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Do you ever look at your children, have a double take and for a split second think ...

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ghosty · 24/01/2007 19:32

"Bloody hell! Who are those children? Where is their mother? What idiot left them with me to look after?"

I do

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Blandmum · 24/01/2007 19:34

me too.

Mine are quite attractive, and I'm not and neither is dh. I don't quite know how we managed to make them!

Scootergirl · 24/01/2007 19:35

Apparently you can get a t-shirt which says "Who are these children and why are they calling me Mummy?"

marthamoo · 24/01/2007 19:36

I thought that on the first day I brought ds1 home from hospital and ten years later I'm still thinking it

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ghosty · 24/01/2007 19:40

It's kind of surreal isn't it? I mean, it doesn't see that long ago since I was in a dark corner of a cricket club, having necked the greater part of a bottle of vodka, with my tongue down some bloke's throat and then suddenly it is 12 years later and I seem to have married him and had 2 children. How did it happen? The intervening years are a blur ...

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misdee · 24/01/2007 19:42

i swear my children arent mine. in fact if i hadnt been awake during having dd3 i swear she was sparklys dd!

lulumama · 24/01/2007 19:44

used to say about DS, 'well, we know who the father is, but have no idea who the mother is!'

DD looks like me, but the smaller, cuter, version !

CorrieDale · 24/01/2007 19:57

Not only does DS look nothing like me (although I suspect his nose will grow to be like mine eventually ) but he doesn't have any of my interests and, which is more worrying, his personality is exactly like my sister's at the same age. I am already dreading the teenage years.

mumfor1standfinaltime · 24/01/2007 20:00

I do it every day!

Tonight I said to dh 'look at our little boy, just look, it's our little boy!

TinyGang · 24/01/2007 20:01

I've often expected a knock on the door and an official with a clip-board telling me there's been a terrible admin error. I mean after all, me...with kids??

essbee · 24/01/2007 20:04

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Skyler · 24/01/2007 20:04

Oh yes, I caught myself in a mirror carrying dd2 up the stairs today and just thought, what / how .

liquidclocks · 24/01/2007 20:11

surreal is definitely how it feels to me ghosy!

scootergirl - I need one of those t-shirts!

kickassangel · 24/01/2007 20:29

i very clearly remember the night that dd was born, even in my dreams they were going to take her away because she was too beautiful, and give me an ungly boy instead, because that's what 'they' had allowed me. still haven't worked out who 'they' are, but they let me keep dd.

AeFondKiss · 24/01/2007 22:24

yes ghosty

sometimes I feel a bt like they have a raw deal, me as their mammy, but in the right frame of mind, when I am not screamingly grumpy, I do enjoy them and feel very privilaged (sp)

sweetkitty · 24/01/2007 22:29

I honestly think I am so honoured and priviledged (spp) to have been given my beautiful DDs, it must have been a mistake, whether I still think this when they are teenagers only time will tell.

hunkermunker · 24/01/2007 22:30

When DS1 was eight weeks old, I dreamt that he was going to be adopted by some other people, because I had had him long enough and other people should "be allowed to see how lovely he is".

I was trying to get someone on my side, but all my family were saying the same thing - that I was being selfish wanting to keep him

I woke up sobbing - I'd been crying in my sleep!

He was fast asleep next to me, all mine, forever.

Quite how he's nearly three now, and I have another DS as well, I don't know. I am still about 15, wanting to go out, get drunk and snog boys. But I shan't

eidsvold · 24/01/2007 22:31

yes - especially as they look so much like dh - blonde blue eyed babes whilst I am dark with brown eyes.

Well ghosty mine is even shorter than that - dh and I have only been together 5 1/2 years and have 2 dds and one on the way - does seem to have happened so fast and is very surreal at times.

Also being the tired hot grump that I am at the moment - think they deserve a 'lovely' mummy not a hot tired hormonal pregnant lump

AeFondKiss · 24/01/2007 22:35

aww hunker that was a lovely post,

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ghosty · 24/01/2007 22:41

Hunker, when DS was a baby I used to be convinced that someone would knock on the door and say, "Well, it's time he went back to his real mother now! Thanks for looking after him!" ....

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saadia · 24/01/2007 22:47

I sometimes look at them and think "who are you?", because I know there is a part of them that is just themselves and nothing to do with me.

ledodgy · 24/01/2007 22:52

Yes often. Although I did it when they were both newborns it seems even stranger when they get older and become real little people it still makes my stomach turn in a nice way of course.

Bekks · 24/01/2007 22:55

Yep, if it was the other way round I was her dad I would be asking who the father was...he maintains that it is his superior genes that has made her nothing like me. Still, she is quite stroppy and stubborn....

2nervesleft · 24/01/2007 22:57

My DD has aways been a mini-me, she looks like me and behaves as I did. But my DS looks like DD but not me IYSWIM and is nothing like me at all. I look into his big brown eyes and think who are you? It has been a bit of a shock to me to have this alien in my home.

Not sure I should be solely in charge of them though. I still worry I will forget to pick up DD from school and am usually first mum in the yard as a result.

tigertum · 24/01/2007 23:09

ghosty, had to lol at your post. It reminded me of something. When DS was a newborn, I had a moment of 'what if there was a mix up and he's not mine'. There was a woman on the ward with the same surname as me who gave birth on the same night, we both would have had 'baby price' tags on our babies - and the NHS is so shit... Off I went down this nutty thought train for a good few minutes and in the end, I had to deliberately look at DS's first photo - to check he looked the same enough. How nutty is that?

Not as bad however as this woman in a magazine. She went into early labour in the night whilst pregnant with twins. Her waters broke while she was on the loo and she heard a massive 'plop'. The ambulance came and she was hysterical with fear that she's lost one down the toilet (they were prem). She insisted on them taking the toilet apart. Even having given birth to two small yet healthy babies, she admitted having the odd, niggling worry that perhaps it had been triplets and she'd lost on down the toilet.

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ghosty · 24/01/2007 23:15

What is also surreal to me is when my children do something or behave in a particularly brilliant way ...

For example, at the weekend we were away and DS (7) was meeting lots of people - being introduced to them ...
Every time someone took his hand to shake it he looked up with a bright smile on his face and said "Hello" with such charm ...

I would look at him and think, "Wow! What a handsome, lovely, polite boy!" and then do this double take and think, "Fuck me, he's my handsome, lovely, polite boy ... "
It seriously does my head in ... I am sure I haven't taught him any of that

(Of course, he isn't perfect and am not boasting ...he can be bloody awful more often than not but at times he takes my breath away!)

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