dad denying paternity. do they have the same ears?

[laurajayne2]

I have already done a dna. but he has questioned the result in the past. won't see baby. I think it's because he's made digs previously he doesn't look like him (everyone says he looks like me as I'm mixed raced so baby has dark hair and eyes. his dad and his other kids have bright blue eyes). would you say he has his dads ears? thanks

I think I'm just struggling to understand why if he's a good dad to his other. why my son is being ignored. when I was promised for 9 month he'd be treated the same. he'd didn't benefit from lying for 9 months. (and his family) I just thought, dna paper aside, maybe he looks at him and can't bond with him cos he looks nothing like him or his others. so I thought pointing out similarities might help him think yh he really is half of me. it's easy to say move on. and obvs I will have to now. I'm just gutted my son won't have any father figure when his half brothers are treated like royalty

OP don't waste your time and energy trying to persuade him to be a father to your DS. It shouldn't be something you have to force. If he doesn't want to know then honestly and truly your DS is better off without him.

I just woke dh up laughing at this thread.

A dad is not the person who donated the chromosomes. A dad is actively involved in forming, inspiring and protecting a new person to the very best of their ability and opportunity. Someone who denies paternity after a dna test just isn't a dad. Just a spermicide donor and a payer of CM. Save your emotional energy. This fight isn't worth it.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut - I don't know what's so funny. clearly have a boring life to wake someone up. if you can read all the original question was if my baby shared one of his features with his dad. whatever the reason why I asked, people asked all the time what features ppl think their child has from their mum or dad. plenty on mumsnet as well what features from the parents their child has!

I don't think it's funny either laurajayne. I can see what you were trying to do. It's your ex who will miss out on your lovely boy. It must hurt though

Just for the record, I don't say move on lightly. I can understand you grasping at straws, you and your baby have been fucked over and lied to in a truly horrid sense, but it won't get the better of you. You and your baby will be just fine. Good luck