When would you live your baby overnight for first time?

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Dp's got a big birthday coming up and ideally he'd like a night away just the two of us.

Our baby will be 2 months old.

Is that too young to leave with grandparents overnight?

Do I book a night away but later in the year?

Or do we take baby with us?

you won't want to leave them. I'd take the baby if possible.
Also will gp do overnight feeds? are they going to be prepared to be up all night?!

It isn't too young if you are comfortable with it.

But as observed, baby will definitely not be sleeping through and if you are exclusively breastfeeding you'll need to pump enough for an overnight. And are grandparents willing to do it?

Im on no 3 who is being induced tomorrow. I think as long as you trust that person completly its up to you when you leave them. I left DD1 with my mum 3 days after she was born to take DS out for the day. Over night DD2 will be going to my brother at 5.5 weeks old overnight as me and DH are going to the races.
Just go with what you feel comfortable with, there is no right or wrong answer.

Dd is 2 and still not been left yet. She will be soon though for birth of number 2.

Oh and mine were bottle fed. Not sure how that works breastfeeding! Im about to find out!

I'm exclusively express feeding currently.

I'd love for baby to come, all the hotels I've looked at say baby's welcome, but at that age we wouldn't be able to bring him to join us for dinner , so not too sure how logistics would work

9 months with my first, 2 months with my second, but honestly it's whenever u feel comfortable

Our dd is 11 weeks and ebf although she will take a bottle. I don't feel ready at all to leave her and probably won't for a while.

You could take him for dinner! Just take the pushchair and rock him to sleep. It may not be as romantic and intimate but still doable. Dd came for our wedding anniversary at 4 months old and slept the whole time.

I breastfed but expressed after 6 weeks.

Ds was 9 weeks when he stayed overnight with mil and dd was about the same. I was fine, dh was fine and they were fine.

That was said with a smile by the way.

I've never left dd overnight and she's 4.5. I couldn't have left her at 2 months as she was ebf, but I have friends who ff'd and left their baby overnight at about this age.

You'll get the full range of answers here OP. The only thing to do is what feels right to you, no one else can tell you

My baby was born early September and the first time I left him overnight was New Year's Eve of the same year, so he was nearly 4 months. He was exclusively formula fed. The only person I felt happy to leave him with was my mum, as she brought up the 3 of us the same way, she knew exactly what would need to be done, and was happy to do it. And he was sleeping through from 3 months anyway.

I had to do it at 6 weeks. I wasn't so comfortable with it, but had to be done. It was fine. I told the people looking after her in a jokey way that I'm an anxious and precious first time mum so to send me lots of updates. They stuck to it and sent me updates when she went down to sleep for the night and during the day, including pics of her looking happy. It helped a lot. If you think that would be better for you too, do you think you could ask for them to send you pics and updates?
Grandparents have had kids themselves so will understand. The person I left mine with had children too so totally understood how I felt leaving her so young.
I think it helps a lot that it's grandparents, so it's family and it's actually one of yours parents.
Really though, if you think that getting regular updates and pics still won't help, just don't do it. You probably wont enjoy yourselves as much as you would have and will want to keep calling grandparents.

DD was 5 weeks old and I had a night away for my best friends hen do (booked and paid before I even knew I was pregnant)

Really did not want to leave her but when I got there I had a brilliant time.

DD is breast fed I expressed from birth and froze the milk and also bought a couple of pre made bottles incase I didn't have enough supply.

If you're happy been away from baby then do it xx

As long as your DD will take a bottle you'll be fine. I'm looking after my DGS overnight next weekend - he'll be 14 weeks and although he's ebf he's happy to take expressed milk from a bottle. My DGD was 13 months before she stayed all night but she was a very dependant breastfeeder and bottle refuser. As long as you trust the person you're leaving her with you and she will be fine.

There's no right or wrong answer. Do whatever will make you have the most fun. No point leaving her and then worrying all night but go for it if you are happy leaving her and having a break. DS came away with us for our anniversary at that age and we just took him to dinner asleep in his carrycot. It was great.

I left ds over night with my sister at about 3-4 months. I trust her completely and ds was sleeping through at that point (she would have been fine with any night wakings anyway). You will get a range of amswers from 7 days to 15 years!

I wouldn't be able to do it. I first left DD1 overnight when I went back to work at 10 months. I haven't left DD2 overnight yet. You might find that you miss her so much that you won't enjoy the evening. It's easiest to just take her with you IMO.

It's right when it feels right and will feel different for everyone.

Dd is almost 2 and hasn't been away overnight but I'd be ok (ish) with it now if the need arose. We have a plan for a night with Grandma next February when we go to a wedding.

My dc4 is 12 weeks and been bottle fed for 2 weeks now. I technically could leave him but I don't want to. My mum is having him for a couple of hours in a few weeks while I take the big 3 to the circus and I'm dreading not having him with me but I know we'll all be ok.

I wouldn't have wanted to leave either of mine that young. I was exclusively breast feeding though so couldn't have done anyway.

I'd take the baby with you or just change plans so they don't involve an overnight stay. I couldn't have (practically or emotionally) left my DC for that long and I definitely wouldn't have enjoyed myself if I did.

We left our DD with my Mum o/n to go to a wedding when she was 10 weeks old. It was a wedding of very close friends and we booked my Mum in as soon as I found out I was pregnant! It was only one night, but we were away for 2 full days.

We were always very keen to make sure our children were happy with other carers from the get-go, which they still are (6 years later).

I totally understand that some people might not feel able to leave their baby so soon, but it worked for us.