When did you let your baby sleep alone?

[segc94]

I don't mean in their own room all night, I just mean in the evening time after 7pm until we go to bed at about 10/11pm.
My 7week daughter sleeps between this time and wakes up for a feed and then goes back to sleep.
However when she's sleeping downstairs with us she does get disrupted with us talking or if the tv has a loud part.
So I'm wondering is it safe yet to let her sleep in her Moses basket upstairs on her own (with monitors obviously)

Also, what age did you put your baby in there own room?

Question for those who never let an infant sleep alone even for naps/early evening sleep - how does that work if you have older children?

DC2 is coming in a few months and I cannot envision how I would get DC1 fed/bathed/changed/put to bed without leaving the baby alone. And I'm not even a single parent (DH just comes home later in the evening than I do).

Newbian my eldest is 3 and youngest is 5 months. The baby just sits in a bouncy chair when we do bedtime (or feeds). He seems to enjoy listening to a story (I think it's the rhythm of the books) and then I just bring him down when the eldest is asleep. My husband cooks our tea and tidies up whilst I do bedtime.

I just took had the baby and DS in the same room while I put DS to bed or she stayed with DH if he was in.

@newbian I asked that earlier and no response. I have four DC and our living room, dining room and kitchen are light, busy and noisy with older kids, their friends, cooking, TV etc. When the baby has reached the stage where they are being disturbed (past that newborn sleepy phase) I've put them to sleep in our room. They wouldn't have got any rest otherwise. And I can hardly sit in the bedroom with the newborn sleeping and ignore the others, they need fed, entertained, helped with homework amongst other things.

Newbian - DC2 would never nap in the day anywhere except on me! This usually meant carrying him in a sling for daytime naps, when DC1 was around.

In the evenings he slept in the living room on DP or I. When he was tiny, he would normally cluster feed till around 9pm before going to sleep for the evening, so DP did DD's bedtime. When he was about 5 months we started putting him in our bedroom for the evening, which is not strictly following the guidance, but our bedroom opens directly from the living room, and we had the door open and kept popping in to check, so I felt ok with it.

This thread is boggling me! I kept my DCs in the room with me until they slept through (c5 months), as after that we were just waking each other up.

But I've never been in the same room as them when they slept in the day/early evening (other than when they were newborn). My DS had all naps in his room from c2 or 3 weeks, as DD liked to 'cuddle' him, which involved trying to pick him up out of the moses basket/pram. I weighed up the safety aspects, and decided the likelihood of damage by the hands of DD were higher than the relatively minimal SIDS risk.

I think there is quite a lot of neurosis these days. Follow the guidelines as best you can, but don't go to extremes.

Out of interest, has anyone ever had a bath, hung the washing out, cooked the dinner, hoovered etc when their newborn was sleeping. You can't be there all the time!

teainbed I think everyone on this thread has:
a) no other DCs
b) if they do have other DCs they are very well trained!
c) DHs who are around to cook tea, do bedtime
d) very quiet households

I have an extremely noisy and not particularly well trained 6 year-old. They just adapted to each other. It's only for six months and in the early months sleepy newborns aren't that easily disturbed.

Good heavens. All mine in their own rooms from birth! Sitting with them while they're asleep? I'd have just fallen asleep myself anyway so a bit pointless. Plus I wanted a bit of time with my husband. And once numbers two and three came along, no chance!
How times have changed....

How the number of SIDS deaths has changed. Do you go on threads to mock people wearing seatbelts and not drink driving?

The sids guidelines are best practice, not everyone can or will follow them to the nth degree but mocking those who do is pretty dickish, like pp have said, sids rates have decreased no doubt due to these guidelines, it's like saying "my nan smoked 40 a day and lived to 90" it doesn't mean anything.

I put my babies to sleep for the evening in another room away from me as soon as the household noise seemed to be disrupting their sleep, which was about six months old for both of them.

Overnight - my older child moved into a separate bedroom at 4.5 years. Before that we didn't have another bedroom and anyway we liked having her in with us. The younger one moved out of our bedroom and in with her sister at 6.5 years. Before that, she needed frequent attention at night due to medical problems. It would have been less safe for her to sleep away from us, plus she would have disturbed her sister, and we liked having her in with us anyway.

Essentially, in each case we carried on as we had started until it didn't seem to be working so well anymore, and then we changed.

My 11 month old is held all night from when she sleeps at 7pm by either me or DH. My 5 year old never slept alone and we all just went to bed together with him at 10-12pm (unless walked/driven to sleep) till he was 4 years (co slept till 4.2). Our 3 year old goes to bed in our bed alone since 1 yo but still co sleeps all night. I find the idea of them being in another room really strange and i'm not sure i could sleep if they weren't with me!