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Babying your last born?

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ComeOVeneer · 09/03/2007 16:13

Despite me wanting 3 children, dh is happy with 2, and although it isn't set in stone I am beginning to realise a 3rd may not be. I have recently found myself talking to and treating ds in a way more appropriate to a child younger than he is (2.3 btw). Has anyone else experienced this, I guess, reluctance to let go of the baby stage when they know they aren't going to do it again?

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ComeOVeneer · 09/03/2007 16:26

Just me then

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sniff · 09/03/2007 16:30

I have a dd she is number three and she wil be my last and she is nine months now but i really baby her like a newborn I carry her round with me and allsorts let her bsleep in my bed I know I am doing it but m brain wants to keep her a tiny baby

kittypants · 09/03/2007 16:30

my 3rd is to be my last,hes 15 months now and im certainly cherishing the time more as in not wanted him to grow up to quickly but at same time dont think im babying him.

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Spidermama · 09/03/2007 16:31

Personally I think it means that you need to have more.

kittypants · 09/03/2007 16:32

cant

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ComeOVeneer · 09/03/2007 16:36

Spidermama that is what I think

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myturn · 09/03/2007 16:37

My youngest (of 4) is 6 years old now, and she is still very much treated as the baby of the family by everyoen. I remember my youngest sister was also treated the same way - perhaps this is common?

I think we've all found it hard to break the babying habit with her being the youngest. She doesn't seem to be suffering from it, seems to revel in it rather... my sister doesn't seem to have come out of it badly either.

somersetmum · 09/03/2007 16:52

I remember crying when I finished bfing dd and having one extra special feed before I could bring myself to do it.

LadyTophamHatt · 09/03/2007 16:58

i definatley did that with ds3. He was our last so I kept him as my baby for much much longer than the other 2.

Then I fell PG with DS4....he'll be my baby FOREVER

LadyTophamHatt · 09/03/2007 17:00

I can remeber my Mum introducing me to people as "her baby" when I was about 12!!!

ruslara · 09/03/2007 17:01

DS is just 5, and every inch the baby of the house. I do baby him, and he loves it! Really hams it up sometimes! Talking to others in the playground, I think this is quite normal. Probably have to be a bit careful or he'll never leave me!!

nh101 · 09/03/2007 17:02

My littlist sis (of four) is 28 and still gets babied - she is always getting baled out of scrapes. But she acts so hard done to all the time!!

myturn · 09/03/2007 17:05

Phew not just me then - was starting to worry that I was emotionally harming dd4...

gobshite · 09/03/2007 17:29

I'm the youngest of 6, and am still the baby of the family. A bit irritating at times, but didn't do me any lasting harm

gobshite · 09/03/2007 17:33

Ah no, seriously, my mum did tend to baby me a bit, it used to irritate me when I was a teenager, but not as I got older.

I know even when we were all grown up, when my mum looked at us, she saw the children we were

OrmIrian · 09/03/2007 17:34

I was very like this with DD who was meant to be the last. Not so much with DS#2 although I've been accused of babying him 'cos he's still bfing at night at 4yrs. I've seen no ill effects in either of them - if anything they are the more confident of the 3. You stop after a while as a life without a lo hanging off you begins to seem more appealing

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ElenyaTuesday · 09/03/2007 17:39

My youngest is 7 and I still sometimes carry him around!!! Fortunately he is tiny . He is soooooooo my baby still..

SauerKraut · 09/03/2007 17:41

I'm doing it- dd3 is 5, and I got told off by the kindergarten teacher because she sits and waits for everyone else to do things for her!

Overrun · 09/03/2007 17:42

I treat my dts like this. I suppose the good thing, is I don't have unrealistic expectations of them, like I did with ds1 But I probably under estimate them as well.

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ComeOVeneer · 09/03/2007 17:43

So it is a common phenomenon then? And I'm not causing untold amounts of long term phsycological harm? Still could do with that 3rd baby though.

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LadyTophamHatt · 09/03/2007 17:43

Fio, its great when you get a surprise one to carry on babying

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LadyTophamHatt · 09/03/2007 17:45

Oh bugger...yes I did. Sorry, I forget to say!!

I'm glad they fit.

lady007pink · 09/03/2007 17:46

Ah ha! My brother was a surprise born after 5 years and he was spoilt rotten. Mum did everything for him even throughout his teens, and I found he wasn't inclined to do much for himself. Mum and Dad died 2 years ago, he's now 24 and a student (has been since 1999!!) and lives like a king - on our money. I get a bit p*ed off as I sacrificed a lot as a student knowing I'd make up for it when I'd start earning.
On the other hand, he's a lovely lad and adored by everybody, and you tend to like doing things for him. His flatmates or his girlfriend don't mind tidying up after him! Just as well, as he'd allow his flat to get as bad as the one's that Kim and Aggien tackle in "How clean is your house"!!!
I put all that down to the fact he was babied all his life!

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