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Temper & aggression problems with DS2. I just don't know what to do!

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pinkchampagne · 09/03/2007 13:14

My DS2 is an adorable little character, but he is such hard work, has a real temper on him & can turn aggressive.
He strops very easily if things don't go just his way, and he often turns on his poor older brother.
Twice over the last couple of weeks, I have been told he has been behaving in an aggressive way at nursery, once hitting another child with a cone & today he scratched another child. They say it is starting to happen more often, and I really really don't know what to do with him.
I try having stern words, telling him how unkind it is etc, I try giving him time out, but nothing is making any difference.
He does get cross very easily. While eating his lunch today, he got very angry & threw down his fork because he couldn't pick up a bit of his fishfinger with it!
He is nearly 4 years old, so well past the terrible twos, and I really want to stop this agression before he starts school in September.
He is becoming one of those children that other parents will complain about & think I have no control over him.
I am at the end of my tether & really really don't know what to do.

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pinkchampagne · 09/03/2007 22:30

That's nice, chipkid.

So 5 may be the year of change then?! Roll on 5!!!

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chipkid · 09/03/2007 22:32

he will be fine I promise you. It is all totally normal if not utterly exhausting at the time. (I remember taking ds out of nursery for a couple of weeks so that I didn't have to hear how badly he had behaved everytime I went to collect him!

pinkchampagne · 09/03/2007 22:34

Did you really??!!

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chipkid · 09/03/2007 22:38

oh yes. He smacked a girl. I was heavily pregnant at the time. I was furious that the staff were complaining about him yet seemingly unable to adequately supervise him. I flounced. The nursery eventually rang me to see if he was coming back!
Then I had another meeting with them saying that I would rather keep him with me that have to listen to their complaints every day! (this was a private nursery BTW). They talked me round and things did improve!

pinkchampagne · 09/03/2007 22:51

Good on you!!

See I am not sure what DS's nursery are actually doing about the problem, other than getting me to sign a book!
I am definitely going to mention something on Monday about it.

He starts school in September & I am worried about him still having this aggressive streak. I really want to try & nip it in the bud, but was at a bit of a loss as to how to go about it.

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southeastastra · 10/03/2007 11:16

it's comforting to me too to see others in the same situation, you really do feel like the only one somtimes! the thing about the school rules really rings true for my son too. he isn't happy when other children break them either!

perhaps we should form a support group! i felt like taking my son out of reception for a couple of week too at one time.

pinkchampagne · 10/03/2007 18:16

It is comforting to know you're not alone. I have had another challanging day with DS2, who was a nightmare while shopping today. I felt very very stressed by the end of my shopping trip!
He hasn't hit out today though - just shouting & growling!

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