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Does anyone else not like being a mum sometimes???

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Jo26 · 08/02/2007 15:04

I have 2 girls, one is 5 and one 2y7m. My 5yo started school in September, which was a releif to begin with. I thought it would give me some quality time with my youngest and we could go swimming, playgroups, like I used to with my oldest...but no! My 2y7mo is a nightmare She is so demanding and has headbanging temper tantrums, doesn't seem to listen to a single thing I say and I'm constantly exhausted. I do forget how old she is sometimes as she is very forward. She's been in a potty trained and sleeping in a bed (when she decides to go to bed that is) for 6 months.
I just have no energy. I'm scard to take her to toddler group because she constantly fights with other children. I find myself wishing I hadn't had her. I cry alot and just miss what freedom felt like (and lye ins). My oldest doesn't take a blind bit of notice of me crying on the kitchen floor as its quite common. But then my 2y7mo comes over, hugs me and says she loves me.
Just don't know how to get myself out of this hole.

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pinkchampagne · 08/02/2007 16:54

Oh dear, sorry, didn't want to make you feel worse!

Jo26 · 08/02/2007 17:01

I know its awful and I do love my kids but when my 2.7yo is at school at least I'll have 2 hours a day to myself. Even if it just means hassle free housework or something.
don't worry pinkchampagne, I'm just grateful for any advice (and to know that I'm not entirely alone)

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pinkchampagne · 08/02/2007 17:10

At least you have that to look forward to! I work in a blimmin school, so get no child free time!!!

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cheekychick · 08/02/2007 17:10

I have a pre-teen, everything I thought was hard about having them as toddlers is a dream compared to this. ggrrrrrr why didn't they stay little. Sad to say its only the beginning as they get bigger so do the problems. My mother did say you know your alive when they start hitting their teens then the fun and games really start....I dont know who she talking bout cos I was an angel

Jo26 · 08/02/2007 17:14

Working in a school, not sure I could take that. But at least they're not yours and you get to escape them at the end of the day and get back to yours.
i do feel guilty for writing alot of this as DD2 does show lots of affection and says she loves me alot, she's just such a handful.
Anyway the little monster has just got home so I'd better get dinner started.
Thanks for chatting

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Jo26 · 08/02/2007 17:17

oh my god I am not even thinking about teens yet . I was a nightmare, I'm going to send them to a convent.
I will be back later

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pinkchampagne · 08/02/2007 17:25

Some things get better, as in tantrums stop etc, but they get replaced with new challanges!
My 7 year old & my 3 year old both challange me, but do it in totally different ways!

JoshandJamie · 08/02/2007 17:40

HAven't read the whole thread but YES - like at about 4.30pm today when my 3 year old son decided to throw a hard plastic block as hard as he could at my eye. This, despite me sitting on the floor doing puzzles with him for the millionth time today, while trying to entertain my ultra moody 17 month old who has entered whinge and tantrum mode.

The pain was incredible. My reaction even worse. Ended up hating him and myself at the same time.

pinkchampagne · 08/02/2007 17:44

It's hard isn't it, J&J?
My DS2 (nearly 4) bit me in temper today & I had to frog march him very quickly to his room, just to try & stop myself totally blowing at him.

RainbowBear · 09/02/2007 11:15

with you both. I have a four and six year old and am findig it so hard - having thought it would get easier by now. seriously want to go back to work full time but feel i have burnt my bridges there by being a sahm for the last few years. aghhh

Jo26 · 09/02/2007 13:43

I thought going back to full time work would help matters but when I tried last year it made things worse. It was nice to escape but at the end of a long day you still come home to the same tantrums. And to be honest I was so tired at the end of the day I found it really hard finding time to fit things in like housework.
Its not the same for everyone though so it could be the answer

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