

Had her at home and went for a walk with her in the woods the next day. Somebody asked how old she was and clearly didn't believe me when I said I had her yesterday.

She was 10 weeks old the first time I left her with anyone and went out alone.

I took him shopping in his baby carrier (DS2) when he was 2 days old to buy presents for the lovely midwives. Uncomplicated water birth at home, in fact I got up and cooked dinner for DH and DS 1 the da he was born because I was bored lounging around.

Took the baby to a breastfeeding cafe within 48hrs, on the tube at a week old, to a pub briefly at 10 days and to a shopping mall at two weeks. On my own, I can't remember but I'm sure I went for brief walks or to the local shops within the first couple of weeks while my husband was home. No reason to go out if you don't want to, but I couldn't handle staying at home.

With the baby? Every single day from day 2, which is when we were released from hospital, even if it was just to the cafe at the end of the road for a takeaway coffee, or to the park to walk the dog.

Without the baby? I went for a haircut at 6 weeks but it might have been sooner if he hadn't been hospitalised for a week at 4 weeks. I didn't leave him for more than an hour or two until 6 months but I tried really hard to leave him occasionally just so we both had some time apart.

We went out for Sunday lunch when ds was 6 days old. I also had two dd's aged 5 and 2. He slept through the whole thing!

With my first. A week. I was so sore I couldn't walk for long. I only went to the shops over the road. With my second it was about two days, it was a lot harder to stay in the house with a toddler and newborn.

With the baby, immediately. Well, not instantly they came out, but took them out for a walk or on the school run at less than a day old.

Without the baby, 4-5 days or so, popping out for something when they stayed with DH

Leaving them with grandparent or other babysitter, 5 weeks or so for an hour. Between 6-9 months for the evening.

DD 1 - with the baby a few days, without baby 2.5 weeks for a haircut. Felt great to be out!

DD2 - with baby day 1, without the baby day 3 or 4, just out to the shops.

With baby, about 10 days, I had an EMCS and lived in a 2nd floor flat so it wasn't easy.

Without, months, probably 4 months or maybe longer? I didn't really feel the need to to be honest and she was a hungry breastfed baby so I couldn't have gone far or for long! I think it was to get my eyelashes done. But my DP used to take her out without me so I could have a nap or he could get her to sleep in the pram. We probably did that after a couple of weeks.

I gave birth on the Sunday, let out of hospital Tuesday night and we went to DHs office to show him off and then went out for a meal afterwards on the Thursday! 😳 looking back I think I tried to do too much too soon and I ended up drained in the long run x

Without the baby... about 9 weeks. With the baby 2 or 3 days I think.

With the baby, first time around it was about 5 or 6 days (we had Christmas shopping to do!). Second time it was about 5 days too - DD1 had ballet so I took DD2 to show her off 😁

Without the baby, I think it was about 3 weeks the first time, three months the second - just because of how it played out really rather than any particular feelings about whether I ‘should’ be around.

Both boys went out for shortish walk in pram the day after we left hospital. First would been 3 days old and the second about 24 hours. I found that a regular walk about in the fresh air really helped my recovery. They were both summer babies though.

We had our DD on a Friday (c section), got out of hospital the following Monday night and that Friday went to a cafe for a full English. It was too much, I ended up in a lot of pain and could hardly walk home.
I went for my 6-week check up alone and it felt SO WEIRD. I kept thinking about the baby and also loving the fact I was alone, such a mixed bag of emotions

With DS1 I gave birth the Friday afternoon, and went out by myself without him on the Sunday morning for a walk around the hospital car park to stretch my legs and later that day we were discharged.
On the Monday I went to the pediatrician's office to get him weighed (so 3 days old?), then happy hour at 4-5 days I think. Without him: don't remember as it was 6 years ago, but I went to Miami on a hen weekend when he was about 4-5 months for 4 days.

Physically I felt fantastic the first few days after both my deliveries, it was day 4 that the agony of after pains and nursing that had me begging on the floor for pain relief.

With DS2, DH and I went straight out to lunch when we were discharged (1 day old?) on the way home from hospital.
I especially remember leaving the house pretty fast with DS2 to get to the shops as it was close to Easter and there were 10oz bags of cadbury mini eggs in and I needed to get my fix (no word of a lie, there was one grocery store here that stocked them and I was buying in bulk for "breastfeeding strength").
He only weighed 6lbs at birth so at 5 days old I would just tuck him under my chin and go to the market.

Loads of local women (I live in Caribbean) came to tell me off, baby should be at home, baby should have more clothes on (it's 90oF and he's wearing more than enough clothes!) etc etc, but I found getting out and about in the sunshine and having a routine helped me feel less tired. Granted I live in a hot and sunny country so it's easy to do, I probably would stay bundled up at home if I lived anywhere with a cold climate.

I went out for a walk the day after we got home from hospital. The boys were 3 days old. I went to the supermarket within the next week. They’re 8 weeks old now and for the whole time people keep telling me how well I’m doing managing to get out of the house and I don’t understand why it’s such a big deal. I spent the last 3 months of my pregnancy a swollen, invalid recuse so I was desperate to get out!

*recluse

I had a very hard labour and I think it was more than three weeks before I went out, and then I could only make it a few blocks before I had to go home. Normally I'm very active, but I was absolutely wrecked by childbirth. It was very isolating, and I remember looking out the window at a woman walking briskly with a baby in a carrier and feeling incredibly jealous. It was a tough time.

Once I started to get out and about regularly, I started to feel much better. That was at about 2 months.

I hope your first trip out together is lovely!

4 days old to Dr’s with me as I had mastitis and my stitches where infected then out with me again at 5 days to get weighed

DD1- Can't remember. Probably out for lunch with DH and baby after a few days. Without baby, it was 2 weeks. I was going a bit a lot mad and needed to clear my head with an hour's walk.

DD2- I popped into town on the way home (so she was about 7 hours old). Desperately needed something and she'd arrived before I could pick it up. We wanted to keep everything normal for DD1 so we went to our usual playgroup when DD2 was 2 days old. We then went out to register her and have a celebratory lunch on day 3. It all felt rather easier the second time. She went out without me on day 4 though (with DH to see his parents for an hour or so) and that was way too soon!

My cousin did a full food shop on the way home after her 6th child was born.

First child day four we went a walk into town. I needed a breast pump.

Second child when I got out hospital we were straight out and about. Got out after two days.

With my third I literally woke in the night with my body bearing down but never felt any contractions so it was super easy and no hassle. He was born on my sister in laws birthday so we nipped into town for a present and went a food shop when he was about eight hours old. He was born early so I hadn't done a shop.

Thanks all - seems most don't stay cooped inside for long which is how I feel. We are forgoing tradition and taking her out this weekend for a walk and a coffee, poor thing has been indoors for ten days!

With my DD1 I moved house the day I had her so got out of hospital 8 hours after she was born then had to drive to a shopping centre and pick up some stuff DH doesn't drive! after DD3 I drove us home from hospital stopped off at ASDA and did a big shop. I was very lucky that had all natural births, no stitches etc but was still a bit of a struggle but where I live now is quite remote so not for everyone!

Should have said that was all with baby!