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Poor Baby being neglected!

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cuddlebug · 03/07/2017 11:02

My cousin whose baby is almost 4 months is constantly in her bouncer. She never gets any tummy time or plays on the play mat ! She doesn't feed her she just uses a blanket and props the bottle up in her mouth. Her bottles don't get washed properly just with plain water and they are absolutely filthy with grime on it even tho I did offer to wash them and buy some new ones she said no it is fine cos she hasn't got money but funnily enough she has money to treat her and her boyfriend ! Every time I visit she is always in the bouncer right in front of the tv and she never gets hold she just looks bored and always whinging and kicking about and starts crying as soon as she is put down again after playing with her cos she gets no entertainment! she told me she is always being sick and vomiting everywhere but when I hold her she looks so relieved and burps about 3 or 4 times and is instantly settled so i think being left in the bouncer with bottle in mouth is giving her wind . I just feel like she is being neglected but everyone told me it none of my business as it is her baby . I notice that the back of her head is very flat like an iron board and I think it's because she is always in her bouncer . I am not a grass but I think the poor girl deserves better :( she suck up on her top i said she needs changing and she just said nah leave her I only just changed her 5 mins ago ! Angry

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Funnyface1 · 04/07/2017 09:49

I really hope you can get through to someone who can help. Social services, nspcc, health visitor. Babies are so vulnerable and she sounds at risk. My dd is 10 months and it's really upset me reading this, I really hope you get her some help.

FrizzyNoodles · 04/07/2017 09:57

Google MASH and the name of your town and contact them. MASH stands for Multi Agency Safeguarding Hub. Also the other suggestions such as NSPCC.
Poor baby she definitely needs help and so does her mother.
It looks like you posted because people minimised it when you mentioned it so good on you for that, you're definitely right that something needs to be done.

Autofillcontact · 04/07/2017 10:07

Phone social services. Not sure what NSPCC would do apart from tell you to call SS or maybe do it themselves. Same end anyway

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Jennyhatesjazz0 · 04/07/2017 16:13

Please, for every mum who has just read your post and is now heartbroken and worried about that poor little baby, call SS.

Rainatnight · 05/07/2017 15:46

Hi OP. What a horrible and worrying thing for you to have to face. Have you managed to get hold of social services?

anchor9 · 06/07/2017 07:11
Sad

please call SS urgently. i wouldn't bother emailing. phone and keep phoning till they answer.

SuburbanRhonda · 06/07/2017 07:15

Please keep trying.

I phone children's services weekly as part of my job. You have to be persistent.

Jellybean85 · 06/07/2017 07:38

Please keep trying, I know it's hard and you don't want to be a grass and get In trouble with your family but that little baby needs you!! You're doing the right thing

LTBiscuit · 06/07/2017 07:41

Oh that poor baby Sad

blueskyinmarch · 06/07/2017 07:55

This is really an issue for the health visitor to deal with not SS. I say this as a SW. The HV needs to visit in the first instance and she can assess whether or not the family require more support or referring on. Calling the NSPCC would be a very good start as they can pass on your concerns to the appropriate agency.

MummaThree · 06/07/2017 16:49

Op any update??

user1489434024 · 06/07/2017 20:21

Why don't you call NSPCC first for advice? X

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givemeausername · 06/07/2017 21:26

This is so sad Sad I hate seeing babies left like this all day. It sickens me! Please get help for the poor baby

cuddlebug · 20/07/2017 08:54

Hi sorry for not replying I spoke to a health visitor in the end as I was going to get my child weighed anyway and she said she is going to give her a ring and try and get some details and then hopefully pay a visit she said all the information I give is completely confidential. This was over a week ago so I am not sure whether it has happened as she has not mentioned anything to me!

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Redsippycup · 21/07/2017 17:59

Thank you for updating, I've been worried about this baby since i saw your post.

I doubt the HV is allowed to give you any info.

bemusedbewildered · 21/07/2017 18:01

I expect something has happened - we took this route for similar concerns and definitely action was taken, hope that's the case here.

Getoffthetableplease · 22/07/2017 17:44

Good on you for speaking up, it sounds like you're the only one in her corner so you need to keep at it if nothing comes of it straight away. I really hope they have checked things already though, is there any update?

cuddlebug · 23/07/2017 22:27

Still not heard anything :(

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Getoffthetableplease · 24/07/2017 10:13

Do you think maybe there could have been a visit/contact but you haven't heard? I'd be tempted to call the nspcc

zeeboo · 24/07/2017 10:24

Have you visited them since you spoke to the HV? Maybe pop round and see if anything has changed or if she mentions the HV calling round. It could open up a discussion and you could back up what the HV said, offer more advice etc.

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