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do you check on your children every night before you go to bed?

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mistressmiggins · 23/01/2007 22:19

I do...

my ex had the kids at the weekend & DD (2 1/2) told me shed been sick in her bed while away

I wrongly assumed she was making it up as exH had said nothing, but have just emailed him and he said that yes she was sick on Sat night but he didnt find it til Sund morning

I check every night b4 I go to bed & I know that ex doesn as he never did when we lived together

DD had suspected mengititus at 1 1/2 & only reason they rushed her into hospital was cos I checked her b4 I went to bed & called ambulance

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Kittypickle · 23/01/2007 22:33

Yes always. It is lighter in DD's room so I can see immediately that she is fine, DS is harder to see so he gets a gentle prod until he stirs slightly.

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mistressmiggins · 23/01/2007 22:34

I was more checking that I wasnt over protective

like I said, exH never did when we were together even when I was out all evening or overnight so dont expect miracles but he is 100% responsible when they are at his

I wasnt saying kids arent sick AFTER being checked

I KNOW he wouldnt have checked though

DD is not a sickly child BUT when gets very upset, seems to be sick so I guess makes me worry that she was upset at his & noone noticed/bothered

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lucykate · 23/01/2007 22:37

i check on them 2-3 times of an evening, again when i go to bed, and also if i'm up in the night i'll check then too. the vomiting in the night thing is scary, even with all my checking, dd has done that.

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pianist · 23/01/2007 22:39

I check on my children every night - they're 10 and 7. I tuck them in and remove books/toys/cushions from the bed so that they can sleep comfortably. DH has never done this.

Troutpout · 23/01/2007 22:47

dd ...most nights
ds ...never...he wakes to easily and struggles with getting back to sleep

WigWamBam · 23/01/2007 22:55

Bad mummy alert ...

I never check on dd, and I never have done. She is a light sleeper, easily woken, and if I woke her up checking on her she would (a) have difficulty getting back to sleep again, (b) be grouchy and over-tired the following morning, and (c) ensure that no-one else got any sleep either.

The dividing wall between her room and ours is thin, we can hear her, and she knows she can always call us or come to us if she's ill or needs us in any way.

I hasten to add that I am not defending your ex in any way, shape or form ... but it's not something that we do.

Mistymoo · 23/01/2007 22:58

Wigwambam - was beginning to think I was a rare breed.

tinkerbellie · 23/01/2007 22:59

exactly we daredn't even turn the bathroom light on or flush the toilet in fear of waking our two up!!

kid · 23/01/2007 23:00

I check on both DC before I go to bed.
If they are ill or have a temperature, I tend to check on them during the night providing I wake up that is.

PinkTulips · 23/01/2007 23:00

yep, every night unless i fall asleep early feeding ds... then dp checks on her. not that does much good though, she had vomit in her hair and all over her pillow the other morning and when i mentioned it to dp he said 'oh, so thats why she was crying.... i went in and checked but she seemed fine' he's also been known to try and lie her back down in a puddle where her nappy has leaked as he 'didn't notice'

WigWamBam · 23/01/2007 23:01

Nah, Misty ... you're in good company

hana · 23/01/2007 23:03

of course
fix covers
kiss them
sometimes speak to them too!
mad

hana · 23/01/2007 23:04

well, of course not mad

hunkermunker · 23/01/2007 23:04

I sometimes check DS1 (more recently ) and always check DS2 - but that's because he's in our bedroom!

nappyaddict · 23/01/2007 23:05

i don't always check on ds. i normally remember just as i've got in to bed that i haven't and then i can't be bothered to get back out again don't usually check on him when i get up to go to the loo either.

Peridot30 · 23/01/2007 23:10

I check on my 2 a few times during the evening, then before i go to bed and also if i wake up during the night. Think ijust do it out of habit. NOt because im a paranoid mother.

eidsvold · 23/01/2007 23:20

either dh or I do - always check before we go to bed.

jennifersofia · 23/01/2007 23:21

Yes I do. I never used to because I was afraid of waking them up, but then started and realised that they don't wake up. I am soooo glad I do - it is my time to realise that I do have the most beautiful gems in the world. I like going to bed feeling rich.

kathryn77 · 23/01/2007 23:22

I check on DS about every hour. ANd always check on him before bed, and give him a xx

i agree, you can die from inhaling sick and DS is most precious thing ever, and important to check.

Maybe i am over cautios - but better safe than sorry in my books
x

BadHair · 23/01/2007 23:23

Yes, check both dses, give them a kiss and tuck them in before I go to bed. Couldn't sleep if I didn't.

margo1974 · 23/01/2007 23:26

no - does that mean i am a bad mum?

Albert · 23/01/2007 23:28

Yep, every night even though he's almost 7, I just can't sleep if I haven't made sure he's OK.

kitbit · 23/01/2007 23:33

yeeees always! I love creeping into his room and hearing him breathing softly and looking at his little eyelashes on his cheeks ! He is also quite a wriggler so I often pull the covers back up over him and tuck him back in, or put a sock back on if a little bare foot is poking out. It's like locking the house up and checking on the cats, it makes me feel as though the day is over, all is well and everyone is safe and comfy.

MamaMaiasaura · 23/01/2007 23:37

Every night before I settle to sleep, if I wake up in the night for loo I check too.

He is nearly 7 too but tbh I willo problably always look in on him (obv when he is alot older he will probably be going to bed later than me so I wont then, or if he had girlfriend staying )

makealist · 23/01/2007 23:44

Yes, everynight.

If for some reason I forget, I lie in bed unable to sleep until I get up and give them both a kiss and whisper "love you" to them.
Ds1 will be 16 in a few weeks, and most days all we seem to do is argue, he rarely speaks to me, just grunts...he's a right Kevin.
Yet often when I give him his goodnight kiss he will stir and mumble "luv ya" back and for them few seconds I have my son back again.