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Poor Baby being neglected!

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cuddlebug · 03/07/2017 11:02

My cousin whose baby is almost 4 months is constantly in her bouncer. She never gets any tummy time or plays on the play mat ! She doesn't feed her she just uses a blanket and props the bottle up in her mouth. Her bottles don't get washed properly just with plain water and they are absolutely filthy with grime on it even tho I did offer to wash them and buy some new ones she said no it is fine cos she hasn't got money but funnily enough she has money to treat her and her boyfriend ! Every time I visit she is always in the bouncer right in front of the tv and she never gets hold she just looks bored and always whinging and kicking about and starts crying as soon as she is put down again after playing with her cos she gets no entertainment! she told me she is always being sick and vomiting everywhere but when I hold her she looks so relieved and burps about 3 or 4 times and is instantly settled so i think being left in the bouncer with bottle in mouth is giving her wind . I just feel like she is being neglected but everyone told me it none of my business as it is her baby . I notice that the back of her head is very flat like an iron board and I think it's because she is always in her bouncer . I am not a grass but I think the poor girl deserves better :( she suck up on her top i said she needs changing and she just said nah leave her I only just changed her 5 mins ago ! Angry

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2014newme · 03/07/2017 11:04

So What are you going to do?

EssieTregowan · 03/07/2017 11:05

So what did Social Services say when you called them?

Because I'm assuming you have as this is a clear cut case of pretty serious neglect.

Justhadmyhaircut · 03/07/2017 11:05

If you don't do anything then you are guilty of neglect too imo. .

Ss. .

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EssieTregowan · 03/07/2017 11:06

This baby could very likely die either from the filthy bottles or from choking to death.

marmitecrumpets · 03/07/2017 11:07

Please please call someone about this. That baby needs you

crashandburnt · 03/07/2017 11:08

Can you say something to your aunt? Is your cousin very young? This is neglect op. Poor baby.

cuddlebug · 03/07/2017 11:08

I am gonna have to tell the social services I think . I cannot let this carry on. Sorry just wanted to post cos I just feel really upset about it

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MrsJayy · 03/07/2017 11:08

So what have you done apart from posting on the internet or are you just after some reactionary attention?

honeysucklejasmine · 03/07/2017 11:10

Definitely call social services. I hate this "her baby, none of your business" attitude some people have. It's everyone's responsibility to look after the vulnerable in our society.

cuddlebug · 03/07/2017 11:11

That's exactly it couldn't believe it when they told me to keep my nose out of it !!

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daisychainagain · 03/07/2017 11:19

Call ss straight away. Don't dawdle do it now. This poor innocent baby deserves better.
By not phoning social services you are allowing the neglect.

MummaThree · 03/07/2017 11:29

This makes me sad, it's the bottles that worry me as they can potentially make baby really poorly. Bottles are supposed to be thoroughly sterilised at that age.
I'd definitely take this to SS because if something happened to that poor baby then you'd be kicking yourself knowing you could have stepped in and done something to prevent it. Ignore anyone who says it's not your business, yes it's true that she's your cousins baby not yours but given the fact that you have witnessed something that is concerning you then I think you need to take some kind of action.

Wumpychoo · 03/07/2017 11:36

Report it to SS.

Eggplantsundays · 03/07/2017 11:38

Ugh the dirty bottled are such a huge huge risk! Report, and keep reporting until the situation changes.

Redsippycup · 03/07/2017 11:42

NSPCC: 0808 800 5000

They can report for you anonymously if that is what you want.

WowserBowser · 03/07/2017 11:55

I am not a grass It's not an episode of Prisoner Cell Block H

Report her. She shouldn't have had a baby if she can't be arsed looking after one. Poor little thing.

daisychainagain · 03/07/2017 16:25

Have you phoned social services op?

BakerBear · 03/07/2017 16:32

Social services wont do anything i ve reported much worse things and they werent interested.

They are only interested if baby is never having a nappy change, not being fed etc

When i reported some once for much worse than you describe i was told that we just had a difference in parenting styles and it was never followed up

mintich · 03/07/2017 16:42

I would still report it. Even if they don't do anything this time, it's on file incase, God forbid, it gets worse

daisychainagain · 03/07/2017 16:45

Jesus bear that's terrible.

cuddlebug · 03/07/2017 20:15

Daisychainagain I tried to get in touch but it kept ringing out can I email them ?

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Redsippycup · 03/07/2017 21:24

Did you try the NSPCC cuddlebug ?

Rioja123 · 03/07/2017 21:26

The poor baby :( you need to speak up.

Noisybastardsshutup · 03/07/2017 21:31

I agree you definetly need to report this, that poor baby.

daisychainagain · 04/07/2017 09:28

Keep ringing!! Google an email address. Phone the nspcc.
Just don't do nothing.
Stand up for that baby. Please.

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