Not enjoying the newborn stage

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So does anyone else not enjoy a newborn?
I have a 5 week old dd who I love to bits but I just don't enjoy this stage. I was the same with dd1 who us now 4 years. I didn't start enjoying her until she was 5 months onwards. First time around it was such a shock being a new mum plus she had colic that I almost didn't have anymore. But as time went on I enjoyed being a mum more and more.
At the moment I just feel like I'm a feeding burping rocking machine and feel like I'm neglecting my 4 year old.
I know it will get better but I just want time to hurry up. We aren't in any kind of routine which is to be expected at this stage but I can't wait until she's a toddler. Some people may think I'm mad but I like interacting more. Plus it will be nice when I can take them both to the park etc. right now I'm scared to go anywhere with the two of them without dh to lend a hand.

I genuinely hated every moment of newborn stage. I had an amazing pregnancy & couldn't wait for my "bundle of joy" that I had desperately wanted (lone parent by choice etc ....)

So you can imagine the shit I was given from people when I would be open & honest about my feelings.

"Well you chose this, you wanted it, blah blah"

But nothing. NOTHING prepares you for this.

My DS 2.7 is a little person now and a delight (with some hideous terrible twos going on)

No one should feel shame, guilt or embarrassed. I went into severe PND because I just felt so guilty. But 2 years on and life couldn't be better.

Hang in there, make as many friends as you can, take a break (if you get the chance) and most of all, well done, well done for creating he greatest thing in the world "life"

I hate the newborn stage, ds is 4 and it's what has stopped me having any more, I just don't enjoy it

Agreed MagicMonkeys

Totally agree! Whenever me and DH are honest with others about how shit the last 6 months have been, we get awful reactions. I too felt so guilty, as after 2 miscarriages I felt that I should be extra happy to have a baby, but in fact it was awful. I have come to realise that most people just don't like other folk being honest about their feelings - much easier just to have a British stiff upper lip. Sad really.

I've enjoyed the new born stage a lot more than I thought I would. But to be honest I was dreading it so much and expecting the worst while I was pregnant that it ended up being better than I thought. It helps that my partner is working part time so I get a lot of help - actually makes a massive difference!