Newborn help please!!

[Luckystar1]

Dd is 12 days old. Feeding well etc. Having huge issues with over tiredness already. I really need help and advice please.

DS wouldn't nap and got incredibly overtired as a baby. It was the most awful time and really took a year to sort out. It dragged me to the brink of PND as he spent hours a day screaming while I tried everything to calm him to sleep.

History appears to be repeating itself, but I don't have the time (or energy!) to dedicate another year (and hours a day) getting DD to sleep. She has screamed before every single sleep today. I've tried everything. She's in a sling most of the time, still screaming and refusing to sleep. I put her down with white noise-same, I've tried feeding, shushing, rocking, everything. All to no avail. She is currently screaming.

I cannot cope with this, I just can't do it all over again.

She's either sleeping, feeding or screaming. I'm on the edge already and we're barely days in. I can't have the screaming baby again.

What do I do?!

Thank you all. I've calmed down. We'll get through it!

Plenty of oats for a good milk supply, take it easy and don't be too hard on yourself. You are doing a great job!

Watching as have exactly the same problem with 7 week old. She just doesn't seem to know how to be tired, just wired. She's happy when she's awake though. Taking any advice that's offered!

This might help. The advice isn't revolutionary but then when is baby advice ever? Quite reassuring though

www.analyticalarmadillo.co.uk/2011/11/duracell-bunnyhigh-needsspirited-baby.html?m=1

Thank you Batteries interestingly I read this with DS too, and he was (like his sister) a Duracell baby! He is now quite (I think) a chilled toddler so perhaps I will get lucky in that respect with her too...!

Hi Lucky.

Sorry you're going through this. I could have written the same post about my son a few years ago. He does have cmpa but is also allergic to soya and having both is really common. I'm saying this in case you decide at some point to do an elimination diet as you really have to make sure you cut out all the right things and stick with it for at least 3 weeks.

I now have an 8 week old who is also a bad sleeper but as I'm off milk and soya as a precaution she is much more mellow about it.

I hope you make so progress soon. I know first hand just how hard the not sleeping and constant screaming is

Infacol, infacol! DS had terrible wind, my letdown was rather robust shall we say... Infacol definitely helped it come up more easily. You could also try elevating the head end of the crib slightly?

Hang in there op, it sounds tough. But we are all rooting for you.

There is no clinical evidence for infacol effectiveness. In the very small studies that have been done, infacol performed as well as...not giving infacol.

It really is shocking the way the NHS website appears to endorse it as do plenty of health visitors. IMHO, babies under 6m shouldn't be given anything that isn't milk without a clear clinical indication, and that includes evidence to prove the substance actually works!

I too think it's wind. My second had terrible wind although they both had this issue. I've been there OP it's very tough particularly when number 2 is not the magical chilled baby you'd been promised

One thing I used to do was swaddle her and then put her on the boob. Sometimes it worked. White noise. Definitely try a dummy and persevere with it. Accept that your elder will be watching a lot of TV etc. Hang in there

Thank you all. I've been winding with a lot more attention and the last 2 days have been a vast improvement! Although her brother has a cold so I'm not sure if she actually has that and is sleeping it off...!

Sounds exactly like my CMPA daughter, she couldn't handle me eating dairy or soya. It took months for anyone to work out what the matter was, and I hated every second of it. Cutting dairy and soya from my diet, followed fairly swiftly by a change onto non-dairy prescription formula saved my sanity.

This was something a friend sent to me when I was having trouble in the early days when DD cried a lot. Helped to distinguish and interpret the cries of a baby. Might help X