When did you stop having baby downstairs with you in the evening?

[CeCeBloomer]

Ds is 13 weeks and I think it would be better for him to sleep upstairs in the evening as he is constantly getting disturbed. I am worried about SIDS risk though

I always put mine to bed at 7 pm in their own beds upstairs with a monitor .

Until he was four months. He'd have his pyjamas on at 7, last bottle between 7 and 8 and then into his sleepy bag and laid on his play mat. He would fall asleep around nine and just stay there till we went to bed.

He went in his own room at four months and it was then we started putting him to bed when he was getting drowsy or when he actually dropped off. This was around half nine to begin with but now he's up at about 8. Monitor and sensor mat make me feel better as I can put the video on and check he's ok and hasn't got his face covered or anything. We can put him to bed awake and he'll go to sleep but as OH doesn't get home till six ish they can spend some evening time together.

We had him downstairs with us until he was 6m old. He would sleep on the sleepyhead with the tv and lights on (means he sleeps despite background noise) and when we wanted to go to bed we'd wake him up for a last bottle and then all head up together.

At 6m we'd put him upstairs on our room and join him later. He went into his own room at 7m (only decorated his room by then!).

Started taking him up for a bedtime routine (bath, book, bed) at 7pm at 10 weeks, by 12 weeks he was sleeping 7-10 hours a go. I've always slept in the same room as him since he was born.

Then he hit four months and it all went to shit. :( I still do the same routine, but he either won't go to sleep, or won't stay asleep. I haven't really had an evening to myself for three months, it's a bit lonely and depressing. Occasionally he'll sleep and I'll get to watch a 40-60 minute episode with my husband, but it's rare.

From 3 weeks - started bath/clean sleep suit/dim lights/swaddle/song/feed/cot routine which stayed in place from then on. Both DC slept through from 10ish weeks and are still (13 and 15) sound sleepers.

6 months as per SIDS guidelines.

6 months. The SIDS risk is reduced by someone being in the room, which helps them regulate their breathing. Being able to hear them/having a fancy monitor doesn't - to my mind - mitigate that risk.

We did bedtime upstairs from early on - so bath, pyjamas, story, feed, etc - but then we took them downstairs once they were asleep and then back up with us when when we to bed (both of mine were/are happy to be moved around in their sleep, though!)

Another for 6 months here, for me it's the only 'rule' I didn't want to break, as per SIDS guidelines.