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When did you stop having baby downstairs with you in the evening?

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CeCeBloomer · 09/02/2017 09:14

Ds is 13 weeks and I think it would be better for him to sleep upstairs in the evening as he is constantly getting disturbed. I am worried about SIDS risk though

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milpool · 09/02/2017 20:00

About 5.5/6 months. She stayed in our room until 14 months.

Ohdearducks · 09/02/2017 20:16

8 month DD evades sleep at every opportunity, I've given up trying to get her to sleep at a reasonable time. We'd had a good routine for months but have never been able to get her in her cot and asleep before 10pm.
We get an hour each night from 10-11 before we go to bed too.

skankingpiglet · 09/02/2017 21:30

As soon as they'd let us both times. For DD1 that was around 4mo, although she'd only be upstairs for a couple of hours before we joined her and within that 2hrs we'd be up and down like a yo-yo resettling her. DD2 started about 6mo at a much more reasonable hour than her sister. We are also up and down a bit with her, but she's got nothing on the drills her sister ran with us.

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Figgygal · 09/02/2017 21:35

Ds is 17 weeks tomorrow and have started this week putting him straight in his bed when he falls asleep after his last bottle. I'm not feeling comfortable about it but he keeps waking when down with us and not able to have un disturbed sleep so he's happier up there

WyfOfBathe · 09/02/2017 21:40

About 6 weeks, with a baby monitor. She settles better, and DH & I get an hour or so of "us" time where we can talk or watch the TV without her stirring.

Alyx80 · 09/02/2017 21:46

After 6 months as per SIDS guidelines.

Beansprout30 · 09/02/2017 21:53

About 16 weeks. She slept on me in the evenings but was getting upset when I took her to bed so thought it was best to put her straight upstairs. Then she hit four month regression and ended up back downstairs on me, bang on six months she changed and was into her own room at 6.30pm

Oly5 · 09/02/2017 21:55

About 4-5 months. When they actually slept for more than about 30 mins at a time!

Ellapaella · 09/02/2017 22:27

Eldest I was a single mum so he slept in with me, I would just go up to bed around 7.30 and stay there once he'd fallen asleep and watch TV or read or whatever. Number 2 stayed downstairs with us until he was about 6 months and would fall asleep in his Moses basket or later on one of us and number three was about 8 weeks. He was great at self settling and seemed to be more content and to sleep better on his own in the bedroom so we would put him down in his cot upstairs in our room with baby monitor on.

Ellapaella · 09/02/2017 22:30

Oh and all three were in our room until at least age 2 - mostly in their own cot or bed but occasionally coming in with us at some point in the night.

Philoslothy · 09/02/2017 22:30

Anything between a year and eighteen months.

Writerwannabe83 · 10/02/2017 09:06

We followed SIDS guidelines so not until he was 6 months.

A video monitor won't tell you if your baby stops breathing.

mininionsteve · 10/02/2017 11:10

When he was about 4 months old. Started a proper bath story bed routine as well. He was always so tired and I checked on him regularly. If he was under the weather I would stay with him. He was still in our room till 6 months though.

Bubbinsmakesthree · 10/02/2017 16:14

I think if we could have put DS down in a Moses basket or something we might have kept him with us longer but whilst he would settle in the crib in our room, downstairs it was in my arms or nothing. I remember feeling amazingly liberated the first time I could walk around my house in the evening without a baby attached to me!

redandwhite1 · 12/02/2017 06:43

Our son went in his own room at about 9 weeks

I think we started putting him 'to bed' (so not downstairs) at about 6/7weeks

maternityleavemummy · 12/02/2017 07:16

Both mine went up from just a few weeks. My youngest is now 9 weeks and is brilliant at night. We chose to start the bedtime routine and put them to bed at such an early age because neither would settle well downstairs during the evening. I do use a breathing sensor and a video monitor with my baby.

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 12/02/2017 07:28

The guidance is 6 months. It is completely up to you whether you want to follow it or not and plenty of people don't but you need to base your decision on the evidence that the guidelines are based on and your own circumstances rather than what a stranger on the internet did after they considered the evidence and applied it to their own situation.
Your baby would be very unlikely to die because of sleeping alone but (through work) I have met women who have this happen to them. It is horrific. I'm not saying that the situation would have been any different for them if their baby had been with them but I don't think a quick pole of a few strangers on the internet should be something you rely on as a decision making tool

Heatherbell1978 · 12/02/2017 07:57

At around 6 weeks we started a bit of a bedtime routine and DS went into his crib (in our bedroom) after his bath. We had a video monitor and just put that next to us on the sofa.

SparkyBlue · 12/02/2017 08:03

Around 12 weeks and 15 weeks here as well. I waited until I found a time that they settled to sleep at naturally and started working an evening routine around that. It was actually around 7pm in both cases. They both stayed in our room for several months.

ChristianGreysAnatomy · 12/02/2017 08:18

No idea for dd. It's all a blur of exhaustion. Prob around 12-15 weeks.

Ds at 7 weeks. Amazing child settled happily in his basket at 7pm ish and slept till 11pm or so. Don't know what I did to deserve that!

Ragwort · 12/02/2017 08:22

We started the bed time routine (ie: bath & bed at 7pm) from the day we got back from hospital, DS always went to bed 'upstairs'. I know this is frowned on but he learned to self settle and slept from 7pm - 7am (with one quick night feed) immediately. Until I read it on Mumsnet I never realised that so many babies seemed to stay downstairs.

Camomila · 12/02/2017 11:48

We're in a flat but I still kept DS in the room with me for all naps/night time till he turned 6 months. It's only fairly recently that he's wanted to stretch out/have complete quiet to sleep (10 months) before then he was much happier with a bit of background noise and preferably sleeping on someone's lap.

dimdommilpot · 14/02/2017 19:26

Until they stopped cluster feeding. Think it was about 5/6 weeks.

BarbarianMum · 14/02/2017 19:55

At 8 months when they went into their own rooms. Nothing disturbed mine when they were asleep though, they just kipped on the sofa.

MeganChips · 14/02/2017 20:08

The guidance has really changed since I had mine. They are 13 and 10 though so I suppose it's understandable.

DC1 was upstairs from about 8 weeks. DC2 from 2 or 3 weeks old. I did have a monitor with a sensor pad though which was brilliant.

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