Hi, am sorry you?re all going through such a hard time at the moment.
It sounds to me as if you?re all under a huge amount of stress, and that your dh is finding it much harder to cope with the transition to parenthood than you perhaps thought would be the case.
Firstly with regard to your dd?s temperature, I know it?s easier said than done but try not to worry too much. We?ve all been there when our child has ?never been ill like this before? and the first time it is a truly frightening experience. But if your dh has had flu it?s likely that your dd has similar and is just feeling very under the weather, and it?s made worse by the fact she?s a baby and the only way she knows how to tell you she?s not feeling well is to cry, and cry, and cry some more. Calpol will bring down her temperature as will ibuprofen although am not sure if ibuprofen can be taken at 6 months so maybe check with the farmacist, but if it?s ok they can be given together and are very effective. Just make sure she has lots of fluids, all common sense I know but atm fluids are far more important than food so if she doesn?t want to eat then don?t worry, she will eat again when she?s feeling better, and until then just give her what she wants, yoghurt is very good when they?re not well as it?s cold and slides down easily and soothes a sore throat.
It sounds to me as if this goes a bit deeper than just your dh not being able to bond with your dd, it sounds to me as if he?s having a hard time adjusting to the changes in your lives, and that coupled with a stressful job is making things very difficult for all of you. How was your relationship before your dd was born? Is it possible that your dh could be suffering from post natal depression? I know that sounds strange but it?s said that men can suffer from this because the transition for them can be so difficult. Men just don?t have that automatic paternal instinct that makes them selfless and want to put their child first, so sometimes when a child is born they find it hard to leave their old selfish habbits behind and adjust to a new way of living iyswim.
It also sounds as if you?re not getting the support you need, especially not from your husband, and because he works away, it sounds as if you are on your own with just your dd. Do you have a friend/family close by that you could leave your dd with for an afternoon so you could get a break? Could you join a toddler group in your local area, I know that dd is still a baby,but it would at least give you a chance to talk to other mothers, other human beings as it were.
As for going to gt ormend street on your own, well IMO that?s just not on. This is your dh?s child as well, and he should ensure that you and your dd get there safely, and if that means he has to go with you on the train, then so be it. It?s no fun travelling with a young baby on your own, he should be there at least to break up the journey for you and to help you across London to the hospital. I am blind also and there is just no way my dh would have made me go to London on my own with such a young baby, not because he didn?t think I could, but because he thinks I shouldn?t have to and because he?s my husband and my ds? father and he?s there to support us both.
Where abouts do you live?
I do think you and your dh need to have a serious chat, maybe get a babysitter and go for a meal so you can talk without the destraction of the baby. Things just don?t seem right for you atm and IMO the longer you leave them, the less likely things are to improve.