Time-out (naughty step) good or bad

[lexcat]

I myself have used the naughty step and in my eyes with sucess with my dd. On the other hand I my sister and boyfriend are very anti it which I don't really understand. As other parent what are your feelings on this. Do you use time-out or do you use other methods.

That's more or less what my dd does lexcat. I never say 'go to your room!' or anything like that. It's a specific situation when we're at a total impasse, she's in a rage, neither of us want it go go further, so I suggest 'I think you should go to your room and calm down for a minute' which she does, with some relief I believe, then in just a minute or so she reappears and can accept a cuddle and a chat. If we didn't reach that impasse and let it happen that way we'd likely be at logger heads for hours.

Imaginaryfriend-it seems that your dd is developing a really important skill in recognising when she is out of control and taking steps to deal with it herself. That is what my ds does.

That's how I tend to see it, chip, it happens when there's just no other option and she kind of knows it. And it's so brief. And getting back together afterwards is always very sweet.

Imaginaryfriend how old is your dd. Been able to take your self off when you need time-out comes with age. As I said earlier me dd 5.10 is just starting to do this. I don't know of any 2,3,4 year old that can do that. I also know of 6,7 year old that would stuggle with this.

she's 4.5 lexcat. But she does do that, takes herself off, what are you suggesting then?

imaginary friend my ds started to do this at about the same age.

imaginaryfriend and chipkid
It nice to hear you have been both been bless with such mature children. They sound like very easy children I have friends with such children. My own dd on the other hand has always been a challenge but she is getting better with age.

lexcat, I've always found dd pretty mature for her years. Probably largely because she's an only child and spends a lot of time with adults. Plus she's the oldest in her school year so I think she sees herself as rather a 'grown up'!

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lexcat I am spluttering into my wine as I read your last post. My Ds was THE most difficult and challenging child you could ever wish to meet! He was so bad when he turned 4 that I thought I should leave home!
However, I used time out with him fairly consistently and as a result he learnt to take himslef out of situations where he was feeling out of control-not always, but mostly. And we are all mightlily relieved that he does!

...DD now SHE is easy!